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sex and sexuality; guilt-free There are many regrets in my life that I still feel the sting of. I did a ton of bad things, made a great many mistakes and just as many poor decisions, so there’s plenty to ponder and feel guilty about. A few failed relationships, a couple of trips to prison, a that I had no hand in raising - those are maybe the top of a long list. The 1 / one thing I can think of that I have literally almost no guilt or remorse about is my sex life, and sexuality. After over 3 / three decades of perversion and intimacy I can honestly say I did few things I regret. That feels good. From my perspective, the world should be just like I am when it comes to sex and sexuality. If your body tells you, in no uncertain terms that you are attracted to or aroused by ________ then that makes you a _________- sexual or you have a fetish for __________ or whatever. Accept it and enjoy it within the limits of your ability, and maybe even take into account the level which society has deemed it acceptable. If you’re not doing it against someone’s will (unless it consensual non-consent) or hurting someone (unless in a BDSM setting, for example) then there is nothing wrong with you, you are doing nothing wrong, and you should feel no guilt or fear exploring what makes you happy. People have managed to sexualize and fetishize more than you will ever know, and most of these souls live a life of shame, secrecy and confusion that is just plain unnecessary. It’s also unhealthy to the body, the psyche, you name it. We worry about what turns us on when we should be celebrating it. We keep our desires secret instead of wearing them on our sleeves with pride. What a sick society we have created, and continue to cultivate. I have done “gay stuff” from a very early age. With the exception of kissing, and love in general, my first experiences were with boys my age. There , however, no denying my very early attraction to females. I just one of those boys that so horny I stopped caring about gender and concentrated on getting my rocks off. When I’ve been unable to rub my penis against a female, I found an available male. It’s been purely , and not romantic, but there’s no denying I’ve dabbled where most wouldn’t dare. kink, fetish, BDSM, working in the adult industry most of my adult life and a high sex drive, and you wind up with a person that, were he to feel guilty for doing something other than traditional heterosexual nonsense he would have long ago succumbed to depression or deep shame. Instead, I’ve lived and experienced my sex life with no fear, no guilt, no confusion. It pains me to know that my way is not the norm, but that knowledge does make me feel lucky. A customer that I recently wrote about is the exact opposite of me in all these ways, and more, so seeing him struggle is not easy. No matter what I say, what perspective I bring to the discussion, no matter how many reassurances I give him that he’s not sick or evil I cannot erase decades of opposite thinking and belief. Indoctrination and brainwashing did their job long ago and society has, for the most part, reaffirmed those beliefs over the years. He feels genuine arousal from things he believes he should not, but that belief does not actually come from his core being, it comes from his past. We joke and say “the dick don’t lie” but it is undeniably true. Men cannot fake arousal like women can. A limp dick is much more telltale than a dry pussy. So when a man gets hard at the sight of _________ it is difficult to deny that _________ must turn him on in some way. The customer will search for reasons why; is it the act itself, or merely the fact that a certain section of society has deemed it taboo? He’ll wonder if he’s really attracted to cocks in general, or just mine? And if he feels a yearning when gazing at my dong what does that mean about him? Does it make him gay, even though he likes women? And on and on and on. What a terrible way to have spent your life, and what an awful condition to be in right now. I do what I can to help, as I’ve said, but fighting over 6 / six decades of opposite thinking is not an easy task, nor do results show themselves quickly. We may never make any progress at all, but at least he’s trying. I am just grateful I don’t have to try and accept anything about myself that is unsavory or shameful. I like my desires and who they supposedly make me. My sex and sexuality are guilt-free, as it should be with you.  |
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