Soul for a soul.
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Posted:Dec 18, 2022 10:19 am
Last Updated:Jan 6, 2023 1:22 pm 5700 Views
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I'm a curious creature. I like learning and exploring. I wish I knew if my submissive nature had anything to do with that foundation block or if I'm just naturally that way.
It is very nice to meet you. For the sake of pleasantries, I'll be using this name on this site so you may refer to me as Bree.
I value growth. So in honor of that, I'm looking for a connection.
I'm looking to connect and make friendships, with individuals of all types. This allows me to learn. It allows me to grow and reconditions my thoughts and actions from what I once knew to a new way of thinking.
Private Bree posting.
Feel free to comment below.
These messages stay private.
Bree
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A New Year
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Posted:Jan 1, 2023 5:54 am
Last Updated:Jan 17, 2023 2:33 pm 5214 Views
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Be someone who listens, and you will be heard.
Be someone who cares, and you will be loved.
Be someone who gives, and you will be blessed.
Be someone who comforts, and you will know peace.
Be someone who genuinely seeks to understand, and you will be wise.
Be someone kind, someone considerate, and you will be admired.
Be someone who takes action and you will move life forward.
Be someone who lifts others higher and your life will be rich.
Be someone who is filled with gratitude, and there will be no end to the things for which you'll be thankful.
Be someone who lives with joy, with purpose, as your light brightly shines.
BE, in every moment, the special someone you are truly meant to be.
by Ralph Marston
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Marking your territory
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Posted:Dec 30, 2022 4:32 am
Last Updated:Feb 28, 2023 12:23 pm 5872 Views
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Urophilia,
To clarify in simple terms, becoming sexually aroused by pee. Whether it's peeing on or being peed on, the scent, sound, or taste stimulates them erotically. Be truthful. How many of you when presented with the idea of one or the other and said to yourself urine is my kink? Did you say no way man, not me? This was me. This was me two weeks ago. A few weeks ago a dominant presented this idea to me.
Would you let me pee on you? I don't think I'm alone in... No way, not me. This Dominant was kind enough to give me a task. Research everything you can, watch videos, and then, tell me your honest opinion. "Thank you Sir for presenting such a meaningful task."
I spent hours. and I still had nothing. I researched even more. The technical, the medical, and the lifestyles take. I couldn't decide if I would like to try this. So, I decided to ask questions. It was then that I noticed I was pretty okay with the idea. The dominant marking his territory. If I got nothing out of it, I did get the experience and the opportunity to understand myself better. I continued speaking to this dominant and little by little I became more curious and even began desiring it.
Talk about conditioning.
In many of my posts, I speak about conditioning and reconditioning. Had I been conditioned one way or the other? Yes. Do I desire it? Yes, most definitely. Would I drink it? You guessed it... I'm not rightly sure.  I'm inquisitive about this kink. Is there any bit of wisdom from a novice or a pro? Are there any questions you want answers to?
I invite you to comment and question.
per usual be respectful, please.
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What I am.
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Posted:Dec 29, 2022 8:49 pm
Last Updated:Jan 17, 2023 1:27 pm 5817 Views
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I am a submissive.
I strive to be obedient and compliant to my dominant. I crave being used and I have a need to serve. I strive to please my Dominant in all things, not just sexually. This means that yes I give up some of my personal freedoms. I find this as an even trade.
I try to be obedient and accept discipline when needed. I recognize that my behavior is a direct reflection of my Dominant.
What I am not.
First and foremost, I am not a doormat. I have feelings and needs. I do not serve apathetically or reluctantly. A real Dominant is not going to want a doormat anyway. They want someone who truly desires to be owned.
Being a submissive also isn’t consenting to be abused. Unlike BDSM, abuse has no limits or safewords. Be very careful not to give your submission to just anyone. The true submission has to be earned first. There are many bad and fake Doms out there, and even predators pretending to be Doms.
Take your time.
BDSM Is not a race.
Serving a Dominant is a very fulfilling lifestyle. However, many submissive beginners are lost. Many times they are just looking for someone to fix them, to make them feel complete. But being a submissive in a BDSM relationship is a lot of work – physically, mentally, and sexually.
Being a submissive can be very stressful and lonely at times, so it’s good for us to have some type of support system. Since BDSM is still a taboo lifestyle, find friends, and mentors, and find a community that you feel comfortable with.
Remember, true submission is not just a role, it is a way of life. Being submissive means we are held to a higher standard than just a vanilla partner, I find that it is all worth it.
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May I?
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Posted:Dec 27, 2022 7:49 am
Last Updated:Dec 29, 2022 7:20 pm 5602 Views
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"Breathe." He says.
Eyes close to focus. A breath passes my shivering lips. "Yes, Daddy."
Daddy stands in front of me. His thumb pressing into my mouth. That's it, baby girl. Open all the way.
Opening wider. "Like this daddy?"
That's it, baby girl.
He slides his thumb further into my throat. The airway is restricted now. I breathe slower. More purposeful.
"Good girl," he says as his thumb slides deeper in. He uses his other hand to pull my panties down. I feel cool air wash over my senses.
Shh baby girl. It's ok. Open your mouth for Daddy.
Opening even wider for him, "Like this Daddy?"
"MmmMmm Yes Baby girl. that's perfect."
Feeling Daddy slide past my well-behaved lips for the first time makes me shiver.
Please Daddy... "May I?"
"Yes, baby girl you may."
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Blogging vs Journaling
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Posted:Dec 18, 2022 7:36 am
Last Updated:Jan 17, 2023 2:34 pm 6139 Views
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The 7th day.
I hope your day is treating you kindly.
I set out a week ago with an experiment in mind. This wasn't for anything more than for my own curiosity. Could you write and blog daily? This was my experiment.
Today is the 7th day of a week-long experiment. I am an Escribitionist.
Escribitionist – a term for a person who keeps a diary or journal via electronic means, and in particular, publishes their entries on the World Wide Web.
To clarify I shared my journal with my Sir for 15+ years. You still can access it. It's a recording or recollection of my life. I have transferred apps over the years but, the words are still there. Do you think all the writers out there that are now historical or part of history did it to be famous? I think they did it to tell you a story.
I'm not a professional writer. I don't even pretend to understand a good bit of this world but like you. I live here and I'm alive and I love to learn. One of the best ways to learn is to read, write and comment and research.
I have been journaling on an app that allows you to give another person access to read. There are settings to even go as far as comments or showing that the entry had been read. I mean.. There's an actual app for it. I must not be the only one that wants a way to communicate their thoughts to another very specific person.
I call myself a journaler because Escribitionist takes more time to spell.
About a week ago I thought to myself, "How different can blogging be vs daily journaling? I had never blogged a day in my life but, How hard could it be? What a surprise was I in for? There are a few things that journaling and blogging have in common.
One, when you write, both types speak to an audience. Even if you are the only person who ever reads them. Being able to recount certain events in our life is memorable.
Two, both can invoke emotion. Here, either event can create a series of emotions. By writing certain things you can communicate or at least attempt to try to share what you are feeling.
Three. Communicating visually. Both forms are written words. It doesn't matter the content or why it was written. It was written to engage the reader.
Four. Before writing and submitting you can stop and reflect. Think about what you are trying to communicate. This also allows you to be thorough in your thoughts. Record and jot down everything you are trying to get across before your reader gets ahold of it.
I think journaling has a lot in common with blogging. What about how they are both different?
When I think of how they are both different.One. Journaling, you are writing for yourself. Blogging, you are writing for an audience. Two. Blogging, unless a career seems to be quite difficult. to do daily and all by yourself. As my 7 days had been coming to a close I found it harder to think of a subject or content matter.
Three. How you meet and interact with your audience. As a journaler, you aren't expected to watch your spelling or ensure all your periods are in place. Not if it's just for yourself. I say that and there will be that one person out there that is a stickler for grammar and writing etiquette.
Four You don't have to do your homework to journal. This means a blogger needs to know about the subject matter. Even if the subject is you. You are talking to an audience. Engaging them and keeping them engaged is essential.
This is the first time I've blogged and I don't know about the experts but I found it quite difficult to come up with a daily topic. So my hats off to all you successful bloggers.
Journaling for me is therapeutic. I'm spending time with myself. I'm reflecting on the day's events. I'm training myself to slow down. To be aware of what I say and do or even think. I treat my journaling like I am the audience. I write to myself or " here's a thought," maybe to someone in the future curious about my life.
Do you think when Anne Frank wrote down the events in her life she knew she would become a huge part of history? Probably not. Through her writing, we become voyeurs in some way to another person's life. A part of someone else's story. I don't know about you, but I like stories.
I think if there is one thing I can take away from this little experiment is that, nothing is a race. We learn as we go. We evolve. Evolving is a powerful thing. Growing is an even more powerful thing and I'm on board with it.
Will I be continuing blogging? Yes. Just at my own pace.
If you have a question or thought share and leave a message in the comments. Please be respectful of others.
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masochism
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Posted:Dec 17, 2022 6:34 am
Last Updated:Jan 17, 2023 2:34 pm 6496 Views
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Today we talk about masochism.
mas·och·ism
[ˈmasəˌkizəm, ˈmazəˌkizəm]
NOUN
the tendency to derive pleasure, especially sexual gratification, from one's pain or humiliation:
I very much enjoy obeying orders I am given by my Dominant and not having to worry about the world around me. I love to do things to make another’s life easier; whether doing laundry, setting the table, or enjoying a chat for company. It gives me great satisfaction when I do these services for my Dominant.
I need to be in control of my everyday life. At least for now while I'm single. I have responsibilities, Especially with my therapy. The world is a big place and at times it can be overwhelming. Dealing with overwhelming stress needs a release. A release is different for every person. I get mine from pain.
What is masochism?
Sexual masochism is defined as taking erotic pleasure in receiving pain.
While this can include being tied up, beaten, or degraded verbally, it can also have more subtle acts, such as biting pinching, or poking. As a masochist, I get pleasure from the pain. I want you to know there is a huge difference between the two. I give my consent to being flogged or spanked or beaten. I only do what I am comfortable with and nothing else.
I have done many masochistic scenes over the years I am very comfortable with pain. I derive endorphins from it. With enough pain, I go into a concept known as subspace.
Subspace is what a masochist or a submissive enters when he/she reaches a natural chemical high and/or change in mental and/or emotional balance of the brain chemistry, and state of mind. Best achieved when total trust is in place with his/her Dominant, and one totally immerses themselves in an intense BDSM scene. Note: The sub may not be capable of making rational decisions about his/her safety and well-being at this point, thus it is the responsibility of the Dom to provide for the welfare of his/her sub, this is known as, "aftercare".
Many have never entered subspace. When subspace hits, Everything around me falls away. That means that everything around me disappears. This is a state of vulnerability. I don’t hear the noises around me. My world and stress are just gone. Think of it like a deep tissue massage. When I hit subspace I am blissful. After the endorphins wear off I come down from that high. It is something called crashing. The endorphins leave my body and in my case, I cry. But, where the true satisfaction and release come from, is when I am told I pleased my Dominant. That is what I love. That is what I need and after I crash, being told I did a great job taking the pain, I am at peace.
It isn’t like this for all Submissives. We each have a different kind of release from different things. But for me, knowing I have pleased my Dominant or is where I get the satisfaction.“Pain is used to punish. So, if we think about anything in history, we’ve been taught over time that we use pain for punishment rather than to actually enjoy the pain. Pain needs to be reconditioned in society. Pain doesn't always fall under punishment. This is where we need to change the way we think. For me, pain is very therapeutic. With the care of consent incorporated into the process and boundaries respected, the activities that occur are not abusive.
All of this might seem odd or even wrong to some, and they have every right to their opinion, but there will always be people like me who embrace it and desire this. There is a current association with pain as the reason behind the stigma. Historically, there are ample examples of people gaining pleasure from both giving and receiving pain, and if you and your partner fully enjoy yourselves, there is no cause for concern.
Engaging in my masochistic side to reach an alternate state of consciousness has always had its benefits. Again consent. Harm has its own category. Harm has to do with the psychological trauma but not necessarily the hurt, the pain. We’ve just been taught that when things are painful, they are not good. So it just takes a lot of that unlearning.
One of the main differences between hurt and harm is the role of consent. The pain inflicted and received between two consenting adults can include hurt, but without everyone having consented, it becomes abuse — resulting in harm.
I'm curious about how others view masochism. Do you enjoy your masochist side? How do you share your pain? Leave a comment below.
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