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The Dos & Don't of Dating - 2016 Some of these findings really surprised me (courtesy, Daily Mail) After how many dates would you kiss someone, send them a Facebook friend request or spend the night with them? According to a new study exploring the dos and don'ts of dating, you shouldn't lock lips until the second date or connect on Facebook until at least the third. And don't even dream of jumping into bed with them before the fourth rendezvous. The research, commissioned by TLC’s new dating show Undressed, also suggests that men should be the first text after a successful date and women should respond within a quarter of an hour if keen. When it comes to messaging, a maximum of two kisses is all that is required as an end note. Any more might be too 'over the top', while any less could apparently come across as ‘cold’. A definite no-no is waiting for the other person to text first. Half of the 1,500 Brits quizzed in the study said it was important for their potential love interest to make contact first - which means the other half of daters will be left disappointed. It seems that 'playing it cool' isn't in vogue anymore either. A third of respondents said they would text back within a quarter of an hour, with only five percent saying they’d wait as long as two hours. Just 23 per cent of people think that texting back straight away is a sign of being 'too keen' with the majority of Brits saying they are happy to get right back in contact with a love interest. However, when it comes to communicating online it becomes even stickier territory. On average, the survey recommends that it's best to wait until some point between the third and fourth dates before sending a Facebook friend request or following a beau on Twitter. Jo Hemmings, behavioral Psychologist for TLC’s Undressed, says that dating has become increasingly difficult in the technological era, with people having to 'carefully orchestrate' what they want to say. She continued: 'The advance of smartphones has made dating both easier, and more difficult. 'There are countless apps to help people find dates, but the conundrum of how soon to follow someone on social media or get in contact opens up a new layer of pitfalls. 'Our parents may have had nothing more complicated to worry about than when to ring a date up on the landline, but these days there are dozens of methods of communication that all have to be carefully orchestrated.' Half of the survey participants said they'd looked up a potential date online before meeting in person, to get a feel for their personality and see more pictures - and 15 per cent revealed they’d cancelled a date after seeing something on social media they didn’t like. When actually on the date, there are countless faux pas to avoid - the worst of the lot being talking about an ex too much, followed by poor personal hygiene. One in ten said they would cancel a date with someone if they talked about themselves too much in messages. The reasons for going cold after a date range from the banal to the bizarre, with one respondent admitting that they couldn’t stop staring at a date’s mole, and another saying simply, ‘They punched my cat.’ There are countless apps to help people find dates, but the conundrum of how soon to follow someone on social media or get in contact opens up a new layer of pitfalls Although the study shows that three is the magic number when it comes to the number of dates needed before an overnight stay, one in ten said they need more than ten meetings to get to that point. |
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7/16/2016 12:33 am |
Forgive my cynicism, but the words "commissioned by TLC’s new dating show" immediately short-circuits the study's credibility, at least for me. Stringent rules concerning how long you need to wait before calling, texting, kissing, fucking, etc. have always seemed kind of juvenile to me...there are no timetables for the right moment. ~LastGuy "It's great to be here. It's great to be anywhere." -- Keith Richards "There are many spokes on the wheel of life. First, we're here to explore new possibilities." -- Ray Charles
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Cues up Blondie. Call me. Meanders off humming. Any any time.     Inner Fucking Peace: watch?v=92i5m3tV5XY
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Not 10, but sure more than 3  I am just amazed a random number is even considered a "standard"
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Cues up Blondie. Call me. Meanders off humming. Any any time. lol sophi got ya on speeeeeeeed dial
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Forgive my cynicism, but the words "commissioned by TLC’s new dating show" immediately short-circuits the study's credibility, at least for me. Stringent rules concerning how long you need to wait before calling, texting, kissing, fucking, etc. have always seemed kind of juvenile to me...there are no timetables for the right moment. IMO, there is no set number because there always exists the exception to the "rule". Having said that, some things seem common sense. I mean the texting would or perhaps SHOULD be a "given". After that, I think you maintain your own personal barometer and adjust accordingly. Of course, the key here is that it takes TWO sets of "numbers" to agree. As for what you said about the survey commission, I always find the sponsored-with-motive surveys ("Milk is good for you" by the American Dairy Assocaition is a perfect example) to be based on fundamental truisms that are pushed pulled and tugged to aid and support whatever view they want to project.
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