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submissive in "the bdsm"? On that vanilla dating site, i read a lot of profiles. Most are soporific..... deadly dull, boring.  All the men want a buddy, and dont want be claimed, want to be able to keep doing their own things   want to go to a pub, restaurant, terrace sitting, beer drinking, walk in the woods, bike ride car ride, They are a dime a dozn! Boring!! and then there was this one profile, this man, if you could see his picture, you could read submissive all over it.... In his personal info, he wrote; he is submissive in the bdsm. "The bdsm"? right!! That was the first person, who made a reference toward BDSM..... or something likewise..... Most men are, act like a mob! backboneless... weazles, in my humble opinion!  Have really no clue! Have not much to offer. They dont show any personality in their profiles at all. I suspect they all did some real heavy copy past, to put down something on their profile..... Boring! There are some, that really did put some effort in their profiles But,those too, all want a momma person, a buddy, equality, a friend, they can f&ck... or so is how i see it. They want to keep their lifes as it was before, are not willing ( or able?) to make some changes for that other person..? Not... Are emotional not available at all...... It is some sort of quiz, for me, when i see a certain picture, or read a certain lead sentence, i almost always know his text on his profile. And with some, i love to shout real loud: No way in hell! I have a new hobby!! ROLFLMAOF 
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Oh, a novelty. It seems that al the men on that site, wants to get seduced?? Seduced?? WTH! role reverse?? Yuck.
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So what would the ideal profile say? What would YOU find intriguing?
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Hello, as subhub222, what should we write on a Alt profile, then ? Many thanks for your advices. Best regards
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I'm glad you found a new hobby that amuses you
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Good approach. I read so many complaints about pictures or postings that do not meet the desires of women. How about a little help with advice on what works for you. The blackest lie is a partial truth that leads you to the wrong conclusion.
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Well you described it to a "T"... After a certain age most men dont want to enter back into a relationship. They already did that..had kids..the wife..the white pickette fence.. Now? They have their " me" time back and honestly are looking for activity buddies and/ or someone for sex. And hopefully this isnt..omg..shocking..but this is the very reason alot of men get into guys.. Women want relationships... With a dude..he can have that baseball buddy,that camping buddy.. And still get his cock sucked without any relationship baggage. The problem with that though...most guys now call themselves bi but are stuck. They will never advance past the cock sucking stage...hell they cant even touch a guy more of less..omg..kiss him. And forget dating a dude...most guys are afraid. I'm guessing alot of guys like this are on those sites. Ideally they still prefer women...but now treat women like a bi guy. So you end up with profiles with very little effort put into them. Cause ideally i dont think they really want to find someone. Men have their beer,dog and a blowjob on the downlow
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8/6/2022 11:27 am |
likematures, You made me laugh with your prediction of the future.. of dating....LOL Yeah, a vanilla friend told me this, already, some years ago.... BUT, that counts for straight laced vanilla guys, i guess I think a dominant- master- sadist, still wants his cake and eat it too... Because such an urge, need, core want, does not go away, with age.....
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8/6/2022 11:44 am |
His profile should have some certain clear and evident talk, energy about him being honest, open in his wants and needs. It is NOT about play sessions, it is about commitment, to each other. FIRST, wanting to get to know The Person, first. And no talk about fetishes, please!! In at least the first two months, while getting to know each other. ( keep your dingaling in your pants! please!) I have to feel safe and respected, before i can let my guard down. want to build trust, have patience, be inquisitive... Be open about him, his background, his life... Maybe some talk about like to have a leading role, Wants to get the best out of her..... Guidance. Maybe some hints, to his sadistic wants/needs? If you can put that down, without getting kicked off the site..? For improper behaviour!? Something like that..?
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8/6/2022 11:52 am |
etresou, Héllo! Why dont you do your own homework? As i did too. Try to figure out, what that one person, you want to attrack to your profile would like to know, see, hear, about who you are. It also all depends on what YOU want, do you just want a kinky sex buddy? For the FUN play time...? Do you want a steady relation in wich you have some role play in the bedroom, d/s in the bedroom, only, with tools and clothes, for the special moments To get in the mood? With special words, to start the scene? or special make -up, or special whatevers...? Educate yourself is what they say all the time, on FETLIFE. search discussion groups, about the things you are interested in. it is all there, on FET.
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8/6/2022 11:53 am |
Subhub, Oh, i dont dó ideal, i do real time, real living, breathing person.
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8/6/2022 12:06 pm |
I have to admit what I have written sounds very 
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imcre8ive, Thanks, i love to give people something to about.
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drmgirl,, thanks, Yes, it is good for my down time, if nothing else comes from it...
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prpackaged, It is very simple, try to imaging what a woman would like to know, see from you, about what, or who you are.... as person. Imaging! It is known that most men in general, just want casual no strings attached, sex, and a whole bunch of those men, use SM to get to the sex. Most of the time they are emotional not available, anyway.... most, not all, women like the connection first. There are also plenty women, who also just want that physical connection, only. Know who that other person IS. SO there is a gap, you need to bridge.... How are you going to do that, to get what you want and she willingly gives what you wants too?? Easy?! i thought so! IF you want that woman in your life ( if that is what you want, anyway.)) So imaging, you are a woman, walking on the street. ALways, there is the threat that some men can attack you, this woman, Just because he can! G-R-ape is most of the time a planned action. Imaging sitting at a bus, and a man comes sit across of you, showing his dick, consent? anyone? Women in general, see a lot of Dicks, in their daily life, be it the real sausage, or men act like Dicks! Do you really think most women are interested in seeing dicks of men, they really dont know one thing about? Think! So, what would some women like? Not all women like the same thing. I am totally not romantic, a bunch of flowers? you dont make me happy with that. Plus, the amount of poison used to let them grow? no thanks! counts for a bottle of wine, or parfum too. Every one can throw some money on the till.... to buy.. Giving something you really put your heart in it? Has in my eyes soo much more value... But that is just mé. So YOU have to get into her mind... to get to know , what she is like and what she likes.... ( like she is, maybe, willing to get into your mind, too?) You have to give, before you can take, or she is willing to give you..... because you are worth it, to give that one thing to... But, again, this is just my view..... Show real, genuine interest. Good luck.
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beneath your fingers my pain offering, your joy scarlet like roses What if all a man has to offer is adoration.
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8/6/2022 5:13 pm |
OMG, there was this guy who used to come in the chat rooms back 10 or so years ago. English was not his first language, but he was very persistent about having cybersex with whoever was willing. It would be hilarious because you would be having a normal conversation about wine or computers or whatever and interspersed in the responses would be: I make with you on the sex table for 5 minutes! I don't mean to make fun of him for his English skills. Hell, I don't know any other languages fluently. It was just so surreal at the time. I'm not sure who were these people agreeing to have bad cybersex with someone in a public room. But, there they were... Went at it in a way that would make an English teaching nun's head explode.
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boh, With the right person, she/he would be very happy with that. For me, i need to knów the person, before i can adore him I dont do projection of my fantasy, on an other person. I want the real deal. It is I, who wants to adore my dominant, knowing he is only human and because of that, i adore him, even more..... 
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FleetingThoughts, Ooh, help! That must have been a blast! cyber- anything, does not rock my boat, at all. They come in all sizes and matter!!! LOL Yeah, if that is your thing? Go for it, find the puzzle piece that fits you! But, dont force it on me, please. Dont tell me, what i want, long for, is not normal, sick, just because your taste is different from mine.... 
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8/7/2022 10:13 am |
Does the chat room work?
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rider, You should check that out, yourself i dont go there, anymore......
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