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The sexiness of MtF cross dressers and transvestites I have tried to explain this to my friends over the years because I often get asked by people what I see in all of this. One thing particularly hard for me to explain is why I like cross dressing or transvestism (a man in women's clothes) but am indifferent to transexuality or transgenderism (a woman in a man's body). There are two easy things to explain, so I'll start with those, the third I came up with after much thinking and searching. I hope I am able to explain it in a way that you do not find offensive ... I tried to use clinical rather than charged wording. 1. I am bisexual and a man in women's clothes gives me both at once. 2. Women's lingerie is sexy, anyone who is wearing lingerie is likely to look sexier than wearing nothing. Ultra femininity can be attractive to people who are sexually aroused by femininity, just like flowers are pretty to attract birds and bees. 3. (and taking a bit of a risk in proposing this one, so do post a comment to this blog even if I have more recent blog entries above) I think crossdressing is a symbolic representation of the act of sexual intercourse iteself. I am guessing that there is some kind of subliminal message when a man is in women's clothes ... perhaps it reminds my deep subconscious of a male being encased in the female or the male member being inside the female body during the act of human reproduction. So maybe this is why people who are freaked out by MtF cross dressing have such a strong reaction - it looks like the walking talking sex act to their subconscious mind.  |
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6/21/2007 10:21 am |
Colnea Sweetie, you seem to have come up with a perfect explaination for your attaction. It is all so sexual isnt it? Jennifer
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Colnea Sweetie, you seem to have come up with a perfect explaination for your attaction. It is all so sexual isnt it? Jennifer
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6/24/2007 6:15 am |
Hi Colnea, I think so too that womens' lingeries are very sexy and meke very clean erotic feelings on male. For me cd fun is something I can not tell other people, so that makes me feel very erotic too.
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6/25/2007 1:37 pm |
Hi Colnea,wow i think you hit the nail right on the head with your explanation of the reason you love tvs so much, personally i think we are fortunate to have such an understanding friend,good on you!!......hugs yasmine xx{=}xx
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Interesting, I wonder what that might look like from the TV side. I think that explains you wonderfully and is also uniquely a feminine explanation. Which I buy completly. But how about this from the otherside. I think that(also going way out on a limb)that a TV embodies both sexes the most sucessfully. Transgender FtM will never know the joy of a really hard cock wrapped in sexy lingerie. They settle for something more spiritual less physical. I love the whole concept of the intersexed.
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12/5/2007 3:19 pm |
Women are a beautiful thing. men who want to have the pleasure of being such an item and be used as a woman get to experience both worlds. I love ladies and do like a well presented c/d.
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12/11/2007 12:27 pm |
I want to meet you and give into your will. I love everything you say and would be happy to stay pre op
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12/19/2007 5:55 am |
The world needs more of You! 
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Just a quick note from me to let you know I am reading your comments to this particular blog entry. Thank many of you for so many compliments. I am glad you understan my way of looking at this topic. of course you can meet me if you are in the city I am in at the time, all you have to do is show up to whatever we've agreed on! (and don't send contact info if you use the alt system to contact me)
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12/31/2007 5:10 pm |
Your suggestion that cross-dressing is a metaphor for sexual intercourse is a very perceptive idea that had never occurred to me. I think, however, that it is also possible that cross-dressing arouses men and women for different reasons. For me it is arousing because it is so emasculating. I have surrendered my identity as a male as a token of my complete submission to the dominant woman. I don't know whether that aspect of cross-dressing does anything for the dominant woman at all - although it seems to me that women who enjoy cuckolding would probably be into having their male slavces cross-dress for similar reasons. The TG/TV's who responded to your posting here, I think, may have a completely different reaction from mine. I have no desire whatsoever to be a woman (not that there's anything wrong with that, you understand!). I don't want anyone to think that I'm a woman. I don't want a male (straight or gay) to be attracted to me. And yet forced cross-dressing appeals to me, for the reason that I mentioned above, and probably also for other reasons that I haven't yet understood. Have a wonderful 2008, Mistress Colnea. I do still hope we will meet again.
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1/19/2008 9:56 pm |
Hi Colnea,.....Oh that there were more women in the world like you. It's a lonely life we lead--in part for those of us who are cross-dressers -or Tgurls like me who consider themselves, shall we say 60% female abd 'lesbian', it is a self-emasculation....awaiting the approval of someone like you for intimacy while otherwise enjoying the adorable females who accept me and let their 'male guard' down. I'd not considered your third point, but I have said to several women that when I was 19 and tripping w/my girlfriend, the sex became secondary (as you're all mind and little body in that state) and I realized that i wanted to crawl back up inside Her--to be enveloped by Her, I consider it a great honor and privilage to be allowed to enter (it's not penetration to me) a woman. So I think we're saying quite similar things/having similar feelings about what we are compelled to be. The late great SRV once said-after overcoming the addictions that nearly killed him-while on stage that, 'after all we're just trying to get back home (the home before we entered this world)'. So both views involve being enveloped by a woman. In fact, I do sense much maternal instinct toward me from those women who accept me and treat me w/kindness and respect. I also try to make my representation a way of honoring women-"I want to be like you. sort of thing" (Imitation being the sincerest form of flattery) so when I'm complimented, as often happens, I'm very pleased and actually comforted. It's all (the reasons I mean) in part something to comfort me so I don;t loose my mind from loneliness while awaiting that one very special woman who wants me as I truly am.
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1/28/2008 5:40 am |
I totally agree with number 2 above. I feel so sexy when wearing pretty lingerie.
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2/19/2008 1:30 pm |
Miss Jones - You are so right on the money (on all 3 points); all I can add is that the further act of being crossdressed and paraded around one's partner or publicly increases the level of vulnerability (and ultimately pleasure) associated with sex itself. Cheers, MTS
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3/13/2008 9:43 am |
For me it's about attaining the sensuality and grace that is a woman. I can't get that as man. Carol.
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Just letting you know I've been checking my blog today. Nice to see so many of you have visited this page. Some of you who have blogs may notice my name on your list as a recent visitor. Since I'm a standard member, I cannot write an alt message to all of you, but if you had a blog I would check it out at least once and maybe put a little note there. Meanwhile at least all of you know that I have read your comments to my blog today, and I thank you. I am still in Tokyo and will go back to America at the end of next week. (San Francisco then Las Vegas)
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3/21/2008 10:41 pm |
Colnea, what an intelligent approach to a complicated issue for most. certainly your points 1 & 2 would make you the ideal mate for a male who feels feminine in women's clothing. however, your take on the dual gender role that arises from crossdressing is brilliant, philosophical and provocative. Brava! for raising the bar on this topic and...giving hope that there are more of you out there. just a guy here in my lingerie looking for love and understanding. thanks, fran
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3/21/2008 10:45 pm |
also, that was a great response, ylhtm2...and i agree with you.
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I'm up late at night with Jet Lag. So, I've been looking at my groups and what people have said in my posts. I hadn't looked at this one for a while: Why I like Men in Women's Clothes and it says pretty much what I say at the beginning of this blog entry, plus several other people have added their comments. Apparently, I am not the only woman in the world who likes men to wear feminine clothing. It is very nice to have the support and recognition of others like me.
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3/31/2008 10:26 pm |
Colnea, I have to say that your feelings are normal for liking a male to be wearing female clothes.All my life i have been a cross-dresser and want to be doing it more all the time.Like you i don't know how to explain it but i just love to wear womens clothes, in womens lingerie i feel so feminine like you said "encased in the female body" and wanting it more. I feel very erotic like a "womens spell has been put on me" and i will do anything to get that feeling again and again.In my profile i think what i am trying to say is that to be in womens clothes all the time i will be anyones 24/7 submissive as long as i can wear womens clothes, i will be anyones friend as long as i can wear womens clothes. What my profile heading should be is "AS LONG AS I CAN WEAR WOMENS CLOTHES" i will do anything for you. Thank you for the nice blog about cross-dressers and transvestites and allowing me to express some of my deepest secrets Vicky
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4/3/2008 5:48 am |
All living beings start out as female, and, due to some ugly hormones, become male. Some of us, however, have a greater attachment to the genetic female within us. Being a woman, dressing as one, soldifies our connection to our feminine origin. This connection, this nostalgic euphoria is illuminating to embrace. This is indeed a matriarchal Universe and we must acknowledge who we REALLY ARE.
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4/4/2008 10:14 pm |
Do you think your reasons are the same as the reasons that MEN have for WANTING to cross-dress? I'm not referring to the transgendered people who really feel as if they're women; I'm talking about the completely straight males who have no gender confusion, but who are aroused by dressing in female lingerie or even full female dress, especially if ordered to do so by a dominant woman. Stan
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4/5/2008 8:19 am |
Dear Ms Colnea Thank you for providing this space of expression for people like us who generally keep that taste for cross dressing inside their mind. Thank you as well for this brilliant explanation of your attraction to CD and TV. i subscribe fully to it! i will just add that, as recalls Sheila, all starts from the feminine part in any of us, males. Yes, we feel sexier in lingerie and even female dress because al that is sexy on this planet is female. We feel erotic sensation when cross dressing because we get in touch with our feminine side, we make sort of a fusion of both sexes. For some of us, the genetic female part is simply higher and they feel more woman than man in their being. So their sexual attraction goes toward men. For the others, who keep their male identity without confusion, the sexual attraction is definitely turned to women. i am definitely of that second tendancy but the problem we face is to meet women who accept and love men cross dressers. Fortunately you are here, Ms Colnea and your great open mind gives hope for many of us. Thank you Ms Colnea. If you ever travel to Paris, i would love to meet you and be yours during your stay. Sincerely. Francois
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You certainly hit with #3 but that is only a part and wrapping #2 along with it Misty Ann
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9/19/2008 3:44 pm |
Pretty lingerie is soo naughty! I think all of those cross dressers are very hot! I'm not sure about all of the encased things, but the naughty sexy allure of sexy women's clothing cries out for all of us!
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2/16/2009 11:51 am |
You may be right;i have this wonderful feeling as i pull on a pair of panties....then roll up the nylons to my thighs;and snap the garters to hold them in place;belt in place.And as i stand there my tiny nipples hard and sticking out.....and i have a love for this feeling i really like wearing woman's underwear...............jon
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