Gentle Gestures
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Posted:Feb 23, 2024 6:05 am
Last Updated:Apr 15, 2024 7:48 pm 8378 Views
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In BDSM, the stereotype often depicts dominants as loud, aggressive, and solely focused on exerting control through physical dominance. However, within this intricate world, lies a profound truth: the power of a dominant's gentle gestures can be just as, if not more, impactful than the most intense scenes.
At first glance, the notion of gentleness within BDSM might seem contradictory. After all, is not the essence of dominance rooted in commanding authority and asserting control? While this is undoubtedly a component, it is essential to recognize that true dominance transcends mere physical dominance. It encompasses a deep understanding of one's partner, an unwavering commitment to their well-being, and a mastery of both strength and vulnerability.
One of the most potent tools in a dominant's arsenal is the ability to express tenderness through gentle gestures. Holding hands, softly brushing a partner's hair, or tenderly placing a kiss on their forehead may seem small in comparison to the grandiose acts often associated with dominance. However, it is precisely these seemingly insignificant gestures that can forge the deepest connections and elicit the most profound responses.
In BDSM dynamics, trust is the cornerstone upon which everything else is built. Without trust, there can be no surrender, no vulnerability, and no true exploration of power dynamics. Gentle gestures serve as tangible manifestations of trust and care, reassuring the submissive that they are safe, cherished, and valued. Amid the most intense scenes, it is these gestures that serve as anchors, grounding both parties and reaffirming the bond between them.
Moreover, gentle gestures have a transformative effect on the dynamics of power exchange. While dominance is often associated with control and authority, it is equally important for dominants to recognize the power of vulnerability and empathy. By allowing themselves to express gentleness, dominants create a space where submission is not merely coerced but freely given out of love and respect.
Contrary to popular belief, dominance does not necessitate aggression or arrogance. Instead, it is about wielding power responsibly and compassionately, understanding that true strength lies in the ability to nurture and protect. A dominant who embraces gentleness alongside their authority demonstrates a profound understanding of the complexities of power dynamics and a willingness to explore them with sensitivity and empathy.
The power of a dominant's gentle gestures in BDSM cannot be overstated. These seemingly small acts of tenderness deepen trust, strengthen connections, and transform power dynamics in profound ways. By embracing gentleness alongside dominance, dominants not only enhance the experiences of their submissives but also embody the true essence of what it means to wield power responsibly and compassionately in the world of BDSM.
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High IQ
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Posted:Feb 22, 2024 5:40 am
Last Updated:Apr 11, 2024 7:43 am 8034 Views
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The Intellectual Mindfuck
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Posted:Feb 22, 2024 2:17 am
Last Updated:Feb 25, 2024 12:35 am 7013 Views
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My attraction to him went bone-deep. Soul deep. This intellectual mind fuck that left me flushed and desperate. Awake at night wondering recklessly. He was convincing and smooth. Forthcoming with his desires. Confident with these carefully chosen, perfect syllables that flowed from his pen effortlessly. His light, bleeding into my darkness. I should have run, but he kept pulling buried shreds of myself up to the surface and putting them in his pockets. Like this collector of my soul, the only way to get them back was to keep crawling further inside him. And I wanted to. I wanted to strip him down with bare hands and crawl into the depths of him and never come out.
~her-reconciled-heart
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Sex
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Posted:Feb 17, 2024 9:25 am
Last Updated:Feb 25, 2024 12:52 am 8779 Views
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“Sex is not a goddamn performance. Sex should feel as natural as drinking water. It should not require confidence. Sex should happen, because the moment is ripe. Ripening lips, ripening labia, ripening cock, ripening pupils, ripening state of being. Ripe and augmented and brimming. Your energy goes to your pumping heart, then to every external nerve, then to theirs, on fire. You bask, roll, play in it. You sigh, moan, laugh. It’s not about being “good in bed.” It’s about being happy. One should never worry if they’re doing it “correctly.” Sex is not factual. I don’t want your cookie-cutter sex, I don’t want your meticulously crafted, calculated, fool-proof fuck. I don’t want a show. I want you. Let your instincts, urges, and whims define that. It’s enough. What do most girls like? Forget about it. Statistics are meaningless when there’s only one. Hello, here’s me. Here’s you. Don’t worry about taking it too slow. We have time. We have infinite rhythms, combinations, and possibilities. Explore each fuck. Let's take our time. We can do a different one later. Don’t worry about making me come. I’m here. Right where I want to be. I am overwhelmed by wanting; you don’t have to convince me. I want you because I like you. So don’t put on a front. Don’t taint this. I’m frustrated—it’s just authenticity I want. It’s originality. It’s passion. It’s joy. Don’t say that something I like is ugly. Don’t compare yourself to the rest. You will live and die with and within your experiences like everyone else. If someone thinks you are amazing, they are not wrong. Their universe is as real as any other; it is forged through perception. I don’t care if you accidentally slammed my head into the wall if you slipped out, if my arm cracked, if the delightful pressure of your wet lips on my anything made a silly sound. There is no right way and no wrong way. “Good in bed,” what? You’re good in my bed. I’m pleased you’re there. I feel it suits you. Shove your technique. Let your memory swallow it. Fuck me like you’d fuck me, fuck me like you feel. This isn’t a test.”
— (via it-slowly-rises)
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~Art Break
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Posted:Feb 17, 2024 1:56 am
Last Updated:Mar 4, 2024 6:51 am 8638 Views
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Artist: Milo Manara
"Tribute to Klimt"
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Valentine's Quote
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Posted:Feb 14, 2024 1:57 am
Last Updated:Feb 16, 2024 2:25 am 9119 Views
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“A starving heart will eat anything.”
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Something True
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Posted:Feb 12, 2024 5:21 pm
Last Updated:Feb 22, 2024 12:26 am 9191 Views
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“Your body is not your masterpiece — your life is."
It is suggested to us a million times a day that our bodies are projects. They aren’t. Our lives are. Our spirituality is. Our relationships are. Our work is.
Stop spending all day obsessing, cursing, perfecting your body like it’s all you’ve got to offer the world. Your body is not your art, it’s your paintbrush.
Whether your paintbrush is a tall paintbrush, a thin paintbrush, a stocky paintbrush or a scratched-up paintbrush is completely irrelevant.
What is relevant is that you have a paintbrush that can be used to transfer your insides onto the canvas of your life — where others can see it and be inspired and comforted by it.
Your body is not your offering. It’s just an amazing instrument that you can use to create your offering each day. Don’t curse your paintbrush. Don’t sit in a corner wishing you had a different paintbrush. You’re wasting time. You’ve got the one you got.
Be grateful, because without it you’d have nothing with which to paint your life’s work. Your life’s work is the love you give and receive — and your body is the instrument you use to accept and offer love on your soul’s behalf. It’s a system.
We are encouraged to obsess over our instrument’s shape — but our body’s shape does not affect its ability to accept and offer love for us. Just none.
Maybe we continue to obsess because as long we keep wringing our hands about our paintbrush shape, we don’t have to get to work painting our lives.
Stop fretting. The truth is that all paintbrush shapes work just fine — and anybody who tells you differently is trying to sell you something. Don’t buy it. Just paint.
No wait — first, stop what you are doing and say thank you to your body — right now.
Say, thank you to your eyes for taking in the beauty of sunsets and storms and blowing out birthday candles…
And say thank you to your hands for writing love letters and opening doors and stirring soup and waving to strangers…
And say thank you to your legs for walking you from danger to safety and climbing so many mountains for you.
Then pick up your instrument and start painting this day beautiful and bold and wild and free and YOU. Paint this day beautiful, bold, wild & free.“
- Glenan Doyle
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~Dawn
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Posted:Feb 10, 2024 1:34 am
Last Updated:Mar 8, 2024 8:12 pm 9770 Views
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Dawn is always such a forgiving time. When that first cold, bright streak comes over the water. It's as if all our sins were pardoned; as if the sky leaned over the earth and kissed it and gave it absolution.
― Willa Cather
Photograph Taken By: Me
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Nice Guys Finish Last
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Posted:Feb 8, 2024 3:47 am
Last Updated:Apr 3, 2024 4:19 am 10338 Views
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Nice guys finish last,” is an age-old truism that we’ve all heard at one point or another in our lives. But is it actually true? Don’t women want a man to treat them with respect, and dignity, and to value them equally? Don’t we as feminists (and yes, I use the inclusive term ‘we’ because I consider myself to be one) demand these things? Don’t we desire to move away from the days when Neanderthals and chauvinists were allowed to run rampant when women had to suffer constant sexual harassment as a matter of course in the workplace?
Of course, we do, few things could be more self-evident than that.
So shouldn’t we be raising men to be ‘gentlemen,’ to be respectful, to treat women as equals? Shouldn’t men who strive to be kind, gentle, giving, and considerate be the ideal mates? And haven’t I, on this very blog extolled the virtues of the man who is hardworking, respectful, educated, and a good communicator?
Why yes, I have.
I mean, if that’s what women want, why wouldn’t good guys finish first all the time? As it turns out, they do. Overwhelmingly women seek mates who treat them as equals, with dignity and respect. They seek men who are faithful in their marriage and honest. So, the end of the post?
Not quite.
You see, for as much as women desire men who are all of the above for life mates, they seek something very, very different from their sexual partners. Ask any relationship therapist or clinical psychologist on the planet and they’ll tell you the same thing: women love their spouses deeply and sincerely – and they are (overwhelmingly) utterly unattracted to them sexually.
As it turns out, the scientific study of female sexuality is an extraordinarily complex subject. Stunning, I know. Professor Lorraine Dennerstein of the University of Melbourne determined that the loss of a woman’s libido as she ages is closely linked to a loss of interest in her sexual partner. Put another way: they desire sexless because they desire their partner less. Those same women consistently reported that they deeply loved and admired their partners.
So what gives?
Dr. Marta Meana, who is a clinical psychologist, Dean of the University of Nevada’s Psychology department, and widely respected researcher into women’s sexual functionality (and possibly more qualified to write about this subject than me), surmises that what drives female sexuality, above all else, is something that could be summed up best Cheap Trick’s 78 hit, “I want you to want me”: WOMEN PASSIONATELY DESIRE TO BE DESIRED.
That same soft, gentle man (not a gentleman) who she loves and feels secure around: the one who asks permission for everything, and is constantly obsessed with asking, “Are you sure you’re ok,” that guy is safe, but he is not sexy. Sexually, a woman does not fantasize about being delicately considered, she wants to be passionately desired, chased, and pursued, she wants to be the object of a man's unbridled lust – she wants to be conquered.
The real female orgasm? Being desired.
Now men, if you’ve ever read a harlequin novel (or watched an episode of True Blood), step back and ask yourself if that is not precisely the caricature that comes to mind. The strong, decisive, passionate, slightly dangerous, and lustful man. It’s almost comical how obvious the correlation is. Yet that same man who appeals to a woman’s lustful side isn’t necessarily the one who appeals to her desire for safety and comfort in a relationship.
And that’s the rub men: It will be your passion that brings her in, and it will be your security that holds her attention, but to develop her into that wanton slut you desire, who continues to explore with you and to grow in her submission, you must first provide the platform for her to build on.
You must be the foundation, the rock upon which her temple to you is built. Education, practice, communication, discipline, dedication, decisiveness, love, passion, and accountability: These are your tools. You must be ever vigilant to maintain your passion for her. To constantly reaffirm her place in your sexual desires with action and inventiveness; to constantly reaffirm your commitment to her soul with strong communication; her mind with leadership; her heart with consistent love, unending patience, and understanding; and to your relationship with stern discipline.
Committing your life to these principles and their practice is what will ultimately separate you from the cuckold husband, or the douche-bag wanna-be doms. You must be both the lion and lover. Do these things well, and her submission will blossom, fail and it will wither.
The choice ultimately is yours. Choose wisely.
~ Axiom
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