Blog : Equality

668 posts
12/13/2022 8:30 am

Equality

It is the wanting and the needing
of expectations that makes
Dominants and submissives equal.
It never ceases to amaze me that those
who look down on someone for their
particular bent in the lifestyle (Top or bottom)
or feel that Dominant equals better and
submissive equals less. Each person in
whatever type of relationship you have
with anyone you are involved with has
a set of expectations, a set of rules and
a set of priorities we recognize about
each other. The D/s relationship is no
different. Now I have heard the argument,
“I am the Dom, so I set the rules, the
expectations and the priorities”. Well
good for you, don’t all of us Doms do that?
Yes, but only the foolish don’t realize we
can only set these rules and expectations
and priorities to a partner who as an equal
has her own set of rules, expectations and
priorities she needs. As much as a Dominant
expects a submissive to follow their concepts
of rules, expectations and priorities, a
Dominant must be willing to do likewise
for a submissive. Both partners need
something within a relationship. Yes a
submissive wants to have rules and
sets of priorities and expectations set
for them, but they also have some needs
of their own that a Dominant needs to fill.
Before we go stroking our egos thinking,
“yeah they need us”, let us not forget we
want/need them as much as they do us.
Take time to actually ask what they want
to do once in awhile, or better yet get to
know your partner so well that you don’t
have to ask, you can just do
To both Dominants and submissives a piece of advice:
want your partner to make you happy and do all that
they can to nurture you?
Give more and take less.

uncommon1 66M

1450 posts
12/13/2022 8:33 am

Plural expectations.

drmgirl622 68F

26140 posts
12/13/2022 9:11 am

It is truly a shared relationship......

Rowena_H_of_A 39F

366 posts
12/13/2022 9:44 am

I would think, both are opposites, what one needs the other has or gives, it is up to them to decide for themselves how deeply they want this to be. I do not know this, yet, but feel that a D/s can be a completion of what they both seek, need, crave. Without one the other is only half

kajira belongs fully to Master Adomis4u2

uncommon1 replies on 12/13/2022 10:18 am:
In reality there is
a level at which two
become one. One need,
one heart, one focus.

manni_pr 52T

2609 posts
12/13/2022 12:16 pm

Absolutely. The good D/s relationship is born of a wicked good symbiosis.


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