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Slave? Sub? Pet? Alright, let's break it down: "Slave" is a person who has surrendered their personal property and freedoms to another, who has become the property or chattel of their owner. "Submissive" is more like a group of folks who are cool with giving up some control in their relationships. And then there's "Pet" – it is something like a slave in training. Now, about how these roles can change in a BDSM relationship over time – it's a pretty interesting topic! Can someone start off as a sub and end up feeling more like a pet? I think it is totally possible! Relationships grow and change, and so do the dynamics within them. For example, a sub (like me) might find themselves enjoying aspects of pet play, getting into character and receiving extra care from their master. Or maybe a slave starts feeling more comfortable expressing their desires and boundaries, blurring the lines a bit between submission and something else. The key here is communication and trust. Have you ever explored different roles within your relationships, BDSM or otherwise, and how did those experiences shape your understanding of yourself and your connections with others? |
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Sexy girl you are dead right in that relationships can change, and that honest open communication are an essential aspect of those relationships. But having been in this lifestyle for over 40 years, I don't think a pet is a trainee slave. You are right in that as a slave, you have handed over your control and rights willingly to another, although slavery is not a legally recognised relationship in any jurisdiction other than perhaps in some African countries or maybe even in some middle eastern nations, and that you can walk out at any time. As a sub you have the same rights. I don't recognise a pet as a separate category, it is just a method in which either category can be treated. However, every dynamic comes down to AGREED conditions for it to work, and for some, being a pet may be part of that.
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honesty and open communication Hello
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2/20/2024 7:24 am |
saying the Key is communication and trust says it all.
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Changing roles over time is something very normal i think. I started in a just submissive role in the beginning and it developed over time and became more. At some point i really did the step and accepted myself as his slave. But i also know the other way, in my second relationship i started as slave and he gave me more and more freedom and expected more and more self-reliance from me ... so at some point i was submissive but not really his slave anymore.
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All relationships, vanilla or kink based will change/evolve over time. Specially if there is a free exchange of thought, ideas, i.e. communication and a buildup of trust. They will become stale/static at points. It is up to one if not both parties to express the need for activities to keep things fresh and vibrant.Nothing wrong with developing routines and a way of living that is comfortable of course. But if one gets bored, it is their responsibility to express a need to refresh things. Not the other(s) in a relationship. Don't depend on others to keep things dynamic. "One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"
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