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Once upon a time there was a man who wanted to learn to dance. He felt that this would be a way to attract a woman who fit his dream ideals. So he set about learning every nuance of dance. The name of every step and technique. All the proper forms. Every obsessive detail accumulated to create the required framework for the perfect dance partner. And in his quest for the perfect dance partner, he would insist on that same knowledge and adherence to an obsessive degree. When attending dances and trying to mingle, he would often lecture about the correct and proper etiquette for a dance partner. And then one day he realized that all of the desirable women had drifted away. They had paired with others who had come to enjoy themselves without obsessive adherence to perfect forms and protocols. It suddenly dawned on him that he'd spent so much time talking about the perfect dance partner that he'd never actually done much dancing. And the meek inner voice that he'd hid from for so long whispered the reality that perhaps he'd hidden behind the search for an ideal in order to mask his insecurity in his own abilities. He could see now that the women around him had chosen those who hadn't forgot why they came to the dance. Each comfortable in their imperfections and uncaring about proper etiquette and protocols. Each enjoying the interaction and depth of dancing without obsessing about how. And thus ends today's lesson. If you haven't connected the obvious dots then it's about idiots with obsessive protocol expectations. Those who think they are beacons and gatekeepers on the path of the one true way. Those so obsessively entangled in the expectations of exactly how to do something that they never actually do much of anything. Sometimes not only can't we see the forest through all the trees but we also forget why we came to the forest to begin with  ..
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Love it! When it is possible to meet in face to face situations I have rarely found that "protocol" is the barrier it seems to be online. Any time you want to put some music on, I would be happy to dance along or watch you loose yourself to the moment.
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Such wisdom, I wonder how it came to be.
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3/8/2022 3:51 am |
Ty for the post
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Well put.
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It's about idiots with obsessive protocol expectations. Those who think they are beacons and gatekeepers on the path of the one true way. What a great analogy you've drawn .... a parable of sorts. The 'one true way' ... LOL. Far too many have all the answers, don't they? Make Women Female Again
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well written
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good point. No true way exists in the first place. Specially with dancing, I was often pushed to go to "competitive" dance exhibitions, I abhorred participating in them with dance studios. There may be some general guidelines for dancing but i sure despised structured dancing; It was not enjoyable to me. This is not a performance like in a musical play where it is choreographed. "One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"
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Your wisdom was well earned. Now, can you apply it yourself for the rest of your life?
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Great analogy and wise words.. something to think about.
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very true
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Very well put. You are right there are so many out there who think their way, is the only way. When in fact there are many paths, & as long as people are having fun & enjoying each other, that is the main thing.
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The protocols do have their place but a constant reminder only serves to push people away. Such a good post!
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well written post points are on real meet and building confidence to explore under dominance of right one, welcome on dance floor !
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