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A M/s dynamic, (relationship?) Some will prefere to call it a d/s, rather then a Master/slave dynamic. To me, a D/s comes too close to what all those players are talking about. So, my preferences goes to use the M/s dynamic. For me, a d/s is more about playing the bedroom dominance role... As i said before; To each their own... It is a deep emotional desire to have a dynamic based on Authority Transfer. It is just, their internal agreement about how things works best between them. Also, to me, the word; relation is too much connected with that oso highly praised, "equality" in socalled vanilla relations. while, my experience and what i see around me, in socalled vanilla relations, is that there is no real! Yeah, i said that word! no real equality. There is more of less a constant power struggle going on, manipulation of each other....Who stays on top, this time, to what price.... As i see it. There are no arguments in a Master-slave dynamic It is cristal clear to both of them, That the whole power struggle is not there They talked it through, for a very long time, to get to the bottom of this. how they understand this, for their happiness He likes to be in controle, guide and protect, She likes it, when 'he' does take care of her, in that way. she has her own set of responsibilities. as he does, too. It is a totall other focus on "having a relation" there is NO power struggle, he takes care of all of her. And, she, on her end of the dynamic takes care of his wants and needs, too. There is also a totall other use of terms, words It is an totall other way of thinking, about á relation... There is NO vanilla in such a relation, sure, they need to do, shopping, taking care of elderly, pets, and work, cleaning BUT, the basic is always that power dynamic, in wich he leads and she follows. he is 24/7 in her mind and she is 24/7 in his mind, Thát is the core focus. Ofcourse there are personal variations on this theme. The core stays the same. In some M/s dynamics, it is the slave who runs the financial part, because she is much better in that, then the Master. There are also M/s dynamics, where the M type is totally NOT interested in having to keep score with what happens with her money. Or, when there are young ones around, it could be very well, the case, that only one person is totally responsible for them. It is what they both agreed on, what they both need, and want, in, out of that dynamic The core is; he is in charge. he leads. Even when it looks like, she leads...  surrender to his will, his ways, because that makes her feel loved and cherised, in a way no vanilla relation is ever able to give her, to fulfill that deep inner need and want of hers.... |
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Just my thoughts on building a M/s dynamic.
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A very good perspective!
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drmgirl Thank you very much! 
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Concise and articulate - very well written!
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You clearly and absolutely know the kind of dynamic you are seeking. As well as acknowledging that even in M/s some preliminary conversation has to take place. Once that is established and you are agreed, then enjoy what you have.,
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Well thought out and outlined. 
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ASpecialMaster, thank you, 
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NoNonsenseFromU. I would say, an ongoing communication must be part of this M/s, all the time.. Not only preliminary.... Thank you,
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ryder, Thank you,
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