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My Thoughts on the Importance of Communication and Specificity in Profiles Sometimes I read profiles I especially like because something in there resonates deeply for me. I’m sure you all know this feeling. The same goes for blog posts. It could be something specific, personality traits conveyed or just the overall tone and feeling I get reading it. One thing I really like is when someone spells out their views about what they want, don’t want, or both in a relationship and/or bdsm/ds. It delights me to see all the differences and helps me make a more informed decision if I choose to write to someone. I understand the counterargument that some don’t want to elicit tailored emails from those who will say anything to get with anybody but it seems either way you have to weed through a lot and ultimately, there’s no way to know until you’re with a person for awhile. At least being specific will help draw those who may work best for you. I suppose you could be clever and set a trap or two (i.e., saying you want no strings when you seek a relationship so when they say “Hey, I’m into no strings too!”, you can rule them out). Everyone has to find what works best for them but I can tell you the moment I see no strings, I move to the next profile. Another example for me is if someone indicates their interest in Gor, I move to the next. There was one exception to this and I explained in my email I liked everything in her profile, have read Norman but have no interest in reenacting any of it yet I was still interested as she seemed open minded and not set in her ways. It seems better to me to reveal at least some details of who you are and where you stand than to just catch what ever comes along. It also lets you know very quickly who took the time to read. |
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Yes, NSA is the most immediate guarantee I won't be writing. Two lines is another. A host of Prefer Not To Says does it as well. I also look for inconsistencies as I read everything in the profile and if they have a blog or group posts, I'll read those too. Now humor is a special subject all of its own which I will post on one of these days. It's more complicated than one would think. So many women say they want someone with a sense of humor but they differ in types of humor they like and when they feel humor is appropriate. What makes one woman laugh and warm up to someone will make another click faster than you can say Beep Beep!
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That's a very good point beautiful trouble. The only other tricky part is timing.
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Yes Poetess, I agree the blogs offer so much more opportunity to discuss a variety of interests and perspectives so I understand and agree with your point completely. If someone has a blog or group posts, I will read them and find out a great deal more.
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True rose - I'm just expressing what I like to see in profiles which is their only opportunity to give insight into their personality if they don't participate in blogs or groups without writing them.
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