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How to dress... it isnt so simple.. I'm sure I'm not the only one who wonders how to dress for a bdsm session. It seems obvious because bdsm has a certain style, but still. Probably a typical session taking place in a dungeon somewhere is a tight latex that strongly shows the shape of the body, acting as a magnet and arousing considerable excitement in the dominant. As for the gag in the mouth.. handcuffs, showing my helplessness and at the same time readiness for rought sexual use.. his domination and fulfilling the most perverse whims.. Maybe leather instead of latex... isn't it the case that leather clothes are more for dominant women and latex for submissive women? Isn't a real dominatrix associated with a woman wearing a leather outfit holding a whip in her hand? On the other hand, for familiarization meetings, a red provocative dress, strong make-up, which is also an indispensable element of this lifestyle, and preferably a bracelet with a typical sign of belonging to this lifestyle. What is your opinion? |
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i think, only naked is the best
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I love this question and you are right it is not easy. Splitting it into three key areas: * Initial contact / welfare * Club / Dungeon night * Scene with a partner For me Initial contact meetings have always been important; it is a chance for the submissive and I to get to know one another. I want her to be comfortable as we will need to start to share to build a relationship. For some this means wearing comfortable fleece clothing, for others something that shows a little daring. The key is for her to feel safe enough to be open in discussion enabling us to gain a connection. Club/Dungeon nights... dress code may be prescribed at the club in question; in which case follow their rules. Otherwise the sub really should wear something that compliments her figure and be mindful that what works in bright like may not work well in the subdued lighting in many a club. Latex works *very* well for me, but it has its own challenges; I am not aware of any slave that can get in and out of a catsuit quickly, comfort breaks or access to play may be facilitated by something open crotch, or (my favourite) a skin tight latex mini dress. If you are going to wear latex in public accept you will not be wearing underwear and embrace the fact your body will most definitely be appreciated; even if you are not drawn to the person doing the appreciation. Scene wear - needs to align to the scene; there are times when very vanilla clothing in quite extreme scenes works *really* well; but the whole raft of fetish wear can be employed. Personally, I love it when an obedient girl turns up wearing my collar and a raincoat only; we can quickly have her nude either in public or in more discrete circumstances. In a club high heels / thigh high boots work well, in a scene bare feet and perfectly pedicured toes works better, especially when out somewhere public. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. MBD
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Unfortunately you will hear this same unimaginative answer from many males: naked. And you are right, there are many options. If you have no partner you go there with, go with what you feel most comfortable with and what underlines your attractiveness.
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Hello, I think that completely naked is the best dressing because arousing considerable excitement in the Dominant. With handcuffs, showing helplessness and at the same time readiness for rought sexual use.. Her domination and fulfilling the most perverse whims. And, of course, a bracelet with a typical sign of belonging to the Dominant. Best regards
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How about you tell us a little more about what *you* are comfortable to wear in those circumstances. "Wearing latex" encompasses many things; do you have an item / items you would like to wear? that you have worn? or that are complete no-go's for you? Have you worn a gag in public? if so what style, how did you feel when it was put on? Did you put it on or did someone else? What style of restraints works best for you? Leaather? Steel? simple handcuffs or something more intricate? MBD
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I've always thought a cotton tee shirt, dress pants, & high healed open toed dress shoes are best for a first meet. (No bra)
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I've always thought a cotton tee shirt, dress pants, & high healed open toed dress shoes are best for a first meet. (No bra)  MBD
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5/3/2023 5:49 am |
How about you tell us a little more about what *you* are comfortable to wear in those circumstances. "Wearing latex" encompasses many things; do you have an item / items you would like to wear? that you have worn? or that are complete no-go's for you? Have you worn a gag in public? if so what style, how did you feel when it was put on? Did you put it on or did someone else? What style of restraints works best for you? Leaather? Steel? simple handcuffs or something more intricate? MBD A red provocative dress is something I like to wear to parties, such an outfit gives me a sense of freedom, freedom of thinking. It is an outfit that will not trigger my inner desires. However, when it comes to latex, I feel completely different in it, constrained, thoughtless and submissive and passive. I involuntarily becomes the object, feeling the eyes of all the dominant men on me. As I have already been exposed to several latexparties, I know perfectly well the feeling of magnifying all of the above by wearing a collar. The collar itself causes a feeling of submission that I cannot resist. The gag in my mouth, on the other hand, makes me a mindless sex object to satisfy male perversions. Personally, I've never worn a gag in public.
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Hm...assorted lingerie w GB & THs costumes leather latex wear w assorted boots or F-me heels is appropriate dress in my world!
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Of course, depending on the situation: A red provocative dress is something I like to wear to parties, such an outfit gives me a sense of freedom, freedom of thinking. It is an outfit that will not trigger my inner desires. However, when it comes to latex, I feel completely different in it, constrained, thoughtless and submissive and passive. I involuntarily becomes the object, feeling the eyes of all the dominant men on me. As I have already been exposed to several latexparties, I know perfectly well the feeling of magnifying all of the above by wearing a collar. The collar itself causes a feeling of submission that I cannot resist. The gag in my mouth, on the other hand, makes me a mindless sex object to satisfy male perversions. Personally, I've never worn a gag in public. Unable to attach a pic currently, but I would love to see you in a barely there red latex micro dress; you would get the benefit of the red dress and the constraint of latex at the same time. If we put you in a ring-gag, the red-latex dress and a suitably robust collar... it will make for a fabulous shopping trip to get your groceries... MBD
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Upon meeting a new 'friend' we both had said no expectations although she had indicated she wanted it to be spontaneous if something were to come of it. We met for lunch at a wonderful old restaurant with big round booths and white tablecloths. I wore my business suit having come from work. She arrived in a very conservative outfit in grey and a white silk blouse. Behind the long tablecloth she very quickly revealed her black nylons. She had dressed to reflect a straight laced lady and here she was being a hot little slut upon meeting. The point here is, dress as you choose and let there be some element of surprise to the adventure of the first, or next, meeting. Another time I was very specific as to what I expected and she arrived in jeans and a bulky sweater. Later I discovered she had worn what I had asked, under the outfit. It did warrant a spanking but then that is what she was seeking.
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5/3/2023 6:38 am |
Well if you have *never* worn a gag in public then that is something we would *have* to change sooner rather than later... Unable to attach a pic currently, but I would love to see you in a barely there red latex micro dress; you would get the benefit of the red dress and the constraint of latex at the same time. If we put you in a ring-gag, the red-latex dress and a suitably robust collar... it will make for a fabulous shopping trip to get your groceries... MBD The ring gag, on the other hand, is a symbol of perversion, of using someone's mouth.. If I went shopping like that... to a grocery store... I could end up with something other than vegetable in my mouth..
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Typical gag in my opinion is like a symbol of silence of course except for the symbol of submission. The ring gag, on the other hand, is a symbol of perversion, of using someone's mouth.. If I went shopping like that... to a grocery store... I could end up with something other than vegetable in my mouth.. It would also be a bold statement to have you wear one so openly in a public location, especially if you were in a latex dress and collar. At that point no one is going to look at you as a nice and innocent young lady.... they will see your inner perversions on display. Would you like to have no choice about things other than vegetables being put in your mouth? MBD
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5/3/2023 7:08 am |
That is definitely the advantage of a ring gag, it leaves a girls mouth open and inviting. It would also be a bold statement to have you wear one so openly in a public location, especially if you were in a latex dress and collar. At that point no one is going to look at you as a nice and innocent young lady.... they will see your inner perversions on display. Would you like to have no choice about things other than vegetables being put in your mouth? MBD
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That is what I would like the sub/slave to wear when we meet
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I don't even have any illusions that dressing in latex, additionally wearing collars and a ring-gag, makes me a sexual object for perverted guys, probably even more or rather less... a sex toy for perverse use... and I definitely wouldn't have had any influence or choice on what I would put in my mouth, or rather what would be shoved.. Required to present so blatantly in clothing, restraints and a collar that tells anyone that looks that you are available and needing the attention of those who look on... Feel free to message me on my blog mistress_black_d if you want to share contact information for a private discussion; or we can continue this in public... Just like you would be in the grocery store....
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I love the fully dressed.....much more fun pealing away each small layer and leaving it all in disarray on the the body to start with.  
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I like the collar and raincoat idea, that's awesome. Just my personal taste, I love lace and satin, etc., they're beautiful and worn in just the right amount, very erotic. Silky thigh highs are a must any time.
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5/4/2023 8:40 am |
So no illusion and no choice. Required to present so blatantly in clothing, restraints and a collar that tells anyone that looks that you are available and needing the attention of those who look on... Feel free to message me on my blog mistress_black_d if you want to share contact information for a private discussion; or we can continue this in public... Just like you would be in the grocery store.... Of course, I will gladly see your blog, maybe this time I will show you a different perspective.
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At a BDSM affair I prefer a woman in out-of-character attire that is chique and alluring, worn without underwear. This could range from the little black dress to a sexy wrap with numerous openings for access. In a setting where every other woman is trying to be in character, the woman in an outwardly normal and stylish but covertly whispering '"take me" dress stands out and becomes counter-intuitively intriguing and desirable.
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I think this depends so much on the individual and the circumstance. A first meeting; something that you're comfortable and confident in - that ought always to be the case (unless you're wanting to feel uncomfortable and self-conscious) I do have a liking for decorous on the outside, decadent beneath
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thanks, I try to be open to different concepts and interpretations, after all, this is what this blog is for. For now, I have one and rather permanent image of myself, but as you can see, there are people here who can look at me from a different perspective, I'm surprised myself how many things I don't see. Of course, I will gladly see your blog, maybe this time I will show you a different perspective. It is good to have a strong centre from where you can explore. MBD
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5/16/2023 12:52 am |
simple and sexy
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5/19/2023 4:36 pm |
The red dress and you will capture the attention of any room you enter
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1 post 5/20/2023 12:48 pm |
The clothes that a submissive wears, for me preferable, in a session, would be that she wear only fine black lingerie, black stockings with garter belts, elegant high-heeled shoes in a color to match the rest. It should appear covered in a dark cloak, which will keep it warm and completely envelop it until it is time to remove it. The hair, either collected in a bun or loose. The color of the underwear would also depend on the tastes of both the Dom and the submissive.
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