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likesmatureones 55M
0 posts
8/25/2018 6:01 am
Should a sub/slave desires matter

Say you met a potential Dominant or sub online...

Do you feel like the desires,likes, fetishes of the sub matter..?

Some people feel like it shouldn't matter...the dominant runs the show and the sub just needs to follow.

Some submissive people also think it doesn't matter because happiness from submission is surrendering yourself to this person. Of course always operating in a safe and consensual manner.

I'm not suggesting that if the dom is into gangbangs/ needles etc and your not..that a sub should blindly put themselves in a situation where they feel uncomfortable.

I mean more in terms like...I enjoy Spankings for example and She wasn't into physical disciplining someone.

I often wonder if what I wanted should even have mattered..perhaps I would have been happier just going in as a blank slate. ( once again I'm not talking carte Blanche..but within a comfortable zone....Should it matter that I'm not into say being a sissy maid for example..Should I just roll with her desires and just be happy that I'm making her happy?

If so then why do subs even come in with long laundry list of things they enjoy...couldn't anything you do be boiled down to its essence and processed as submission.
Shouldn't that alone make a sub happy?

If so wouldn't that make finding a dominant easier..I think if nothing else it would eliminate topping from the bottom or a whiney slave.

In my case I think I pushed a lil too much with things I liked..like chastity ..subs do tend to geek out..lol

So I wondered what dominants think of a blank slate approach

likesmatureones 55M

8/25/2018 6:28 am


heartofmush 55F
7884 posts
8/25/2018 4:57 pm

 a sane and good one: yes, it matters.
The cut worm forgives the plow. W. Blake, Proverbs of Hell


luv2lapu 77M  
36 posts
8/26/2018 1:23 am

 As previously stated the sub has to "get something out of it at some level" and the laundry list is just a means of letting the dominant know what you are already willing to do... sort of a starting point for exploration.



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