A spot-on prediction.
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Posted:Jan 28, 2021 1:14 pm
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SERIOUSLY... READ THE FIRST POST ON THE THREAD RATHER THAN THE MONKEYED GIBBERISH THIS BIT HAS BEEN ALT'ed !
I have been browsing site a bit during various lockdowns. Just killing time. It struck me that I had seen something that Troy wrote waaaay back and rooted it out. Here it and subjects touches are pretty much reason why community this site is now so neglected and why many of us have opted or are opting out.
SICK COMMUNITY SYNDROME
When people with a shared raft of interests gather together – either in person or online – they form a community. This can be deliberately so or it can evolve. When that raft of shared interests is comprised of a segregated part of their life which they don’t broadcast but keep to within a discreet circle, then the sea on which the raft floats is perilous and even the slightest agitation or sabotage can cause catastrophe which is way out of proportion to the act.
Take, for example, doxing. In many countries, this practice now falls under harassment, intimidation and/or stalking laws. Recently, it was asserted that ‘implied authority’ would be a defence. ‘Implied authority’ would be, for example, the owner of a website seeking to find out more about a member of the website from other sources in order to ‘protect their website’. It hasn’t been successful as a defence yet. But ‘Implied authority’ has to be the result of a reasonable belief. There has to be a material stake in the question. Chatting to someone in a chatroom or forum does not imply any consent to rummage around for details they have not offered. I have seen so many examples in recent of people proudly claiming have doxed someone who has offended them, rejected them or just ghosted. Most of the time, it is just a boastful claim. Sometimes, they have gathered a wad of incorrect or mostly incorrect data. Rarely, they have been accurate.
what end? threaten the object of their stalking. intimidate them into leaving the chatroom or forum or to act in a way the stalker wishes. This, of course, is blackmail. Interestingly, it has been held in several cases that hiding behind a username in a board as being anonymous target. Under many laws, that makes way more serious.
So if some buddy wants get you involved in doxing, just decline. You would be doing yourself a favour by being bigger person and shrugging other party off – and could well avoid a court case where your private life widely reported.
Of course, that’s not form of bullying or harassment online. most common trolling. We know basically what – but why a different matter. Trolling a perversion. Possibly even a kin We know mantra of ‘your kink not my kink’ and this is where applies hugely. Trolling based psychological sadism – troll becoming aroused or gratified by thought that they may have angered or caused discomfort another. For some, they will feel the rush of having ‘power’; the power irritate.
Whilst they may feel these things are acceptable, it’s worth pointing out both the majority circumstance and the majority consequence. The former that trolling routinely carried out as a substitute for their proclaimed kin No matter how wonderful they claim their life be, a tissue used in their frustration. Figuratively. I think I have met, since 1983, more than thousand dominants and sadists in person. Those having their sexual needs met – even in part – are generally well-balanced and sociable. They don’t form the core of trolls… that is made of fantasists and frustrated. majority consequence? That bit pretty obvious. People see through bluster easily enough and dawns them that the troll getting their kink rocks off involving a third party who has not consented.
Consent important. ’s also indicative of nature of troll. If they are going bypass consent get gratification online, then of course their standards allow them do in person. This is why trolls don’t have fantastic life with a harem that they project. Because their sociopathic power trips cannot sustain that life.
[ - I missed out the case studies. For brevity. Lilli]
Interacting within a community – particularly when aspects of it are predatory – can be a minefield. There is a huge amount of pressure newcomers don protective armour of ‘ of experience’ just so they aren’t constantly targeted by others seeking cow, intimidate or hoodwink them. That behaviour counter-productive as means everyone ends not actually bonding honestly, but banding together in a dungeon of delusion that feeds on itself and inaccuracy. The more that people seek to attack and deride others instead of relying on their own objective merits, the further they get from a balance and consensual satisfaction.
Remembering little bits of common sense is important. If you ask someone what they do in RL and they are vague or don’t answer… don’t press them or get annoyed that they don’t answer all your questions. Stop asking. You are creating the very problem.
As doms crowd the watering hole where the submissives seek to quench their first, be the hunter with skill and credit. Be the fastest and the best – but don’t pretend you have a machine gun.
The balanced dominant or sadist, masochist or submissive often has a far better understanding of themselves and others than they would take credit for. They enjoy the BDSM communes online and don’t seek to force their opinions about RL or another person on others.
That’s because they understand the notion of respect – which applies to all these groups. When you are in a minority of the population, where books such as the DSM-5 in the US are decades behind Europe and indicate you have a disorder, where your opportunity to share your thoughts and feelings with a like mind are preciously rare… you would need to be intensely sociopathic not to respect those opportunities.
Intense Sociopathy IS a disorder.
[Missed out the next pages too. I think this extract pretty much said it all, based on what I’ve seen here. Written by Troy in 2003. Not sure where it was originally published. Could have been usenet or something. Resides in the house manual which I was allowed to keep.
I don’t blog here. I used to. Under the name Exhibitibi. If I should ever return to active kink and blogging then it won’t be in a place suffering Sick Community Syndrome
Lilli
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