In Defense of Dominants...Everywhere...
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Posted:Feb 3, 2015 12:49 pm
Last Updated:Feb 7, 2024 7:43 pm 31170 Views
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This was inspired by a post on another site that talks about how the abandonment of a Dominant is just horribly wrong which it is, no denial there. It went on to say that Dominants should be held accountable to Their actions and words when in a D/s relationship. That Dominants shouldn't do it, and should do right by Their submissive.
I felt that if one side was going to be represented, then the other side should be too...I took the original post & flipped it around so much of My post has chunks of that original post w/ My own opinions scattered throughout.
So, For all you would be submissives out there…If you think you are a submissive, and want the benefits of adoration, devotion, direction, the coveted training and Dominance that it brings, you better be prepared to live up to your side of the bargain. That means being present, being caring and consistent in your service, empathetic, understanding, and communicating regularly with care and concern.
If you want to play you have got to pay.
This is not a free lunch for a velcro collar. You have to not only earn a person's Dominance up front, but maintain the credibility and respect for the duration.
If you want to owned by a Dominant, you better be worthy of being owned. Period.
That means you need to be communicative and attentive to the needs that a Dominant brings to the table.
Deep attachment on both sides of D/s is so prevalent, and in fact IS the beauty of a D/s bond.
The most hurtful thing a submissive can do to a Dominant is fundamentally change Their role in the submissive's life without notice.
Not communicating w/ your Dominant on a regular basis, resisting your training, sloppy service, not being attentive to Their feelings or needs, or otherwise trailing off into the sunset is abandonment folks.
You are hurting a Dominant more through these inactions than you could ever do with any physical pain.
You gave your submission freely and willingly, you own the responsibility.
No one has the right to ask another person for everything, accept everything, then cast it aside when you grow tired or bored.
A human life and a human heart has value above anything else.
Dominants may be treated like a god by Their submissives, but We are no Gods. We fuck up, make mistakes, and screw up just like you.
We are human beings just like you.
GOOD Dominants, do Their best to make sure They never fall into that Ego Trap and never take advantage of Their submissive's vulnerability.
When a submissive abandons a Dominant it is a slow painful death.
You have encouraged a Dominant’s vulnerability, convinced them to lower their armor, and then through abandonment cut them a thousand times and left them to slowly bleed to death.
So, all you so called submissives out there, get your shit together or get out of the pool.
I, for one am tired of hearing this story over and over again that submissives are the only ones in the D/s equation who get hurt.
We, Dominants work just as hard at building the D/s dynamic as you do.
If you are tired of your Dominant, are attracted to someone else, don’t feel comfortable in the relationship, realize you made a mistake, just didn’t know what you were getting into, or actually question your worth being called a submissive.
Be honest, communicate clearly, effectively and with compassion, and ASK to be released gently but firmly.
For heavens sake don’t just abandon them and leave them to suffer, wonder, worry and fret.
Abandonment of a Dominant through neglect or intentional failure to respond is a spineless, cowardly, deeply inconsiderate act.
No one who undertakes such action or inaction deserves the title of submissive, let alone slave.
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