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First time hook up. Who pays? It is what it is. |
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3/12/2022 3:27 am |
I think it should be who ever instigates the meet.
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While discussing it first has its merits, I would pay, as the Master, just as I would buy the drinks or coffee or dinner for a first public meeting. You're playing, I feel the Dominant should take the responsibility. Of course, finances of the relationship, should have been discussed long before playing.
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3/12/2022 5:51 pm |
Do the Rembrandt thing.
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Dom could before hand casually say "ill get the room". That is the opening for a discussion.
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Do the Rembrandt thing.
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Do the Rembrandt thing. whether he is the sub or dom. xx
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It should initially fall on the responsibility of the person who suggested meeting in said motel first. I have had several 'married men' suggest it, and then say to me, book the hotel for me darling..... I am like, its your idea, i ain't putting the expense on my credit card just because your wife does the household finances each month There best 'I am fake and heres how I confirm it' line is, I'll arrange a hotel and get back to you with the details.........days pass, weeks, then a month or so later they contact you again, and they talk to you like its the first time they've ever spoken to you...........the men on this site are specifically fans of that approach. Once a hotel has been arranged and confirmed (ring ahead just to make sure they aren't pissing you about), then you can offer to contribute to the cost.
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3/17/2022 5:44 am |
Being the "First Time Play" it's the Master/Mistress's responsibility!
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Whomever is in charge should always be paying. Even if a submissive/slave were to suggest a meeting, the decision ultimately is mine. I also pay for the meals we share, and the entertainment we enjoy. Everything , every time. If a can't pay for a "motel" room and a meal, perhaps I'd need to re-examine my station. Feels wrong just thinking about requiring a subordinate/subservient to pay my way. Along those lines, I also do not accept gifts.
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3/21/2022 8:20 am |
Elle paie un homme, un vrai homme qui la satisfait et la fait bien s'amuser Et le plus beau c'est que le sexe vient du fond du coeur
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discuss it first
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3/22/2022 6:38 am |
they want me so they pay
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Motels and hotels are gross.
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The dom, it’s the right thing to do, after all, leaders always take charge
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1 post 3/24/2022 3:02 am |
I do... And glad to do so...
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Pays for WHAT? (assuming 1 on 1, not group). 1. The patient always pays the counselor. 2. Prior to consent, people operate as equals. They should meet first in public, and pay for food equally. (a) if long distance -- they should cover their own expenses to travel mid-way & rent separate rooms. Private interaction should be in the room of the person taking the superior role. If staying at different establishments, the person taking the inferior role should have their car at that location and be prepared to quickly leave. (b) If local -- Private interaction should be at the abode of the person taking the superior role. The person taking the inferior role should have their car at that location and be prepared to quickly leave. Via my handle ALDOMPDX, I communicate on the usual daught calm places.
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Dinner is usually on me......or in me. 
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Pre plan that all out, Motels are fairly cheap for the night either way so it should be an easy pay either way.
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I personaly would pay if I was staying there anyway, I wouldn't ask for a chip in, and agree with oddboyt.
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5/23/2022 7:25 am |
I may be old fashioned, but I believe that the man should always pay. Not matter what from the dinner, to drinks, to a hotel room, to any props and or toys you two decide are a must. Not only do I believe a man should pay… I am secretly grading what he does and does not buy. Flowers are extra credit points. Even more soo if they are favorites of mine and/or go with a theme.
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1 post 5/25/2022 2:53 pm |
Hook up implies two or more agreeable on the meet up to hook so some kind of light agreement should be on the table unless hooking up at parking lot, vehicle, outside, destination talk about? Hooking up is just meeting in person to move forward on mutual feelings that are new due to human contact.
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6/2/2022 5:57 am |
definitely discuss first
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7/5/2023 8:53 am |
I believe the Dom should pay for dinner, drinks and the hotel. Besides if the first meeting during drinks and dinner does not go well then no hotel all works out in the end. Smiles
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7/31/2023 8:27 am |
Good answer pinch smiling
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