Her Palette
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Posted:Sep 8, 2023 12:05 am
Last Updated:Feb 14, 2024 1:05 am 9330 Views
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She wasn't convinced there was anyone who understood the depth of her appetite. The way she had once starved. The way her tastes evolved when given just a bite. The way she could voraciously devour and be devoured relentlessly. Her palette was particular, not for the weak. She could fast forever waiting for exactly what she craved.
~her-reconciled-heart
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Sunrise, Sunrise.
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Posted:Sep 6, 2023 11:57 am
Last Updated:Sep 24, 2023 2:03 am 10002 Views
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“When the sun came up… I couldn’t tell where heaven stopped and the Earth began.” — Tom Hanks
Photo By : Me
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Patience
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Posted:Sep 3, 2023 6:05 pm
Last Updated:Feb 14, 2024 1:04 am 9954 Views
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He finished tying the last knot, leaving me perched precariously on my toes - my shoulders already feeling the strain every time I wobbled off balance.
“This is about learning patience, little girl. Not your strongest suit, I think you’ve said.”
His tone was mild and slightly mocking - he knew how to push all my buttons. My helplessness made my panties damp as I dangled there for his amusement.
“No Sir, it’s not.” I ground out the words, my breathing constricted by the pose. My muscles already beginning to tremble.
“So pretty on your tiptoes. Well, let’s see how long I can make you wait, shall we? And how long before you’re begging to be let down.”
I swallowed hard knowing that my willfulness was no actual match for his self-possession. We both knew I would lose this game. And we both looked forward to how it would end. So really, my response was never in doubt.
“Yes, Sir.”
~exoticeva
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Sub Apathy
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Posted:Aug 31, 2023 12:37 am
Last Updated:Sep 9, 2023 1:35 am 9082 Views
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There is a fairly commonly known condition (for lack of a better word) in the lifestyle… a state wherein a submissive is so overwhelmed with her desire and need for a dominant partner that her judgment gets skewed; it becomes almost if not completely, consuming, this search for the yin to her yang (so to speak), often at the expense of good decision-making. I am, of course, referring to sub-frenzy. I am not casting stones, as I remember going through spells of it myself… unfortunately. Mostly when I first found the lifestyle, which is relatively normal, but even now and then in the years after. However, there is an inverse state that, in its own way, can be just as disastrous…
Sub apathy.
I nearly went with ‘sub malaise’, but that would have gone down a WAY bigger rabbit hole, so… apathy, while imperfect, works for now.
There comes a tipping point, at least for some of us, during which a submissive gets so discouraged by either abuse or neglect or simply a lack of success in finding what she needs that she becomes almost unable to access the most basic of her usual feelings and interests. It is, more often than not, a temporary shift, reminiscent of an animal retreating to its cave to lick its wounds… but not always. And it is important to note that it is NOT a conscious choice; some things simply shut down, or become hyper-guarded, through no will or intent of the submissive.
I have seen submissives harshly criticized for being in the clutches of sub-frenzy. I understand helpful advice and concern, but I don’t understand the condescending tongue-lashing that can come instead. It is equally true of sub apathy (though I have never run across anyone using this exact term for it); I see submissives derided for being 'jaded’, or 'overly wary’, etc. Condemned for not being easily and readily vulnerable. By the same people, might I add, that scolded others for trusting too easily, and not being cautious ENOUGH. Oh, the irony…
It is difficult when one loses touch with the yearning one is used to having. Difficult to feel this deep layer of 'blah’, where one used to feel a raging fire. Under it, all is (understandably, I think) a weariness… a pervasive feeling of 'what I want/need must not exist, or at least not be possible for ME’. I’m not being negative or melodramatic, I am simply being real about something that happens. It may not be pleasant, but life isn’t all rainbows and puppies. Damn the luck!
Anyway. This is kind of a public service announcement, in the following sense: Dominants, if you run across someone dealing with this, please know it is not personally/individually directed. While she may be in the throes of sub-apathy, a) it isn’t something she wants, any more than one wants the bubonic plague, and b) she isn’t aiming it at YOU; it is world-encompassing (or at least Dominant-encompassing). If you care, have patience and see if things can bloom. If you don’t, well, that’s totally okay, too, but try and walk away with kindness and understanding. There is no need for judgment and mean words that only make the condition worse.
Yeah, sub apathy… It’s a thing. Been there, done that, got the funnel hat.
~thegirlinthewoman
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Open Book.....
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Posted:Aug 29, 2023 8:34 pm
Last Updated:Jan 22, 2024 3:21 am 8889 Views
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“There's nothing more romantic than someone choosing to learn you. Flipping the pages in your soul delicately and digesting your chapters with an open mind no matter how difficult or uncomfortable some of your moments read, treating each bookmark with no judgment, but pure love.”
— iambrillyant
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SCC & RACK- What Are They?
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Posted:Aug 29, 2023 2:52 am
Last Updated:Aug 30, 2023 1:41 am 9427 Views
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SSC is an initialism for Safe Sane Consensual.
RACK is an acronym for Risk Aware Consensual Kink.
Both of these terms are about practicing BDSM safely. They are terms used widely in the community to promote education and awareness. If you’re vetting a playmate asking them about these terms, and how they implement them, is an important part of the vetting process.
Both of these terms emphasize consent. Consent means that every party involved in a scene, and every party exposed to a scene are offering uncoerced consent to be part of the scene.
So they sound alike, what’s the difference?
In a colloquial sense, there isn’t much difference. You’ll probably hear them used interchangeably. However, the main difference between the two is that RACK is thought the better recognize the inherent danger in certain activities and supports engaging in such activities when the risks are understood and precautions are taken to minimize the risks.
Take breath play for example. There is no way to engage in breath play with 100% safety because even if you are perfectly educated about proper technique there is always the very low risk that someone has a pre-existing condition they don’t know about that is triggered by the breath play, creating a medical emergency. RACK recognizes the inherent risk in certain behaviors. RACK is about minimizing that risk, and taking precautions where applicable (for example: having a knife/shears nearby when you are restraining with rope/tape in the case of emergency) but not steering clear of the activities altogether.
You can compare this to driving. There is no way to drive with 100% safety. You can take precautions to minimize risk, such as obeying stop signs, abiding by the speed limit, and wearing a seat belt, but there will always be factors out of your control.
Does that mean SSC is wrong? NO!
First off, SSC is open to interpretation. There is no saying that ’Safe’ means 100% safe. Perhaps there really is no such thing, to begin with anyway. SSC, on the other hand, DOES promote the practice of ’Sane’ kink. That implies things RACK doesn’t. Sane kink means that both parties are capable of making rational decisions and offering consent. It recognizes that someone so far into subspace that they cannot recall simple facts like their name, cannot offer consent. It recognizes the very real existence of abusers and sociopaths, who though able to offer consent are not sane and therefore unsafe to engage with.
Both of these terms are important, and they both have a place in our community. Know that they are, and what they mean. Learn how to implement them, and then make sure your partners and playmates do the same! Play safe everyone!
pleasurewhore~
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It’s A Beautiful Morning
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Posted:Aug 27, 2023 4:51 am
Last Updated:Jan 26, 2024 6:50 am 9368 Views
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~ Walking along the beach this morning I realized some thing, I am very grateful. I need to begin my day with an attitude of gratitude.
Things can only get better from there on. I hope you all have a lovely Sunday. As it’s the last one of August. The summer seemed to fly by this year.☀️👙😎
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Being Submissive
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Posted:Aug 25, 2023 4:28 am
Last Updated:Sep 9, 2023 8:15 pm 9488 Views
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Being submissive, to me, isn’t a choice. I didn’t choose for my earliest sexual fantasies to include being restrained, punished, or controlled. You’re submissive whether or not you have a Dom/me or Sir or Master. You’re submissive even if you have a long-distance D/s relationship. You’re submissive even if your D/s isn’t 24-7. You’re submissive even if you’re alone with your thoughts. You’re submissive whether or not you fight it, feel good about it, or bad about it. I’ve done all those things. If you are submissive, you just are. And just own it.
~Unknown
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His Hands...
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Posted:Aug 24, 2023 5:06 am
Last Updated:Feb 23, 2024 2:23 am 9164 Views
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His hands. That was the first thing she noticed about him. He had long fingers that were slightly calloused. The skin bore the marks of a man who worked hard. Her eyes focused on his hands as he talked. She listened as he talked about his job, his favorite artists, his favorite bands, his favorite writers, his crazy stories about traveling, and, his family. She watched him talk with his hands, effortlessly moving them as he spoke, unaware of how they affected her. She was lost in her thoughts, wondering how they would feel on her skin, moving across her face, cupping her breasts, pinching her nipples, squeezing her ass, rubbing her now-drenched sex. Suddenly, he reached across the table and touched her hand, jolting her back to the conversation. She was so surprised at how soft his hands were when he touched her. “Are you ready, sweetheart?” She was.
~M
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