scammers
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Posted:Mar 24, 2017 4:05 pm
Last Updated:May 7, 2024 5:6 am 6278 Views
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scammers people wanting to make money any way they need to, mostly looking for the gullible male or female they can cheat money out of. I have been scammed by the best modtly that is the reason I come to alt, they help me keep gold membership, thy keep the emails coming by pretending to be exatly what I desire and I keep them interested by playing thier game knowing they will seek money from me sooner or later, there are plenty of scammers here to keep the game playing many years.. no one actually is seeking a worthwhile relationship no matter what their profile says, they lie and cheat, play games men pretending to be women, women pretending to be alone, pretending to be interested all for that mighty dollar.......... zi have not found one seriously interested in a relationship, NOT ONE, NOT ONE SINGLE PERSON, just desire cyber play.... cyber subs cyber slaves, cyber doms, cyber masters....they know they will be found out easily in real time so they stay on the internet and play thier games.........scammers, yes, i have met many.and will continue to meet many more i enjoy playing with them....but I do not take it seriously, for these people have no idea what it means being serious!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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a strong sub or slave
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Posted:Jan 8, 2017 9:14 am
Last Updated:May 7, 2024 5:6 am 7786 Views
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A strong sub/slave is to me, One that will stand by her Dom/me, Master,Mistress against all others. She/he is not a weak door mat that succumbs to the will of all others. They learn about BDSM and themselves, They gain the knowledge by seeking the truth about this lifestyle in general, Not by being lazy and stupid by asking for a dominant to teach them in their profile. Nothing comes easy that is worth anything. Knowledge is POWER, and all need this type of power in the lifestyle to keep themselves safe. They need to know the difference between a fake and a real dominant. Once they chose to serve a dominant that dominant teaches them, Guides them, Helps them overcome obstacles in their path, For the more the sub/slave knows the better for the dominant and for the sub/slave as well. A strong sub/slave that submits themselves to a Dominant is a treasure to the dominant, One to be cherished forever. A strong sub/slave can stand on their own two feet, But, Kneel to their Master or Mistress, and submits to their Dom/me. But to NO ONE ELSE. They may listen to others give opinions and ideas, But, Always speaks to her/his Master, Mistress or Dom/me for clarification. They seek in websites for information, They join a munch or a BDSM club and go to the seminars, insights, and other programs to build on this knowledge, The more knowledge they have the better to serve to their dominant. KNOWLEDGE is power, The more one knows the safer they will be, The stronger they will be, The more worthy they will be to the dominant.. Door mats are okay for the players and fakes to use and play with at times. But the strong sub/slave, Will have a relationship that outlasts all others.. I seek to help any and all that want help or asks for it in sincerity...I play no games with people, I do not cyber play with anyone....I seek not to chastise anyone for their beliefs. All I care about doing is making friends and to help anyone that wants help...
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knowledge and Mentors
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Posted:Jan 8, 2017 9:13 am
Last Updated:May 7, 2024 5:6 am 7830 Views
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Knowledge is something we all need and desire well some of us anyway, if your here to troll and abuse, then you only need a "little" knowledge, to impress a new sub that knows nothing...subs, that come in this lifestyle need to arm themselves with as much knowledge as they can get, before seeking a Dom/me, knowledge, is the KEY word in this lifestyle, for each of us, knowledge, protects us from those that may try to lie, to make you believe in something that just is not so...there is a wealth of information on the internet, in your local BDSM club, seek Knowledge first, to arm yourself against trolls and abusers, learn of the Dom/me, learn what they are, why they are, whats make them tick...learn the difference between a real Dom/me and a Fake, read of the red flags, (danger signals)to protect yourself....then learn of the submissive, of the slave and of the switch, then once your prepared go seek your chosen one, but please arm yourself with knowledge I have seen so many get hurt simply because they did not know, they had no idea what they were doing, they wanted to come in the lifestyle and let someone teach them alt,only later to realize, they have been used and abused, and they still do not know the lifestyle, after one reads and studies, the information and arm themselves with knowledge,seek out a mentor.
A REAL MENTOR, NOT A FAKE ONE, MANY CLAIM TO BE REAL AND ARE NOT..a mentor is a friend a counselor a negotiator a confidant...but mostly a teacher, he/she is not your Dom/me, nor your Master/Mistress, You do not need to submit to his/her will, they teach, thats all they do, if your not there to learn, thats your fault, your being punished by not learning. what they have to teach, they, (the mentors) do not punish you or give you the silent treatment...mentors do not play, they do not have cyber sex, they teach by communication, hands off type of teaching, they should have real time experience, as well as virtual time, they should have most of the informational sites that are needed, if they can not answer your question they should be able to look it up or direct you where to go to get the answer, NO ONE KNOWS EVERYTHING ABOUT EVERYTHING. a mentor can be a switch, sub, slave, Dom/me, Master or Mistress, male or female, they are kind polite and courteous.you should be able to trust your mentor with everything, even though they will never ask for proof of this trust, they do not care what you look like, they will not be in a relationship with you, they will teach you...only, they teach (IN GENERA about the Whole lifestyle not just a certain part, you later decide what part your most interested in, they do not direct you to a certain path, that is for you to decide...If a dom says to you that he is into S&M and will teach you that, walk away...you need to learn of it all, not just one certain part, besides you may not be interested in receiving pain...no one can make you into something your not, not even a mentor, what you have in your heart and soul is what you are...If you believe your a Dom/me because thats the feeling you have deep within you then that is what you are, the same is true of the submissive, there is no such thing as being a good sub, makes you a better Dom/me, that is hogwash, or learning to be a good dom/me, makes you a better sub, thats also hogwash, look within yourself for what you want to be, is there, in your own heart and soul, seems I have gotten away from the subject at hand, seek knowledge, then seek a true mentor, The mentor will help you seek your special ONE...goodluck and GOD BLESS....... MasterLon
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dungeons and munches
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Posted:Jan 8, 2017 9:12 am
Last Updated:May 7, 2024 5:6 am 7628 Views
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There are so many out there all different in some respects but all the same in others. A Dungeon is a meeting place for all in the lifestyle a place where they can socialize with others. A place where the masochist can gain pleasure and the sadist can give that pleasure, but not only for that, It is a place to learn also of the lifestyle, they have classes seminars and ensights on varying topics from "how to" classes to "relationships". A dungeon can be any type of building, from a house to an industrial building, but beware of those that meet at someones house where they live, usually they do not have monitors at their house and it is anything goes which means sex and alcohol and sometimes a sadist gets carried away and no one there to stop him or her... always think of your safety first not that your friends are going, they will be in scenes themselves with other friends, and what of yourself?? always beware...I like bonified dungeons those that are places where no one lives and is a dungeon when they are open.. A place where monitors are evident and safety is most important...MUNCHES, Is a meeting at a vanilla menu usually at a restaurant, where folks meet and eat and socialize. No playing allowed and wear regular clothes..If you go alone leave alone, if you go with a friend leave with that friend. again always beware of your safety.
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beware what you say to a so called dominant
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Posted:Jan 8, 2017 9:10 am
Last Updated:Apr 10, 2020 12:50 pm 7746 Views
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I went to two dungeons tonight one place I was so bored I almost went to sleep. I went to another and..well it went like this...there was this couple that came in she had on a collar and leash. He demanded to be called Master John, and any one that adressed him should do so on thier knees, now you can imagine what he was told by a few others I will not go there, but he was escorted to the back door unceremoniously and kicked out...his slave was in tears, she was so ashamed and embarrassed by his words and wanted to leave but they would not allow her to instead made her stay and calmed her down, she then began telling us how she met him and why she submitted to him, this is what I wanted to tell everyone here. She told him in a chatroom what she wanted needed and desired, he took it from there and made himself to be her perfect match. He said all the right things at the right times right down to the very last detail, he was perfect for her, she new he was in the chatroom for a while before speaking to her but did not notice that was wrong, this male was indeed an egomaniac not dominant at all...now what to say.....DO NOT TELL THE DOMINANT WHAT YOU SEEK, WHAT YOU WANT, WHAT YOU DESIRE..........LET THE DOMINANT TELL YOU WHAT HE WANTS, WHAT HE NEEDS AND WHAT HE DESIRES AND THEN SEE IF IT IS A MATCH TO WHAT YOU WANT, NEED AND DESIRE AS WELL. If you tell him first, he can make it appear that he is your match just for the sex...do not play games with the dominant your not his submissive until you actually submit to him. You have your choice, of many dominants choose well...remember your life is in your own hands until you submit then it is given to the dominant, Do you really want to give your life to one that does not respect you and only wants sex without the responsibility???.....YOUR CHOICE....
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morals and values
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Posted:Jan 8, 2017 9:09 am
Last Updated:Nov 12, 2018 3:47 pm 7938 Views
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This morning two beautiful women asked me a couple of questions I could not answer in the chatroom,so I promised I would answer in a blog, First this is my own opinion and it is not written in stone.... Morals have changed a great deal in what I remember from yesteryear, Vanillas bring in thier own ideals morals and values to the lifestyle and change it....some change is good but others?? well just my own opinion it sucks...
Yesteryear we did not even think to have sex with our that was just plain unthinkable, today in bdsm people talk of affairs, Yesterday we did not even think of scat play or piss play those belonged in a toilet not on each other, Poly relationships were when two or more women LIVED with the dominant, not like today when a couple of slaves live in thier own houses and the Master lives in his house, yet claim to be in a poly relationship. We were stern ridgid and fully sturctured some today could be what we used to call dominants, because they are mostly vanilla with a little kink added, but today they are called Dominants, Yesterday slaves were slaves, today again a little kink added to thier lives and they proclaim to be a slave, Most Have no idea what a slave is, let alone to being one. yet by todays standards they are slaves. Yeaterday Masters, Mistresses, were given that title by a group of their peers, after they learned the lifestyle and obtain for themselfs a slave. Today any 12 year old can take the title out of the blue and proclaim himself to be Master, read a few websites watch a movie then go for it...say one or maybe 2 days???? I started learning when I was 14 years old 1959, when I reached 21yearsold, 1966,I gained the title and a slave of my own...we were together for 29 years if not for pancreatic cancer we would still be together today. Those of yesteryear made the relationship last it actually meant something, they both worked at it...just like the collar it meant something. not like today when a male takes on a slave then a little while later they split up because the no longer like each other....lol. We in the groups/houses of yesteryear took care of each other, if someone lost thier job we would all get together collect money to pay thier bills and make sure there was food in the house, and we also helped get him a new job. that family structure does not apply at all today. People in the dungeon today say "Gee sorry your having all these problems sure wish I could help" yesteryear we WOULD HELP, not just wish it. We valued Honesty above all things, If one showed to us he or she was not 100% honest at all times he or she would be removed from the group or house, not today, that would not happen, some would take an apology and let it go...there were mistakes honest mistakes...we knew the difference... Values and Morals yes they have changed, the lifestyle has changed also some say for the best others say for the worst I say...it has changed..
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acceptable manners and etiquette
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Posted:Jan 8, 2017 9:07 am
Last Updated:May 7, 2024 5:6 am 8081 Views
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Within the vast ocean of Domination there are a few that stand out amongst the waves, There are those that are worthy to own. These individual’s stand out for many reasons, and to each submissive/slave there is something they look for in a Dominant. A submissive/slave will normally choose a Dominant that they have something in common with, They will have similar limits, Ethics, Morals and Interests. Just because a Dominant is different or unique in some manner does not make them undesirable either, in fact in many ways it is the uniqueness that makes a Dominant more desirable to some submissives/slaves. It is not race, or age, gender, or ethnicity, or appearance that makes a Dominant worthy to own, It is what is inside of the individual.
There are many things that a Dominant will learn with experience, such as control, understanding, compassion, consistency, technique, respect, and safety. There are some things however that sometimes go with out notice, To me manners, Protocol and Etiquette are very important. A Dominant may have the techniques and safety issues down pat but have absolutely atrocious manners, or someone may be powerful, and consistent but not know the slightest thing about etiquette or appropriate behavior, These individuals may have problems finding a partner. Without a good understanding of appropriate behavior one will find it very difficult to make a good first impression. Also public gatherings are very awkward when one is not familiar with protocol or acceptable behaviors.
Likewise someone that is new to the lifestyle that is still inexperienced in many ways will be a hit when he or she expresses good manners.
I have written a few tips that I think are a good start to understanding proper manners and etiquette for a Dominant.
PUBLIC OR GROUP BEHAVIOR
When first meeting someone do not address them as a familiar, even if someone is a sub/slave it is appropriate to show respect. Do not rush up to a sub/slave, It tends to make one appear desperate. Walk with pride and dignity, Do not flitter around a room. Do not follow a sub/slave around or crowd him or her, he or she may think you may mean them harm. Do not assume that just because someone is a sub/slave that they are there to serve you. Remember to say please and thank you, It doesn’t mean that you are weak or less of a Dominant to show you have manners. Mingle, talk to everyone, and don’t just hover over one specific individual. Do not appear jealous, or threatened when another Dominant is near, This is a sure sign of insecurity or low self-esteem. Be yourself, don’t get into a pissing contest with other Dominants, You should not feel you need to prove yourself. Ask permission to speak to someone. If you are unsure as to whether an individual is owned or not, Ask. It is not a good idea to step on others toes. Do not get offended if someone refuses to talk they may be under protocol from his or her Dominant and are not permitted to answer. Never touch another Dominant’s property. This goes for toys, and individuals, If you are unsure if someone is owned….DON’T TOUCH. Never stare at a sub/slave, It not only makes them uncomfortable, But it may very well scare them away. Do not use profanity, Your choice of words may very well be what makes you stand out to someone. Do not raise your voice or yell across the room, Just because you are a Dominant doesn’t mean you have to break someone else’s eardrums. It is acceptable to open the door for others, Even subs/slaves. Do not barge through an open door, It will make you appear clumsy and bullish. Do not attempt to dominate someone you are not familiar with, Just because someone is a sub/slave doesn’t mean they are YOUR sub/slave. Never be rude or show disrespect. If you show disrespect to my slave you show disrespect to Me. If you offend someone, It is appropriate to apologize, Do not be too proud to say I am sorry. Do not make sexual inferences to someone you are unfamiliar with, Teasing and having fun is acceptable but make sure you know the person before you go to far. Never assume anything and don’t be afraid to ask questions. Do not correct another Dominant, Especially in front of his or her sub/slave, Show respect. You can have a difference of opinion but remember to express yourself in a manner that will show respect. Do not assume that all females are submissive and that all males are Dominant. Do not consume alcohol or drink to excess, Also never attempt to drink and drive. Do no loose control, There is nothing that shows a persons immaturity as a temper tantrum. Do not trespass within someone’s personal space, Remember trespassers may be shot.
General Tips
Do not assume that your sub/slave knows what you are thinking, If you need something ask. Do not interfere with the way another Dominant is treating his or her sub/slave. You may not understand something, If a behavior is questionable, Then ask questions. If a behavior appears to be dangerous, It is acceptable to voice your concerns but do so in an appropriate manner. Do not ignore your sub/slave. Just because they know what is expected doesn’t mean they wish to be ignored, or abandoned. Do not leave your slave without letting him or her know where you will be. If you must leave them unattended ask a respected Dominant to keep an eye out for him or her. Never put your sub/slave in danger, Remember he or she is a precious thing. It is a terrible thing to waste a good sub/slave. Don’t be wishy-washy, a sub/slave should know what behaviors are acceptable, Do not allow him or her to get away with an unacceptable behavior. Be consistent, If a behavior is inappropriate at home it is inappropriate in public. If your sub/slave is uncomfortable take the time and listen to him or her, Maybe something has occurred that you are unaware of. If a behavior must be addressed immediately take the sub/slave to a private area and discuss the issue. Do not strike your sub/slave in frustration or anger, Always retain control over your emotions. At all times you must remember that you are a Dominant, behave with Honor, Dignity, and Self-Confidence. A true Dominant does not feel that he or she must compete or try to impress others. If you are a novice within the lifestyle remember, so was everyone else at one time or another. We all learn and grow as time passes, those that are too stubborn to learn or are too proud to admit that they do not know something are not going to get very far in this lifestyle. Knowledge is something to be shared and gathered. Just like all other articles I have written this is my opinion, please take from this article what you wish and ignore the rest.
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we seek a real time relationship
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Posted:Jan 8, 2017 9:05 am
Last Updated:May 7, 2024 5:6 am 8193 Views
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We all here, Well some of us anyway, Seek a real time relationship with another.This brings up anxiety, nervousness, one being scared. With so many questions left unanswered like will he or she like me, Will we click or have the right chemistry. I do not have all the answers, Sure wish I did, Would make things much easier.
Lets start off with talking (emails/IM's/Phone) you ask many questions of each other to try and get to know the other person. Well questions about BDSM sure, But, Also about vanilla things since you should have interests in other things besides BDSM. Living together or just belonging together, You will eventually be doing other things together besides BDSM, It is about life, Since both vanilla and BDSM is mixed in a relationship one can not do a solid 24/7 BDSM lifestyle relationship. You ask about likes and dislikes, Favorite things they do and things they do not like to do, Favorite colors, Flowers, Songs, etc. What are their long range plans are and short range plans for now (their goals), Besides having a relationship...Then you ask questions about BDSM...Ask the same questions a few times mark down the answer each time all of them should be the same, If not beware. Ask the same question a little bit differently but still meaning the same thing the answer should still be the same...Ask as many questions as you can think of if the so called dominant refuses, Dump them and seek another, Dominants do not push nor rush you to do something your not ready to do...Dominants to not try to dominate you until you submit to them. Dominants do not make fun of you, Nor play head games with you, Nor do they want cybersex or phone sex...Dominants are polite and courteous to all, All the time, Well except for trolls..lol. The submissive has all the power she/he decides when to talk and what to talk about, She decides when it is time to meet and where..If the person your speaking to does not go along with this dump them and seek another.
Ok lets say you both have talked until your blue in the face you both like each other well enough to meet face to face. What do you do now. Well, First the dominant wants you to feel safe, To do that he will offer you his information, Drivers license number, License plate number to his car and name , Address and phone to where he works as well. If he does not volunteer this you ask for it, If refused dump him and seek another.Some say the sub also gives their info I say no...Not yet. Second we need to set up a safety network...Remember your meeting someone you only been talking to online..and/or on the phone...A safety network, The sub gives the info she got from the dominant after checking to make sure it is real, To a friend and tells that friend if she does not call, To call the police. Well you go to the meeting place, A vanilla restaurant for lunch or breakfast, Go dutch is okay. DO NOT leave the restaurant with the dominant for any reason, Do not forget to call your friend every so often, After your meeting, Do not go directly to your car but do some window shopping your stalling for time for the dominant to leave, See what if the dominant follows you...You could have a stalker if not all went well with the meeting and about the meeting if you find him or her different from pics shown on profile or out right lies, For example age is different, Body size, One lie means they lie about other things too, Dump him or her and seek another. You can also bring a friend with you just have the friend sitting a little away from you...Best to be overly cautious than dead...
Have a few more meetings and when your ready, You shall know when, Time to play or submit to him or her....Always ask yourself this one question...Do I trust him/her with my life??? If so go for it, But if there is a question or your not sure, DON'T.....
Good luck hope all ends well and you have a happy life..
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just a rant
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Posted:Jan 8, 2017 9:01 am
Last Updated:Jun 16, 2017 7:05 pm 7632 Views
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I do not play nor pretend in any chatroom except to give hugs and waves back at some people. I go into the newbie room to help others, and say hello to friends I converse some and try to help when I can. to me it is hard to do anything when the room goes bonkers. and I have seen newbs questions get ignored, I do not even try to answer myself because no one really can be serious when no one else is. But I also have seen the room stop playing and get serious and answer questions, depends who is in the room at the time. I do not seek a sub or a slave in that room, I seek only to help. the newbie room is not a place to pick up or start to talk about relationshps. the so called idiot doms come in there seeking out a newbie to get as a sub or slave. this is not the place for that, when I make a statement about it I get jumped on, People really do not know what that room was meant for nor do they care.( a place for fresh meat ).
Long ago we used to stand up for each other, When an a person spoke out against someone we all would stand and back our friends or those that we know is there to help and has the knowledge, today this is called drama, peope are told do not argue back, let it go, do not stand for your friends, all this drama is not needed, but for the person that started it in the first place its okay, let him say what ever he wants, even if it is a lie and bad info. But I tell you this, if we all stood up for each other a lot of the BS in that room would come to a screaming stop and drama would be cut 90%....and then you have some that laeve the room not even caring what happens to others, BUT a room united, standing tall, there to enjoy themselves as well as helping others will get the job done in less time and less drama. now the question is can we get a room united??
I have seen a few so called doms give out stupid answers for honest questions, I like to think they are just being silly and sarcastic, but the newbie does not know that. so I speak up and another interrupts me and acts like he knows it all, when actually he knows nothing. Gads if you do not know, keep your freakin mouth shut and let others answer that do know. Stop agreeing with those that show no respect for the newbie nor anyone else. sorry for this but I had to rant about this to get it out of my system
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communication
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Posted:Jan 8, 2017 9:00 am
Last Updated:May 7, 2024 5:6 am 7453 Views
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COmmunication is so very important in a relationship but not only there but anywhere two people talk. I have found that many agree to it but those same people do not properly communicate with others.
I like talking and learning about others. example, I talked with one lady (no names) for a few days about a relationship, we both believed in the same things exactly it was so uncanny it was like everything was perfect for us, trouble is after a few weeks she stopped the communication about a relationship saying that she was sick, bullshit., she just stopped and wanted to be friends only., she wanted someone younger, because not so long after this she had a dom of her own that was in his early fifties, I am 67....She was not the first to dump me for someone younger, no problem. I laughed about it and continued my journey.
Problem here was she could have said in the beginning I was too old for her it would be cool, she knew I wanted honesty at all times..oh well lack of communication.
I talked to another lady for 2 months and decided to test her I said something to the effect that I needed to call off the meeting we both agreed to and set it for a week later, I asked if that was okay, she had a fit, this ruined all her plans and because I was so thoughtless she dumped me, How was I to know that she had plans made to meet a new guy every week until she found one she liked. she did not pass in communication she jumped to conclusions she did not ask why or what just dumped me, Lack of communication.
This is not an age thing it is not a gender thing everyone does it no wonder relationships do not stay together, lack of communication wow, One more example then I go play a game,
I met a ladie online she was way younger than I am she said thats what she wanted well for the heck of it I said okay, we started talking and learning about each other I was impressed with her she is a very intelligent lady, and pretty also. she had views that I liked, still do, all was going fine she said she liked to be given taskes so I gave her a task to perform each morning she said no problem, yes well, I decided again to test this one on communication, I said something about meering sooner, OMG she blew a gasket, she texted me 4 texts to my one ended up saying that she could not be what I wanted her to be, I wanted exactly what she said she desired to be, nothing different, needless to say she did not pass the communication test either, she stopped everything I mean everything, no more taskes, no more communication nothing. I gave up and walked away.
communication to me is a lot more than just talking about a relationship, or getting to know about each other. its more than just saying hello/ goodbye etc, communication is about asking questions, making sure of something or the meaning of what someone, says you just do not blow up at what you think someone means you ask them. You never assume anything you ask. verification, communication, talking, be up front and honest in the beginning if someone is too old or too young gawd tell them, do not wait to let him get involved them hit him with it, if your not willing to communicate 100% do not start and play him for a fool.............
Now I sit here with my computer at 6:30 am saturday morning, and thinking maybe being alone the rest of my life will not be such a bad thing, I have some great memories of my past that can keep me company on those lonely days ahead, maybe get a for a pet and to be my friend, get a tv and a remote to come on at a certain time for the noise and turn itself off at night, so I can get to sleep. cable internet to say hello to friends,,,,
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