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Posted:Jun 30, 2023 12:16 pm
Last Updated:Feb 15, 2024 3:51 am 13491 Views
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Sensible Suggestions For Consensual/Non-Consent
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Posted:Jun 28, 2023 9:20 pm
Last Updated:Apr 26, 2024 3:30 am 11601 Views
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In the realm of romantic romps and amorous adventures inside the particular playground of BDSM beckons the bold and the curious. Within this realm, consent and non-consent play form the exciting edges where communication, passion, trust, and, yes, consent intertwine. In this saucy story, we shall embark on a jovial journey, exploring what consent/non-consent play entails, while stipulating some safety standards.
Clarity on consent is key. To comprehend the core of consent/non-consent play, we must first grasp the essence of consent itself. Enthusiastic, informed consent is
the magic that transforms the curious into consenting adults, ensuring that everyone involved willingly steps onto the BDSM carousel. It is the ethical framework that upholds respect and autonomy, striving to prevent any mishaps. Remember, consent is like coffee only sipped when it is piping hot, and never forced upon an unwilling palate.
Non-consent necessitates noteworthy negotiation. Now, let's address the slippery eel in the room, non-consent play. This particular twist in the BDSM tapestry involves scenarios where one party "appears" to withhold consent, often dancing on the delicate tightrope between fantasy and reality. While it might sound as tricky as performing an acrobatic routine on a unicycle, it does not have to be because, through open communication and negotiation, you can navigate these precarious paths with grace, finesse, and complete dedication to safer scenes.
Boundaries and safe words work. Not only do they work, but they are also mandatory! To make merry in the land of consent/non-consent play, establishing boundaries and safe words becomes as essential as ensuring one's trusty Kinkiana Jone’s whip is cleaned and perfectly polished. Before embarking on this tantalizing journey, engage in an honest discussion with your partner(s), outlining limits and desires like a cartographer charting a treasure map. Remember, safe words and gestures are your very own magical incantations choose words and gestures that are easy to remember and understand. Additionally, they MUST be promptly as well as properly respected by your trusted partner(s).
Communication and check-ins must be woven into the framework of the scene. Like a good magician unveiling their secrets, the key to a successful consent/non-consent performance lies in impeccable communication and frequent check-ins. Keep those lines of communication open wider than the Grand Canyon, ensuring that both the dominant and submissive sides remain on the same page of the kinkiest storybook ever written. A sprinkle of humor never goes amiss here, as a well-timed quip can lighten the mood when discussing boundaries or providing feedback.
When it is all said and done, everyone involved needs to meet back up in the quaint village of Cuddle Corners because the grand finale is aftercare. Once the wild whirlwind of play subsides, it is time to descend from the peaks of passion into the tranquil valley of comfort. Aftercare is like a warm hug or a cozy blanket, providing solace and tending to the needs of all involved. Create your own Cuddly Corners Village equipped with soft pillows, fluffy blankets, and maybe even a stash of chocolates, for those naughty indulgences. Remember, adventurous amigos, aftercare is the soothing balm that calms, heals, and connects thus ensuring that everyone feels cherished and cared for.
In the delightful circus of consent/non-consent play, safety serves as the sturdy tightrope that prevents tumbles and preserves joy. By establishing clear boundaries, utilizing safe words, maintaining open communication, and embracing aftercare, you will juggle the flaming batons of passion and pleasure with a skill that would make any circus performer envious. So, let the laughter of consent and the giggle of non-consent intertwine harmoniously, creating a symphony of desire that leaves no room for accidents or regrets.
Remember, in the circus of the lifestyle consent is the ringmaster that ensures everyone leaves the tent with a smile on their face and a story to tell. So, grab your whips, don your leather, and prepare for the greatest kinky show on earth. Is consent/non-consent play something you have considered or engaged in and what advice would you add to ensure these scenes are choreographed safely?
©TLK2023
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The List
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Posted:Jun 26, 2023 5:40 am
Last Updated:Feb 13, 2024 12:59 am 13231 Views
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1. There are plenty of ways to enter a pool. The stairs are not one of them.
2. Never cancel dinner plans by text message.
3. Don’t knock it ‘til you try it.
4. If a street performer makes you stop walking, you owe him a buck.
5. Always use ‘we’ when referring to your home team or your government.
6. When entrusted with a secret, keep it.
7. Don’t underestimate free throws in a game of ‘’.
8. Just because you can doesn’t mean you should.
9. Don’t dumb it down.
10. You only get one chance to notice a new haircut.
11. If you’re staying more than one night, unpack.
12. Never park in front of a bar.
13. Expect the seat in front of you to recline. Prepare accordingly.
14. Keep a picture of your first fish, first car, and first boy/girlfriend.
15. Hold your heroes to a high standard.
16. A suntan is earned, not bought.
17. Never lie to your doctor.
18. All guns are loaded.
19. Don’t mention sunburns. Believe me, they know.
20. The best way to show thanks is to wear it. Even if it’s only once.
21. Take a vacation off your cell phone, internet, and TV once a year.
22. Don’t fill up on bread, no matter how good.
23. A handshake beats an autograph.
24. Don’t linger in the doorway. In or out.
25. If you choose to go in drag, don’t sell yourself short.
26. If you want to know what makes you unique, sit for a caricature.
27. Never get your hair cut on the day of a special event.
28. Be mindful of what comes between you and the Earth. Always buy good shoes, tires, and sheets.
29. Never eat lunch at your desk if you can avoid it.
30. When you’re with new friends, don’t just talk about old friends.
31. Eat lunch with the new .
32. When traveling, keep your wits about you.
33. It’s never too late for an apology.
34. Don’t pose with booze.
35. If you have the right of way, take it.
36. You don’t get to choose your own nickname.
37. When you marry someone, remember you marry their entire family.
38. Never push someone off a dock.
39. Under no circumstances should you ask a woman if she’s pregnant.
40. It’s not enough to be proud of your ancestry; live up to it.
41. Don’t make a scene.
42. When giving a thank you speech, short and sweet is best.
43. Know when to ignore the camera.
44. Never gloat.
45. Invest in good luggage.
46. Make time for your mom on your birthday. It’s her special day, too.
47. When opening presents, no one likes a good guesser.
48. Sympathy is a crutch, never fake a limp.
49. Give credit. Take blame.
50. Suck it up every now and again.
51. Never be the last one in the pool.
52. Don’t stare.
53. Address everyone that carries a firearm professionally.
54. Stand up to bullies. You’ll only have to do it once.
55. If you’ve made your point, stop talking.
56. Admit it when you’re wrong.
57. If you offer to help don’t quit until the job is done.
58. Look people in the eye when you thank them.
59. Thank the bus driver.
60. Never answer the phone at the dinner table.
61. Forgive yourself for your mistakes.
62. Know at least one good joke.
63. Don’t boo. Even the ref is somebody’s .
64. Know how to cook one good meal.
65. Learn to drive a stick shift.
66. Be cool to younger . Reputations are built over a lifetime.
67. It’s okay to go to the movies by yourself.
68. Dance with your mother/father.
69. Don’t lose your cool. Especially at work.
70. Always thank the host.
71. If you don’t understand, ask before it’s too late.
72. Know the size of your boy/girlfriend’s clothes.
73. There is nothing wrong with a plain T-shirt.
74. Be a good listener. Don’t just wait for your turn to talk.
75. Keep your word.
76. In college, always sit in the front. You’ll stand out immediately.
77. Carry your mother’s bags. She carried you for nine months.
78. Be patient with airport security. They’re just doing their jobs.
79. Don’t be the talker in a movie.
80. The opposite sex likes people who shower.
81. You are what you do, not what you say.
82. Learn to change a tire.
83. Be kind. Everyone has a hard fight ahead of them.
84. An hour with grandparents is time well spent. Ask for advice when you need it.
85. Don’t litter.
86. If you have a sister, get to know her boyfriend. Your opinion is important.
87. You won’t always be the strongest or the fastest. But you can be the toughest.
88. Never call someone before 9 am or after 9 pm.
89. Buy the orange properties in Monopoly.
90. Make the little things count.
91. Always wear a bra at work.
92. There is a fine line between looking sultry and slutty. Find it.
93. You’re never too old to need your mom.
94. Ladies, if you make the decision to wear heels on the first date, commit to keeping them on and keeping your trap shut about how much your feet kill you.
95. Know the words to your national anthem.
96. Your dance moves might not be the best, but I promise making a fool of yourself is more fun than sitting on the bench alone.
97. Smile at strangers.
98. Make goals.
99. Being old is not dictated by your bedtime.
100. If you have to fight, punch first and punch hard.”
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~Truth
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Posted:Jun 25, 2023 7:01 am
Last Updated:Feb 23, 2024 2:34 am 11940 Views
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“Allow yourself to mourn the loss of love, and heal from those wounds. Don’t run into the arms of another lover, you will not find peace there: you will only accumulate more to heal from.”
— Tara Rose
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Sunday Sway
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Posted:Jun 25, 2023 2:21 am
Last Updated:Jun 26, 2023 6:32 am 10046 Views
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*Think I'm In Love ~ Beck ~ The Information
*To Be Young (Is Be Sad, Is Be High), ~ Ryan Adams ~ Heartbreaker
* Life On A Chain ~Pete Yorn ~ Music For The Morning After
* You Learn ~ Alanis Morrisette ~Jagged Little Pill
* Pink Moon ~ Nick Drake ~Pink Moon
* Slow Like Honey ~Fiona Apple ~ Tidal
* Perfect Day ~ Lou Reed ~ Transformer
* Shake It Out ~ Florence And The Machine ~ The Ceremonials
* Father Figure ~ Goerge Michael ~ Faith
* New York Minute ~ ~ Don Henley ~ The End Of The Innocence
Slow Like Honey ~Fiona Apple ~ Tidal
You moved like honey
In my dream last night
Yeah, some old fires were burning
You came near to me
And you endeared to me
But you couldn't quite discern me
Does that scare you?
I'll let you run away
But your heart will not oblige you
You'll remember me like a melody
Yeah, I'll haunt the world inside you
And my big secret
Gonna win you over
Slow like honey
Heavy with mood
I'll let you see me
I'll covet your regard
I'll invade your demeanor
And you'll yield to me
Like a scent in the breeze
And you'll wonder
What it is about me
It's my big secret
Keeping you coming
Slow like honey
Heavy with mood
Ah...
Though dreams can be deceiving
Like faces are to hearts
They serve for sweet relieving
When fantasy and reality
Lie too far apart
So I stretch myself across like a bridge
And I pull you to the edge
And stand there waiting
Trying to attain
The end to satisfy the story
Shall I release you?
Must I release you
As I rise to meet my glory?
But my big secret
Gonna hover over your life
Gonna keep you reaching
When I'm gone like yesterday
When I'm high like heaven
When I'm strong like music
'Cause I'm slow like honey
And heavy with mood...
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~Life
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Posted:Jun 22, 2023 7:00 am
Last Updated:Jun 26, 2023 6:43 am 11179 Views
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“Life will break you. Nobody can protect you from that, and living alone won’t either, for solitude will also break you with its yearning. You have to love. You have to feel. It is the reason you are here on earth. You are here to risk your heart. You are here to be swallowed up. And when it happens that you are broken, or betrayed, or left, or hurt, or death brushes near, let yourself sit by an apple tree and listen to the apples falling all around you in heaps, wasting their sweetness. Tell yourself you tasted as many as you could.”
— Louise Erdrich, from The Painted Drum (HarperPerennial, 2005)
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~The Journey
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Posted:Jun 21, 2023 5:36 am
Last Updated:Feb 15, 2024 3:52 am 11050 Views
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“It isn’t always comfortable. Sometimes it hurts, it even breaks your heart. But that’s okay. The journey changes you; it should change you. It leaves marks on your memory, on your consciousness, on your heart, and on your body. You take something with you. Hopefully, you leave something good behind.”
~Anthony Bourdain
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~Slow
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Posted:Jun 20, 2023 7:58 am
Last Updated:May 3, 2024 7:43 pm 10690 Views
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“Slow is often overlooked in rushed culture. Its’ oracle is not acknowledged, properly understood, or respected. The slow breath. A slow first kiss. Slowly disrobing in front of a lover. Slow lovemaking. Slow to get up out of a warm bed. Slow stretching. Slow yoga. Slow bathing. Slow and steady. Slowly walking through an airport to catch a flight. Slow decision-making. Slow crockpot cooking. Slow eating. Slow creativity. The pause before we speak. When we give ourselves (our cells) permission to slow down, our whole system is met in a magical place where regeneration and rejuvenation naturally begin to occur without any effort from us.”
— India Ame’ye, Author, Energy of Gods
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Submissive Traits - Intelligence
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Posted:Jun 20, 2023 7:01 am
Last Updated:Jun 25, 2023 3:18 am 10541 Views
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If submission is the teammate of Dominance then intelligence is the spoil of victory.
It is tempting to look at images of BDSM and sadomasochistic pornography and assume that a submissive or masochist must be either weak-willed or feeble of mind and heart to allow someone to use and even abuse them in such a manner. After all, what strong-minded or self-assured woman would submit them to the physical and emotional subjugation and even humiliation depicted in such imagery? Clearly, there must be something wrong with a person who allows themselves, nay even seeks out, such treatment. But not so fast, there is much more than meets the eye.
It is true that domineering men who hide their insecurities behind the bluster, bravado, or even violence often seek out weak or meek women as not only their foil but also sadly their emotional and physical punching bags. It is tragic and sadly all too common throughout the world in all forms of “relationships,” vanilla and BDSM alike. Often such men want nothing more than a human lap that will dutifully stand by their side regardless of behavior only to be kicked, ignored, and emotionally malnourished. The domineering prick wants the illusion of control to shine through for everyone around them to see as a boost to their fragile ego but never wants to be outshone or upstaged. They want their healing and panting at their side when it is convenient for them and out of sight and mind when it is not. It's a sad state of affairs all around and particularly for dependent or even co-dependent women who are subjected to and nearly held prisoner by such domineering behavior. Sadly, there are many of these domineering men who pose as Dominants and candidly give the BDSM and D/s community a bad .
So let me be clear. A Dominant has no need for, nor a desire for, a lap dog. Nothing could be more painfully boring or unfulfilling to a Dominant than a codependent or weak-willed or minded lapdog of a submissive. A great part of the reward of submission to a Dominant is that it must be earned from a very worthy source. It may even be an outright challenge. By this, I do not mean the brat submissive who is really a top and challenges every move a Dominant makes seeking to find the “One” who is tough enough to beat her at her own game. That is really just Dominance or more likely domineering in disguise. I am referring to patiently and lovingly earning the submission of a woman who is strong, intelligent, self-assured, capable, as well as beautiful, sensual, and sexually adventuresome. That is where the true reward lies.
When I look down at my submissive kneeling before me I do not wish to see a cowering dog. No, I want to see the glimmer of intelligence in her eye, the knowing look that she could be anything she wants to be in this life but chooses to be here, at my feet. I want to know that she appreciates my own intellect and can match it step by step. I want a challenge not only from her body but also from her mind. I want to have to work for the submission I receive. Do not fight over it, earn it. I want a submissive worthy of my Dominance every bit as much as I strive to be worthy of her submission. Ultimately I want a partner who is as interesting and challenging to talk with, go places with, and experience life with as she is sexy, submissive, devoted, and serving. I want her to push me as much as I push her. I want a partner, not an automaton
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But I am a guy and like most men can be visually driven. I would be lying if I did not say that looks matter to me, and that appearance plays a significant role in attraction. But looks alone only draw me closer to curious exploration and no more. Sexiness, sensuality, and overall attraction do not come from appearance alone. They are a state of mind. And there is nothing more sexy and sensual to me than a highly intelligent woman who is confident and curious about life, herself, her sexuality, and other people. An outgoing, intelligent, articulate, and confident woman combined with a natural curiosity and desire for exploring and enhancing her sensuality is a lethal combination for me. Add a touch of submissiveness or even a desire to submit and I am slain. The secret sauce though is in the heart and mind.
An intelligent Dominant will always seek an equally intelligent submissive. They desire a partner to dance the D/s dance with who is challenging (not combative), yet devoted. The rewards of submission are commensurate with the effort. Intelligence combined with sensual beauty is a prize worth every ounce of effort a Dominant can muster. Ultimately, when my Muse outshines me and is the center of everyone else’s attention and focus it is not an affront to me but instead perhaps the ultimate compliment. For it is a submissive who shows for all to see exactly what sort of Dominant they kneel before.
Caption © For The Love of a Submissive
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