1825 posts 6/23/2021 6:26 pm
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She Is
I need no other identity besides self
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3088 posts 6/23/2021 6:27 pm |
Powerful.
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26107 posts 6/23/2021 6:35 pm |
You are so right, girlfriend ! 
softrayne replies on 6/24/2021 6:50 am:
Yes queen! *nods* I love how this takes the whole patriarchal default, and sets it on it's ass. |
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6/23/2021 6:35 pm
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She can and should be no one but herself.
softrayne replies on 6/24/2021 6:51 am:
Hi max. Of course she shouldn't. But she also should not rely on her relationships to define who she is. |
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19838 posts 6/23/2021 6:44 pm |
Truth.
 Ars longa, vita brevis - Art is long, life is short  
softrayne replies on 6/24/2021 6:57 am:
Lady, always lovely to see you here. It's interesting to me how the women seem to get this more than the men. Of course we should ALL be ourselves, but there is a tendency in today's society to fall back on the patriarchal default. That a woman can't just be SOMEONE, she has to be defined by her relationships to others. Take catcalling-in order to get that to stop, the play would be-hey man, don't talk to her like that, that's someone's (fill in the blank) as opposed to, hey man don't talk to her like that because she is a living, thinking human being who deserves your respect regardless of her relationship to someone else (intuitively male). |
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6/23/2021 9:53 pm
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Anonymity can be a warm blanket. If I need my Identity. I just use my drivers license. If you're nice, you might able to call me sweet potato. What's in a name.
softrayne replies on 6/24/2021 6:59 am:
Well hello sweet potato, *giggles*. I think the point of the post is that women need no relationship identifier besides self. |
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90348 posts 6/23/2021 11:12 pm |
rayne
This is so true!! We can only be ourselves!
A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw
Jenny
softrayne replies on 6/26/2021 2:35 pm:
Yes jen, and ourselves, as just as ourselves, should be enough. |
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5764 posts 6/24/2021 7:44 am |
So very true words, Rayne. It happens sometimes that trying to please others, having so many roles in our lives.. we forget about ourselves, who we are, what we need, what we want... and thank you for your kind words the other day, Rayne...
softrayne replies on 6/26/2021 2:39 pm:
Hello Ex, thank you for stopping in and commenting. I feel such a connection with you, it pleases me to no end to hear your thoughts. Especially as women-who are taught to be "pleasers", it's all to common to put ones own self at the bottom of the list. Lest we be thought, brash, or bitchy or selfish. I can only hope that we as women can take up more space in the future, without being labeled negatively for it. Be well dear. |
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143 posts 6/24/2021 6:58 pm |
We are all individuals with our own strengths and weaknesses. We don't need qualifiers.
softrayne replies on 6/26/2021 2:42 pm:
Hi Brucinda, thank you for stopping in and commenting *smiles* yes, you are 100% correct, we don't need qualifiers, yet women I think are described with qualifiers all the time. Yes, "we've come a long way baby" but the fact that they're still calling us "baby" means we still have a long way to go *L* |
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99 posts 6/28/2021 4:55 pm |
Thank you Softrayne for this brief but so extended thought on the role of women in this society and how they want to their life and sexuality be recognized and fulfilled to their utmost expectations. It is always a pleasure to check and read your blog. Have a wonderful evening.
softrayne replies on 6/29/2021 5:33 pm:
Thank you Fabiano, your kind words touch my heart. *smiles* I wish upon you a most wonderful evening as well. |
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31 posts 7/23/2021 5:45 pm |
We are!
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