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porn vs. reality; g-spot squirting Some women orgasm via clitoral stimulation while others need their g-spot nailed at just the right angle. I dated a woman could get off when her clitoris was pounded by a vibrator called “the Hitachi Magic Wand”; a device made for massaging shoulders. It was the kind of toy you plugged into the wall versus inserting batteries - that’s how strong it was. This was a woman ’d spent many years in the adult industry, so over time all the heavy stimulation had desensitized her clit a bit. That’s why a mini jackhammer was often necessary bring her orgasm. Her situation was exceptional, and had I tried bring a Hitachi Magic Wand into during some of my sexual escapades with other women, they would almost certainly have informed me that it was a bit too much. Too strong. Too intense. But for that particular ex of mine, it was what she needed to achieve a certain level of pleasure. Women that squirt are a different kind of unicorn. It thrills men to be able to see the results of their attempts to please come gushing forth. We’re used to seeing stuff shoot out the head of our penis so when something close to the equivalent comes shooting out of a woman we feel we’ve accomplished something, done a good job, however you want to phrase it. It’s one thing to a loud slut will practically tell you when she is cumming her brains out, but ’s quite another have sex and not really be certain the lady you’re with has reached orgasm. She’ll tell you she did, but she’s just being polite. When you a squirter though, ’s gratifying have that level of certainty. After sex, when the bed is soaking wet, you know you probably did something right. This is why women squirt are so sought after in porn, but is a negative side . All that constant stimulation the g-spot can do what constant stimulation the clitoris does; cause desensitization. Usually it means the woman goes from being able to orgasm by just having a couple fingers in her, making that “come hither” motion, to needing the equivalent of a jackhammer motion to get off. That’s why a great many porn stars squirt can be seen getting roughly, almost violently fingered at times.  The problem with this is the fact that those viciously thrusting fingers have nails on the end of them, and no matter how good you are at keeping them clean and trimmed, ’s always a chance that jabbing so hard at just the wrong angle can cause injury. The most common thing is a simple cut or scrape, which is obviously going be painful, and probably ruin the mood for all but the hardest of the hardcore. ’s the kind of thing that happened my new roommate recently, and after talking with her about things like checking men’s hands for cleanliness, and trimmed nails, I brought up the idea that he was likely just doing it wrong. Once she described the moment me, I knew he likely had no idea what he was doing, and had “learned” try and get women squirt by watching porn. So many men think that what happens in adult movies is what happens, or should happen, in real life and so many are completely delusional. Porn is fantasy, not instruction. ’s not meant be informative, ’s meant entertain. And just like when you watch a Hollywood movie and see a stunt person pull something off you know is dangerous and ill-advised, so is with<b> pornography. </font></b>Yes, those crazy positions and the rough sex might fantastic, but trying in real life can lead bad things, like injuries and embarrassment.  Many of you have probably seen the movie “Sleeping with Other People” and remember a scene where one character shows another how get a woman off by stimulating her g-spot. She uses what I think is an empty tea bottle, but the scene is more in touch with reality than any adult film I’ve witnessed. The instructions are clear, and one thing you notice the woman is NOT doing is jamming her fingers into the neck of the bottle like she’s trying to destroy it. The movements are soft, not aggressive, and I daresay more informational than you would expect from a slightly naughty romantic comedy. I’m not saying it’s graphic, but the point is made succinctly, and I think a man watching and emulating that scene would have a much better chance of making your average woman squirt. The jackhammer motion thing might work too, but the likelihood of injury or discomfort is greatly increased. Yes, a bit of vigorous jabbing might help occasionally, but it’s really about putting your fingers in the right spot and rubbing. Unless the woman is a porn star has her g-spot nailed over and over, day after day, in which case might be a bit desensitized down and need something more enthusiastic. Most women know themselves pretty well and could inform a guy of what he needed do, if he cared listen, but most men just want shove a few fingers in that pussy and go town hoping they’ll do the right thing eventually. Sometimes they get lucky, sometimes they wind up hurting the person they are fingering so aggressively, but ’s really up the females in their lives let them know whether or not they are doing correctly. Men left learn on their own will see far too many examples of what is likely the wrong way, especially in porn, and that won’t change until someone stops them, tells them they are doing wrong, and perhaps lends a bit of instruction. It’s that, or unsatisfying sex that ends with small injuries that put her out of commission for a few days while she heals. And since the vagina is a warm, moist place the chances of bacteria and other bad things forming is just an added negative consider. Next time you think about letting a guy stick his fingers in you, make sure his hands are clean, his nails trimmed, and that he doesn’t think shoving them in like a jackhammer is the way get you off. Unless that IS the way get you off, in which case this whole post probably seems ridiculous you. No matter the situation, I will always suggest that good, honest, blunt, open communication will get you the best results. Telling a guy slow down or ease up is a better option then getting cut and having spend a few days unavailable, while you heal, don’t you think? |
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