The Sex Before The Sex
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Posted:Jul 2, 2023 12:49 am
Last Updated:Feb 23, 2024 2:34 am 12927 Views
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I like to be penetrated long before any physical contact takes place.
In fact, I need to be.
Witty banter, teasing, verbal double entendres—all foreplay for me.
The art of great foreplay is a hint of what’s to come, without spilling everything.
It’s the desire mixed with the uncertainty of whether it will really happen or how.
Who will bring the other person to wetness or hardness first?
Who will be so overcome with desire that they tackle the other person when they get in the door?
In Tantra, we talk a lot about expanding the moment of orgasm.
Instead of orgasm being a few moments of intense, pelvic contractions, we aim for orgasms that last for hours.
The feelings of bliss, the pulsing and throbbing, the hunger you feel, can go on for hours and days.
In fact, it never really has to stop.
Think of foreplay, between-play and simmer in the same way: they ought to go on for a long, long time.
They never really have to stop, either.
You want to keep the sexual energy flowing between you all of the time.
That doesn’t mean you have to have sex every time you rev your engines.
The whole point is to rev your engines and keep them hot.
Or at least warm.
You ought to have some kind of flirty, sexy touch and innuendo going on every day.
The sex before the sex.~
~Kim Anami
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In My Memory
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Posted:Jul 1, 2023 7:44 pm
Last Updated:May 3, 2024 7:42 pm 12163 Views
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Afterward, you sleep,
but in my memory... Still...
your hands are moving...
gathering my wrists together
above my head, behind my back...
threading your fingers through my hair,
now pleating, now pulling, now
searching my skin for need...
I move against you, my whole body
asking for more... asking for yours...
asking to be filled... to be emptied...
to be at peace.
- Peregrine
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~Power
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Posted:Jun 30, 2023 12:16 pm
Last Updated:Feb 15, 2024 3:51 am 13514 Views
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Sensible Suggestions For Consensual/Non-Consent
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Posted:Jun 28, 2023 9:20 pm
Last Updated:Apr 26, 2024 3:30 am 11617 Views
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In the realm of romantic romps and amorous adventures inside the particular playground of BDSM beckons the bold and the curious. Within this realm, consent and non-consent play form the exciting edges where communication, passion, trust, and, yes, consent intertwine. In this saucy story, we shall embark on a jovial journey, exploring what consent/non-consent play entails, while stipulating some safety standards.
Clarity on consent is key. To comprehend the core of consent/non-consent play, we must first grasp the essence of consent itself. Enthusiastic, informed consent is
the magic that transforms the curious into consenting adults, ensuring that everyone involved willingly steps onto the BDSM carousel. It is the ethical framework that upholds respect and autonomy, striving to prevent any mishaps. Remember, consent is like coffee only sipped when it is piping hot, and never forced upon an unwilling palate.
Non-consent necessitates noteworthy negotiation. Now, let's address the slippery eel in the room, non-consent play. This particular twist in the BDSM tapestry involves scenarios where one party "appears" to withhold consent, often dancing on the delicate tightrope between fantasy and reality. While it might sound as tricky as performing an acrobatic routine on a unicycle, it does not have to be because, through open communication and negotiation, you can navigate these precarious paths with grace, finesse, and complete dedication to safer scenes.
Boundaries and safe words work. Not only do they work, but they are also mandatory! To make merry in the land of consent/non-consent play, establishing boundaries and safe words becomes as essential as ensuring one's trusty Kinkiana Jone’s whip is cleaned and perfectly polished. Before embarking on this tantalizing journey, engage in an honest discussion with your partner(s), outlining limits and desires like a cartographer charting a treasure map. Remember, safe words and gestures are your very own magical incantations choose words and gestures that are easy to remember and understand. Additionally, they MUST be promptly as well as properly respected by your trusted partner(s).
Communication and check-ins must be woven into the framework of the scene. Like a good magician unveiling their secrets, the key to a successful consent/non-consent performance lies in impeccable communication and frequent check-ins. Keep those lines of communication open wider than the Grand Canyon, ensuring that both the dominant and submissive sides remain on the same page of the kinkiest storybook ever written. A sprinkle of humor never goes amiss here, as a well-timed quip can lighten the mood when discussing boundaries or providing feedback.
When it is all said and done, everyone involved needs to meet back up in the quaint village of Cuddle Corners because the grand finale is aftercare. Once the wild whirlwind of play subsides, it is time to descend from the peaks of passion into the tranquil valley of comfort. Aftercare is like a warm hug or a cozy blanket, providing solace and tending to the needs of all involved. Create your own Cuddly Corners Village equipped with soft pillows, fluffy blankets, and maybe even a stash of chocolates, for those naughty indulgences. Remember, adventurous amigos, aftercare is the soothing balm that calms, heals, and connects thus ensuring that everyone feels cherished and cared for.
In the delightful circus of consent/non-consent play, safety serves as the sturdy tightrope that prevents tumbles and preserves joy. By establishing clear boundaries, utilizing safe words, maintaining open communication, and embracing aftercare, you will juggle the flaming batons of passion and pleasure with a skill that would make any circus performer envious. So, let the laughter of consent and the giggle of non-consent intertwine harmoniously, creating a symphony of desire that leaves no room for accidents or regrets.
Remember, in the circus of the lifestyle consent is the ringmaster that ensures everyone leaves the tent with a smile on their face and a story to tell. So, grab your whips, don your leather, and prepare for the greatest kinky show on earth. Is consent/non-consent play something you have considered or engaged in and what advice would you add to ensure these scenes are choreographed safely?
©TLK2023
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The List
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Posted:Jun 26, 2023 5:40 am
Last Updated:Feb 13, 2024 12:59 am 13252 Views
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1. There are plenty of ways to enter a pool. The stairs are not one of them.
2. Never cancel dinner plans by text message.
3. Don’t knock it ‘til you try it.
4. If a street performer makes you stop walking, you owe him a buck.
5. Always use ‘we’ when referring to your home team or your government.
6. When entrusted with a secret, keep it.
7. Don’t underestimate free throws in a game of ‘’.
8. Just because you can doesn’t mean you should.
9. Don’t dumb it down.
10. You only get one chance to notice a new haircut.
11. If you’re staying more than one night, unpack.
12. Never park in front of a bar.
13. Expect the seat in front of you to recline. Prepare accordingly.
14. Keep a picture of your first fish, first car, and first boy/girlfriend.
15. Hold your heroes to a high standard.
16. A suntan is earned, not bought.
17. Never lie to your doctor.
18. All guns are loaded.
19. Don’t mention sunburns. Believe me, they know.
20. The best way to show thanks is to wear it. Even if it’s only once.
21. Take a vacation off your cell phone, internet, and TV once a year.
22. Don’t fill up on bread, no matter how good.
23. A handshake beats an autograph.
24. Don’t linger in the doorway. In or out.
25. If you choose to go in drag, don’t sell yourself short.
26. If you want to know what makes you unique, sit for a caricature.
27. Never get your hair cut on the day of a special event.
28. Be mindful of what comes between you and the Earth. Always buy good shoes, tires, and sheets.
29. Never eat lunch at your desk if you can avoid it.
30. When you’re with new friends, don’t just talk about old friends.
31. Eat lunch with the new .
32. When traveling, keep your wits about you.
33. It’s never too late for an apology.
34. Don’t pose with booze.
35. If you have the right of way, take it.
36. You don’t get to choose your own nickname.
37. When you marry someone, remember you marry their entire family.
38. Never push someone off a dock.
39. Under no circumstances should you ask a woman if she’s pregnant.
40. It’s not enough to be proud of your ancestry; live up to it.
41. Don’t make a scene.
42. When giving a thank you speech, short and sweet is best.
43. Know when to ignore the camera.
44. Never gloat.
45. Invest in good luggage.
46. Make time for your mom on your birthday. It’s her special day, too.
47. When opening presents, no one likes a good guesser.
48. Sympathy is a crutch, never fake a limp.
49. Give credit. Take blame.
50. Suck it up every now and again.
51. Never be the last one in the pool.
52. Don’t stare.
53. Address everyone that carries a firearm professionally.
54. Stand up to bullies. You’ll only have to do it once.
55. If you’ve made your point, stop talking.
56. Admit it when you’re wrong.
57. If you offer to help don’t quit until the job is done.
58. Look people in the eye when you thank them.
59. Thank the bus driver.
60. Never answer the phone at the dinner table.
61. Forgive yourself for your mistakes.
62. Know at least one good joke.
63. Don’t boo. Even the ref is somebody’s .
64. Know how to cook one good meal.
65. Learn to drive a stick shift.
66. Be cool to younger . Reputations are built over a lifetime.
67. It’s okay to go to the movies by yourself.
68. Dance with your mother/father.
69. Don’t lose your cool. Especially at work.
70. Always thank the host.
71. If you don’t understand, ask before it’s too late.
72. Know the size of your boy/girlfriend’s clothes.
73. There is nothing wrong with a plain T-shirt.
74. Be a good listener. Don’t just wait for your turn to talk.
75. Keep your word.
76. In college, always sit in the front. You’ll stand out immediately.
77. Carry your mother’s bags. She carried you for nine months.
78. Be patient with airport security. They’re just doing their jobs.
79. Don’t be the talker in a movie.
80. The opposite sex likes people who shower.
81. You are what you do, not what you say.
82. Learn to change a tire.
83. Be kind. Everyone has a hard fight ahead of them.
84. An hour with grandparents is time well spent. Ask for advice when you need it.
85. Don’t litter.
86. If you have a sister, get to know her boyfriend. Your opinion is important.
87. You won’t always be the strongest or the fastest. But you can be the toughest.
88. Never call someone before 9 am or after 9 pm.
89. Buy the orange properties in Monopoly.
90. Make the little things count.
91. Always wear a bra at work.
92. There is a fine line between looking sultry and slutty. Find it.
93. You’re never too old to need your mom.
94. Ladies, if you make the decision to wear heels on the first date, commit to keeping them on and keeping your trap shut about how much your feet kill you.
95. Know the words to your national anthem.
96. Your dance moves might not be the best, but I promise making a fool of yourself is more fun than sitting on the bench alone.
97. Smile at strangers.
98. Make goals.
99. Being old is not dictated by your bedtime.
100. If you have to fight, punch first and punch hard.”
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~Truth
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Posted:Jun 25, 2023 7:01 am
Last Updated:Feb 23, 2024 2:34 am 11956 Views
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“Allow yourself to mourn the loss of love, and heal from those wounds. Don’t run into the arms of another lover, you will not find peace there: you will only accumulate more to heal from.”
— Tara Rose
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Sunday Sway
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Posted:Jun 25, 2023 2:21 am
Last Updated:Jun 26, 2023 6:32 am 10063 Views
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*Think I'm In Love ~ Beck ~ The Information
*To Be Young (Is Be Sad, Is Be High), ~ Ryan Adams ~ Heartbreaker
* Life On A Chain ~Pete Yorn ~ Music For The Morning After
* You Learn ~ Alanis Morrisette ~Jagged Little Pill
* Pink Moon ~ Nick Drake ~Pink Moon
* Slow Like Honey ~Fiona Apple ~ Tidal
* Perfect Day ~ Lou Reed ~ Transformer
* Shake It Out ~ Florence And The Machine ~ The Ceremonials
* Father Figure ~ Goerge Michael ~ Faith
* New York Minute ~ ~ Don Henley ~ The End Of The Innocence
Slow Like Honey ~Fiona Apple ~ Tidal
You moved like honey
In my dream last night
Yeah, some old fires were burning
You came near to me
And you endeared to me
But you couldn't quite discern me
Does that scare you?
I'll let you run away
But your heart will not oblige you
You'll remember me like a melody
Yeah, I'll haunt the world inside you
And my big secret
Gonna win you over
Slow like honey
Heavy with mood
I'll let you see me
I'll covet your regard
I'll invade your demeanor
And you'll yield to me
Like a scent in the breeze
And you'll wonder
What it is about me
It's my big secret
Keeping you coming
Slow like honey
Heavy with mood
Ah...
Though dreams can be deceiving
Like faces are to hearts
They serve for sweet relieving
When fantasy and reality
Lie too far apart
So I stretch myself across like a bridge
And I pull you to the edge
And stand there waiting
Trying to attain
The end to satisfy the story
Shall I release you?
Must I release you
As I rise to meet my glory?
But my big secret
Gonna hover over your life
Gonna keep you reaching
When I'm gone like yesterday
When I'm high like heaven
When I'm strong like music
'Cause I'm slow like honey
And heavy with mood...
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~Life
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Posted:Jun 22, 2023 7:00 am
Last Updated:Jun 26, 2023 6:43 am 11197 Views
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“Life will break you. Nobody can protect you from that, and living alone won’t either, for solitude will also break you with its yearning. You have to love. You have to feel. It is the reason you are here on earth. You are here to risk your heart. You are here to be swallowed up. And when it happens that you are broken, or betrayed, or left, or hurt, or death brushes near, let yourself sit by an apple tree and listen to the apples falling all around you in heaps, wasting their sweetness. Tell yourself you tasted as many as you could.”
— Louise Erdrich, from The Painted Drum (HarperPerennial, 2005)
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~The Journey
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Posted:Jun 21, 2023 5:36 am
Last Updated:Feb 15, 2024 3:52 am 11071 Views
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“It isn’t always comfortable. Sometimes it hurts, it even breaks your heart. But that’s okay. The journey changes you; it should change you. It leaves marks on your memory, on your consciousness, on your heart, and on your body. You take something with you. Hopefully, you leave something good behind.”
~Anthony Bourdain
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