HAPPY HALLOWEEN
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Posted:Oct 31, 2013 8:53 am
Last Updated:Nov 5, 2013 5:16 pm 45005 Views
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All the ghosts, goblins, witches, ninja turtles et al will be about tonight gathering scrumptious goodies door to door. Ah, I remember those days well when I would rendezvous with a few of My buddies and begin our lengthy quest to gather as much candy as we could. I'd always go home and empty My pillow case on the floor to examine My bounty and delight in all the goodies I'd be devouring over the next few days. I assume all of you did the same, in one form or another.
As I've grown up (not necessarily 'matured' , I've found Halloween is as much of an adult event as it is for . It's the one night of the year when we get to use our imaginations and dress as silly as we care to and PARTY! I'll assume most of you did your Halloween partying last Saturday night - Thursday nights aren't the best for throwing a Halloween party, but perhaps some of you are indeed going out to 'howl at the moon' tonight.
Here at our townhouse association, we had our party last Saturday. BYOB with a pot luck dinner. It was fun! What did I dress as you ask? I went down to the local 'thrift' store and bought a shiny silver knight's helmet complete with a swiveling face plate. That's as far as My costume went - Yeah, I know - LAME. My attempt to make a chest protector out of aluminum foil failed miserably, so I took the 'WTF' attitude and went 'as is'.
What about you people? Any good childhood memories or current year Halloween activities you'd care to share with fellow kinksters?
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Got Tagged .... Ten Things
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Posted:Oct 20, 2013 8:40 am
Last Updated:Nov 26, 2013 7:53 am 52729 Views
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10 Things You Don't Know About Me....
1) I'm an Army Brat and grew up all over the world.
2) I could eat pumpkin pie each and every day.
3) I served in the USMC..... Oooo Rahhhhhhh!!!!!
4) I'm a legs and ass Man! Tits are secondary.
5) I have two college degrees. Anthropology & Accounting.
6) I'm president of My Homeowner's Association.
7) I'm afraid of heights and lightening.
 Cool Hand Luke is My favorite movie.
9) I have a very soft heart.
10) Spanking a nice ass is My favorite activity. OTK preferred.
And there you have it!
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Mouths to feed
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Posted:Oct 10, 2013 8:52 am
Last Updated:Nov 6, 2013 6:13 pm 52614 Views
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As I was finishing My work at a car dealership on Tuesday, I pulled up next to the dumpster out back to throw out some trash. As I was pulling up to it, I noticed some kittens sitting and laying around under some bushes behind the dumpster. From the size of them, I estimate they are approximately 4 to 5 months old. Being an animal lover, I slowly approached them calling "kitty, kitty, kitty". Naturally, being feral, they all scattered in various directions. I carry around a 50 lb. bag of cat food in My work van because I run across feral cats a lot in My work. I figured these guys would be hungry, so I semi crawled under the bushes to retrieve a plastic plate I saw under there. I washed it off and filled it with two scoops of food and then placed it back deep under the bushes. I walked back a ways to watch and sure enough, they started coming out of their hiding places one by one and started to devour the food. Hungry indeed! Knowing they have to fend for themselves and that winter is coming, I've sort of 'adopted' them now. I went back yesterday to again fill their plate and then watch them gather for their feast. I'll make another trip over there today too. My soft heart for animals has gotten Me again ....
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Life
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Posted:Jun 11, 2013 5:23 pm
Last Updated:Nov 5, 2013 3:46 pm 64850 Views
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A: "Life"
B: "What's life?"
A: "Twenty-five cents"
B: "I don't have twenty-five cents"
A: "That's life"
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What's a 'bottom'
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Posted:May 12, 2013 7:31 am
Last Updated:May 15, 2016 5:43 am 67978 Views
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First a 'caveat'. When I talk to or mentor a new(er) submissive, I always give her My first rule of the lifestyle, which is: 'There are no rules about BDSM carved in granite anywhere ... It's what works between the two people involved'.
For example, a submissive doesn't have to do this or do that or be this way or be that way in order for her to consider herself a submissive or for others to consider her a submissive. I hear too often that a submissive has been told she's not actually a submissive because she doesn't do certain things or act in a certain manner. Personally, I consider this total BS.
I also tell a new(er) submissive that if you ask 100 different people to define a term you see used in our lifestyle, you'll get 100 different answers. That is fine and the way you'd expect it to be. Any 'term' will have common threads in the definition, but everyone will have their own little twist on it too.
For example, "What is a 'slave'"? THAT definition will be all over the map. Today, I'd like your personal definition of "What is a 'bottom'"?
In My experience, I've come to define the term as someone who allows herself to be used (bottom) for a specific purpose or purposes, not necessarily (and often not) related to sex. To expand, perhaps someone that enjoys spanking and will 'bottom for' a Dominant who loves to spank. Or someone who will 'bottom for' a Dominant who loves to flog, suspend, cane, or any other activity you can come up with. I could go on and on with more examples and try to narrow down the term more, but I'd like your personal definitions and thoughts.
The more I think about it, perhaps the idea of a definition of BDSM terms is an oxymoron in and of itself.
Your mileages may vary!
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Under Consideration
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Posted:May 6, 2013 7:06 am
Last Updated:May 15, 2016 5:44 am 69978 Views
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I see this term used here and there on ALT all the time. Whenever I do, I think to Myself, "A newbie caught up in the jargon of someone equally new".
I know, I know .... Some of the more experienced and 'Old School' BDSMers use this phrase too. I'm just relating what goes through My mind when I see it. I will add that it seems 9 times out of 10 that the person using it will show on their profile that they are 'new' to the scene. THAT certainly influences My reaction.
Now some of you will tell Me to, "See page 35, paragraph 6, section A" of the BDSM Code of Conduct. Well, I've lost My Code of Conduct, so I'm just winging it here. It would seem to Me (Dumb and naive as I am) that ANY relationship starts with BOTH parties being Under Consideration by the other. Am I missing something?
When I see a submissive/slave use the term, I think, by definition, that she is already caught - Hook, line and sinker and that the only determining factor now is if the Dom/Master decides she will 'pass' some arbitrary testing of her worthiness. Again, I may be missing something.
your mileage may indeed vary.
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Those legs....
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Posted:May 4, 2013 6:47 am
Last Updated:May 15, 2016 5:46 am 66687 Views
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Is there anything better than Spring (Well, other than Fall, when college football starts!)? It's when 'those legs' start appearing again. You know the ones - Those displayed in the shorter shorts. Yeah, they come out in Spring to start their tanning process after a long winter of being hidden away from view.
Yes indeed, I am a legs and ass Man! Show Me a great pair of legs and My tongue gets hard.  If they happen to be walking around in a pair of flip flops, where the feet are displayed too, all the better. Maybe I'm actually a legs, ass and foot Man.
What about tits you ask? If the legs and ass are fine they become 'optional'. Sure, I love tits as well as the next Man, but they are secondary to the legs and ass. My eyes are always drawn below the waist, not above it. What was that saying in high school? (I digress) "Anything larger than a champagne glass is a waste".
Yesterday as I waited in line at the bank, there was a pair of gorgeous legs with an exceptional ass waiting in line ahead of Me. I could have stood there all fucking day long looking at them! Normally a line takes forever to move forward. As fate would have it, (Drat the luck) this one moved all too fast! FUCK!
Oh well, it is Spring and then Summer ..... Lots more legs, asses and flip flops to go!
Your mileage may vary.
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My New Buddy Part II
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Posted:Apr 12, 2013 7:56 am
Last Updated:May 15, 2016 5:47 am 69915 Views
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Back in January, I blogged about 'My New Buddy'. In summary, I had noticed a half starved freezing cold (weather was abysmal at that time) cat at one of the car dealerships I work at. It was hiding/living under a storage shed belonging to a nearby church. I 'adopted' the cat and began bringing it food.
One day, after I'd been feeding it for about three weeks, I ran into a church worker as I was placing food under the shed. I wasn't sure if they were fond of having a stray cat around, so I sort of said, "I'm just feeding a stray cat I happened to notice here - Is that OK?" He said he had noticed the cat a few times and had wondered if it would survive, given the weather and snow pack. Then he said, "Yeah, you can feed it if you want to".
Fast forward another month. As I was again placing food under the shed, I ran into the same guy. He said, "I saw your cat the other day and 'Man does he look different and healthy'". I said, "Yeah, it's funny how that will happen when it's got something to eat". This made Me feel good, since I hadn't seen the cat since the initial contact .... But the food I put there was always gone.
I'm on My third bag of cat food now and I did see My buddy this past Monday sunning himself. He/she did look good!  I parked My work van and slowly walked over to where it was, yet when it noticed Me it scurried under a building. Some way to treat it's benefactor! LOL.
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Red Flag
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Posted:Apr 7, 2013 8:58 am
Last Updated:Oct 5, 2017 12:33 am 69433 Views
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"Red flag" is a term to describe a personal trait or behavior that is common in people who are harmful to their partners. When getting to know someone online it is very important that you look for these flags. When you see these red flags, slow down or stop the relationship. Understand that none of these red flags alone are definitely a sign of a bad person. They only tend to be an indicator of a problem situation. The more you see these red flags, the more you are at risk. Many of these red flags can apply to both unhealthy Dominants and submissives. These recommendations are to help you avoid getting into an abusive relationship.
Red Flags:
1 - Tries to separate you from your friends, family or BDSM community.
2 - Avoids talking about personal details. They get mad when you ask or quickly ends the conversation or answers questions with questions.
3 - Has no BDSM references or friends you can talk to.
4 - Gets angry when you ask for references or ask around about them.
5 - Is inconsistent with details about themselves.
6 - Does not give you their home and work phone number at the appropriate time.
7 - Only communicates with you at strange hours and gets mad if you try to contact them at other times.
8 - Criticizes the BDSM community and refuses to participate, especially if they never were part of it.
9 - Consistently breaks promises.
10 - Always finds excuses for not meeting.
11 - Always puts blame on others for things going wrong.
12 - Does not take personal responsibility.
13 - Has bad relationships with most or all of their family members.
14 - Pressures you into doing things you do not want to do.
15 - Does not respect your limits, negotiations or contracts.
16 - Pushes you into a D/s relationship too fast.
17 - Falls in love with you way too fast and swears undying love before even meeting you.
18 - Hides behind their D/s authority and says that their authority should not be questioned.
19 - Tries to make you feel guilty for not being good enough. They say that you are not a "True" sub.
20 - Loses control of their emotions in arguments and regresses to yelling, name-calling and blame.
21 - Puts you down in front of other people.
22 - Turns instantly on their friends, going from best friend to arch enemy at the drop of a hat.
23 - Treats you lovingly and respectfully one day and then harshly and accusingly the next.
24 - Goes to great lengths to get revenge on people.
25 - Lies or withholds information. Cheats on you or is overly jealous.
26 - Will not discuss what your possible future relationship could be like.
27 - Tries to keep you in the dark about what might happen next in the relationship.
28 - Does not respect your feelings, rights, or opinions.
29 - Belittles your ideas, thoughts and/or feelings.
30 - Blames you for your hurt feelings.
31 - Abuses alcohol or other drugs.
32 - Is constantly asking for large amounts of money from you or others.
33 - Threatens suicide or other forms of self-harm
34 - Deliberately saying or doing things that result in getting themselves seriously hurt
35 - Monitors your communications (emails, phone calls, chats) with others
36 - Only interacts with you in a kinky or sexual manner as if role-playing.
37 - Will not have normal everyday vanilla conversations.
38 - Never shows you their human side, is emotionless, and/or hides their vulnerability behind their D/s role.
39 - Has multiple online identities for interacting with the same communities.
40 - Disappears from communication for days or weeks at a time without explanation.
41 - Is rude to public servants such as waitresses, cashiers and janitors.
42 - Never says thank you, excuse me or I am sorry to anyone.
I did not write this .... I 'borrowed' it from another blog I read, yet feel it is worth repeating. Some of you are going to agree with certain portions of it, none of it or all of it. Sort of the 'Buyer Beware' list ... Especially for a new(er) submissive.
Your mileage may vary.
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