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Is it too much to ask? for the complete package? |
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He doesn't have to have the physique of an Adonis, or Henry Cavill's jawline. Just someone who puts in some effort. Someone who wants to be a part of my life, and have me as part of his. Fun, frolic and adventures, paired with laundry, paying bills and running errands. Painting the bathroom. Who likes good wine and better conversation. Who is smart and funny and appreciates the same in his partner. Well traveled would be outstanding, but it's hardly a deal breaker. Who doesn't mistake playfulness for disrespect. Who can fuck me stupid, but doesn't want me to stay there. Someone who likes a good cuddle on the couch AND has rope skills. Someone who wants to be my friend, lover and confidant. Who thinks emotional support is just as important part of this lifestyle as whips and handcuffs. Someone I can trust with ALL of me. Someone who uses complete sentences to communicate. You would think, that since communication is such a HUGE part of D/s, that a Dom with nothing to say more than "hi" in an introductory email, or is equally as reticent in his responses to blog posts would be a red flag, no? Say something ffs! Maybe you Dom's are tired of putting in the effort to compose an email that goes unanswered, or get's a rude response, or your just putting out feelers, but god damn it's disheartening. Apparently this IS too much to ask for.
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4/11/2021 8:39 pm |
If you're looking for someone that can write a complete sentence here. You might be pushing the envelope. I'm curious to know if you got those boots and if they are working out for you. Don't be in a hurry to find someone. You'll find that right connection.
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No, it is not too much to ask - and not just because you deserve to get what you want, but also because such a partner will get what they want as well, it seems to me.
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rayne I don;t think you are asking for too much except maybe rope and painting skills! ( I am NOT offering for obvious reasons but I lack both of these) My point is that I agree the ability to be sexually compatible as well mentally are vital, we may have to allow some slack on our "wish list" A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw Jenny
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I have to say this works in the other direction as well. I am growing old entertaining submissive ladies while looking for one that wants more than just the BDSM skills. It is not too dissimilar to finding a vanilla partner. Kiss the frogs and keep looking.
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It's not too much to ask but i've learned not to expect too much from people because one usually gets disappointed in the end.
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Here in the Transcendental Transport Ship we plug those specification into Robbie the Robot's Replicator and Like magic we get something. Just not sure if it really matches the spercifactions. "One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"
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4/12/2021 5:26 am |
Communication is the answer
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4/12/2021 7:12 am |
Your request/desire is not at all too much to ask for. You know what you want, it's a mixed blessing in some regards. Important to remember, we adapt within a relationship, learn and grow, therefore someone may not tick all the boxes initially but the potential is to be recognised.
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Of course not. I have standards of my own. Howling at the moon and mal ad osteo.
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No it's not too much to ask, at least it shouldn't be. If they open with just "Hi," then that would make me question if they were real. Surely a real Dom would put in more effort than that? But then I think there are an awful lot of guys on here that just claim to be Dom, because they think it's an easy way to make demands & get what they want. (Lazy). " Who can fuck me stupid, but doesn't want me to stay there." Thats a great line. 
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Soft Rayne, It is not too much to ask for, but does require a level of commitment from your partner to be fully involved in your relationship. It is much easier to say "hey" or a similar hello and not be intellectually involved or committed. We are all in the texting mode of using quick abbreviations to express ourselves instead of fully committing to fully explaining ourselves. A true relationship is where one can anticipate our partners thoughts and feeling, but this takes caring and understanding our partners needs and not just considering our own actions. There are those that truly care.
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LOL what's a complete package????
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