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Why is it so hard? *confusedandmaybeunlikablerayne* |
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To say: “Hey, I like you. Let’s explore a monogamous relationship” “Hey, I like you. Your chatting with other Doms upsets me” “Hey, I like you. Let’s start off casual, but with an eye towards a future relationship” “Hey, I like you. I don’t want you to play with other people” Why is it so hard to say, “Hey, I like you.”
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It seems quiet easy actually... Maybe your afraid of chasing this person away.. Or are you sure s/he is aware of your feelings towards them? Men esp can be hard head and unable to pick up subtle clues
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9/9/2021 1:27 pm |
I agree, why is it so hard?... you sound good to me!
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It is indeed hard to find the right person which gets one frustrated and eventually gives up on finding someone. I think it is the anonymity of online which makes people jumping from one to another. Patience can be rewarded sometimes but not always. Good luck!
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Im assuming they dont want to feel vulnerable in expressing their feelings towards you
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To answer your question, it is so hard because you made me that hard.
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I think people can just be afraid of any type of commitment. Saying "I like you" appears to open up this whole other can of worms.
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Well dear lady, I have no problem saying 'I like you'. If you have it in your mind what it is you want out of a friend or lover, and be clear with what you want for yourself, then it should be easy to say I like you. That does not necessarily mean there will be a marriage at the end of it, but at the very least, there will be respect and a friendship, because you value what that other person has to offer. I have been searching for a long time for that special 'one', and even though I have come close at times, it is always the distance between us that has stopped a relationship other than a friendship developing.
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Abraxus, I am also on another site that has it's main center of operations around Europe and I know there are a lot of women in your country on that site. There are also a lot from Ireland, Wales, and of course Britain. Fetish dot com would be a good place to look for you if you haven't already
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9/9/2021 6:54 pm |
People who hide their feelings often care the most because words can't truly express feelings.
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...andmaybeunlikablerayne* ~ um, no. Definitely not it. Ars longa, vita brevis - Art is long, life is short  
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When the time/feeling is right. It’s not hard to say If it can’t be said there’s something missing
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rayne Maybe they are shy but these things should be discussed early on... A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw Jenny
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Hey, I like you . ."Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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We all like you Softrayne. Period! Let us stay and enjoy the present...
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it's not hard, it's we who complicate the simple things xx
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9/17/2021 5:48 am |
yes for sure why is it so hard to say, as for me i get so dam lost am your average dumb ass guy and don"t pick up well on women making hint"s, so yes why not just say something to me but oh well do like your pot about it, have a great day
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sometimes it's being afraid of the unknown, being hurt sometimes last longer than you want and being alone becomes a comfort...
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9/25/2021 12:20 pm |
Ask them strait up how they feel. If they give you some bullshit or try to deflect they you're better off getting out of it. The road to no where is a rough ride. You can do as you please, but I know what I'm talking about. I don't care how good someone looks or how attracted I am to them. If they play me..I'll walk away and not look back...(names withheld)...That's not to say they only get one chance. Everyone deserves a second or third chance, but when chances run out I'm gone.
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9/25/2021 12:32 pm |
I'm always clear how I feel they need to man up.
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12/6/2021 12:25 am |
Saying the words, "I like you.", or in the land of letters on the screen, typing them, either .. is NOT the hard part. How many inflections of intent and definition can one word really have? (I'm assuming that the "I", and the "you", contained in that topic phrase thankfully are self defining?! So, "LIKE". I might like something about a person's reading list, their hand writing, their sense of style and maybe just like them .. as them. "LIKE", fails to communicate well what is meant, other than a general sense of, "Cool, she doesn't hate me or find nothing positive about me!". Too, many a conversation has had this variation of the topic statement, "I like you, but...." To me, "I like you.", spoken or typed all alone is equivalent to, "We should do lunch.." On the other end of the spectrum, once upon a time, long, long ago, a BBS Group Lunch was held not far from me, and I didn't have a conflict, so I got to go. It was a fun time, most of us knew some of us, stories were told, possibly some lies, some BS was called all in a very good natured way, there was much hilarity in the air. (Not sure I've heard the like in a long time..) My table and two adjacent tables were volleying shots back and forth, laughing so hard we were wiping tears... great, great time. Anyway, though I did have time for the gathering, it was feeling like time to go had come. (I"m not big on large groups.. and large 'isn't'  .. so, announced that it had been great, but time to scoot.The lovely lass at the next table announced that she too should, so we strolled out still chatting and laughing, headed out to the parking lot. I asked where she was parked, pointing at the pickup next to us with, 'That's me.", but asking to walk her on to her wheels. Be danged if she didn't engage in communication. She turned full on to me, reached a hand up on either side of my head and pulled.. me in and her up. The last words heard for some while thereafter, were, "You talk too much." Might have been the inflection, but I swear, it didn't seem to be all that much of a criticism when she said it. Sorry, drifted off in a memory there. But damn.. that girl could kiss! Okay.. so. Umm. Inflection, non-verbal communication cues.. and more to the point herein, try being a little more specific. Toss in an opening, or a question. 'Your happy enthusiasm puts a smile on my face. I'd like to know you more.' Best wishes.
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