Aftercare... Why Do so Many Not Realize How Important this Is???
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Posted:Sep 2, 2020 6:54 am
Last Updated:May 14, 2024 7:23 pm 2820 Views
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I have not been out there as a sub/slave in many years, and so it came as quite a surprise that pretty much every man I have decided to try playing with has been irresponsible in this area. Aftercare is not optional.
Yes, admittedly, I have only played a few, both because of Covid and because I am not someone who plays with lots of people as a rule. I am someone who prefers to cleave to one man when sub or slave, and that hasn't changed. But unfortunately, when looking for a partner, to make a bubble, you still have to risk some exposure.
It mystifies me that men who play treat it as if it were just a sex hook-up, and not BDSM/ Master/slave activity, which goes so much deeper. When one takes another person to the places we go with our play, often saying/doing profound things, there is a responsibility to help them come down off the ledge afterwards. It is irresponsible to simply walk away. When I have owned or played with others, I always made sure they were ok afterwards.
I find myself very disappointed so far. Perhaps it is mostly because so many are still staying in place, and that the selection of people is scant.
I am finding more and more reasons to give up again.
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I Was Asked What I Want in a Dom or Master, so I took a stab at it...
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Posted:Aug 28, 2020 8:28 am
Last Updated:May 14, 2024 7:23 pm 3622 Views
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First of all.. he is with often in person. ( And realizes I'm losing my mind and can't wait much longer or I will do something stupid.)
He communicates with me on a continual basis so I know he is there, that I am owned... and his. He is Caucasian, at least a few inches taller than me ( I'm 5'5"), and of at least average endowment. He is possessive, but not the point of being an idiot. He keeps close. He is unattached anyone other than , except for friendships.
We are together on Saturday nights as a rule, not leaving alone on weekends. Sometimes, he would sleep over, securing me my bed for the night, perhaps in some form of mild distress that doesn't prevent me from sleeping. ( Hopefully, he doesn't snore.)
He is caring and affectionate, Intelligent, strong and powerful. I can let him be in charge because he makes good decisions. I can trust him. He likes , and knows how ... use my body make feel various sorts of torment (as much as I can stand it, gently pushing limits), whether out in public under my clothing, during the day at home, or in the dungeons here at my place (or his, if he has something).
I would always feel his hand upon me in some way. He knows how to ravage me, use me and leave me spent (and hopefully, him as well), and yet make me feel cherished and loved. My suffering feeds him; he needs it. But he never goes so far that either of us regrets it. He remembers what my physical issues are, and adjusts our keep those in mind.
I give all I am able in order nourish his needs ... because I adore him.He shares all types of things, vanilla and kinky, in a whole relationship. He is careful about all diseases, STD free, drinks only a little, hopefully not a smoker ( but doesn't mind a little 420). He likes pretty, chubby ladies, with big breasts and doesn't mind a few broken parts.
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