Pain
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Posted:Dec 18, 2023 6:14 pm
Last Updated:Dec 21, 2023 1:39 am 22591 Views
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Pain is a complex and multifaceted sensation that varies greatly from person to person. In the world of BDSM, the dynamics of pain take on a unique and consensual context. Participants engage in activities that incorporate various degrees of pain to explore pleasure, dominance, and submission. It is important to note, before getting started, that many who are involved in BDSM choose to not incorporate pain into how they practice BDSM. Still, for those who do or are curious, this post delves into how individuals process and tolerate pain in BDSM activities, offering insights and techniques for maximizing pleasure while minimizing any harm.
BDSM practitioners often refer to the concept of "pain processing" as the capacity to experience, interpret, and endure pain within a controlled and consensual environment. Pain processing is a highly individualized experience, influenced by physical, emotional, and psychological factors. Key elements in pain processing include:
Consent and Trust: BDSM activities are built upon trust and clear consent between participants. Establishing boundaries and safe words is crucial to ensuring that all involved parties are comfortable with the level of pain they are experiencing.
Psychological State: An individual's psychological state significantly impacts their pain processing ability. Emotions like fear, anticipation, or arousal can alter the perception of pain. Some people find that pain intensifies their pleasure, while for others, it may decrease their threshold.
Physical Factors: Physical factors, such as a person's general health, pain tolerance, and individual sensitivities, play a role in pain processing. Pain thresholds can vary widely between individuals.
Techniques and Tools: BDSM practitioners employ various techniques and tools to manipulate and control the intensity of pain, including restraints, impact play, and sensory deprivation. Learning to use these tools safely is essential for maximizing pleasure and minimizing harm.
BDSM activities often involve pushing physical and emotional boundaries, but safety and consent are paramount. Here are some key considerations for pushing boundaries safely:
Communication: Open and honest communication is vital. Participants should discuss their desires, limits, and boundaries before engaging in any BDSM activity. A safe word or gesture should be established to indicate when a participant wishes to stop or slow down.
Start Slowly: It is crucial to start slowly and gradually increase the intensity of the activities. This allows participants to acclimate to the sensations and ensures that no one is pushed too far, or too quickly.
Educate and Seek Guidance: Participants must educate themselves about BDSM practices and techniques. Seeking guidance from experienced practitioners, attending workshops, or reading educational materials can provide valuable insights.
Aftercare: Aftercare is a critical component of BDSM activities. After an intense scene, participants should engage in a process of emotional and physical care, which may include cuddling, reassurance, and addressing any potential psychological or emotional triggers.
BDSM practitioners aim to create a balance between pleasure and pain while minimizing the risk of injury. Here are some techniques for achieving this balance:
Sensory Play: Incorporating sensory play, such as using feathers, ice, or hot wax, can heighten the sensations and provide a more balanced experience.
Safety Precautions: Practitioners should use safe and sterile equipment, follow hygiene guidelines, and be well-versed in first aid practices in case of any accidents.
Feedback and Adjustment: Continuous communication and feedback during BDSM activities allow participants to make real-time adjustments, ensuring that the experience remains pleasurable and within agreed-upon boundaries.
Self-Care: Participants should prioritize self-care, both before and after BDSM sessions. This includes staying well-hydrated, getting enough rest, and engaging in activities that promote mental and emotional well-being.
The world of BDSM offers a unique and consensual space where the interplay of pleasure and pain takes center stage. Pain processing, an intensely personal experience, hinges on trust, communication, and a deep understanding of one's own and their partner's boundaries. While pushing boundaries is a fundamental aspect of BDSM, it must always be done with utmost care, ensuring that all involved parties feel safe and respected.
To maximize pleasure and minimize harm, practitioners should prioritize open communication, a gradual approach to intensity, and comprehensive aftercare. Safety precautions and self-care are also crucial, underlining the importance of maintaining physical and emotional well-being throughout the experience.
In the end, BDSM is about more than just pain; it is about the consensual exchange of power and the exploration of desires. It's a deeply intimate journey that allows participants to delve into their fantasies and trust their partners in ways that few other experiences can replicate. As long as it's built upon a foundation of trust, consent, and a commitment to safety, BDSM can be a fulfilling and transformative experience for all involved.
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You Are a Lion
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Posted:Dec 16, 2023 4:04 am
Last Updated:Jan 1, 2024 5:15 am 24525 Views
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To control her, you must first control yourself.
You are human and you have flaws, bad habits, and vices. So improve. You don’t have to be perfect to be a good Dominant, but you do have to be self-aware and eager to become the best you can be. Otherwise, how can you hope to inspire the same in your submissive?
You do not take her submission. She gives it to you. Not because you’re macho and aggressive and capable of breaking her like a wild . But because she trusts you to make her decisions, lead the way, and guide her to self-improvement. You do not enslave her, she enslaves herself. She does not relinquish her freedom, but in becoming your slave, she becomes free.
You will face darkness. We all do, to one degree or another. You will question your ability to lead, and perhaps so will your submissive. You will backslide into old habits and negative ways of thinking. You will erode your own control and authority, and you will wonder if you’re capable at all.
Don’t give up.
She submitted it to you for a reason. Any submissive worth the title will guard her heart and her submission and only relinquish control to one who can bear the burden. She chose you, not the other way around. Take strength in that, and become again the man at whose feet she knelt.
You will falter and stumble and sometimes you will fall. But leap to your feet with a roar, and remind the world that you are a lion.
~the-beauty-of-submission
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~Saturday Sway
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Posted:Dec 16, 2023 2:23 am
Last Updated:Dec 21, 2023 1:32 am 23198 Views
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* Not Dark Yet ~ Bob Dylan ~ Time Out Of Mind
* I Put A Spell On You ~ Nina Simone ~Four Woman
* Destroyer ~ The Kinks ~ Come Dancing With The Kinks
* Paul Revere ~ The Beastie Boys ~ License To Ill
* Dessert Rose ~ Sting~ Brand New Day
* The Rain Song ~ Led Zepplin ~ Houses Of The Holy
* Bright Lights ~ Matchbox 20 ~More Than You Think You Are
* How Can You Mend A Broken Heart ~ Al Green ~ Let's Stay Together
* Losing My Touch~ Kieth Richards ~ 40 Licks
* Angel ~ Dave Matthews Band~ Everyday
Not Dark Yet ~ Bob Dylan ~ Time Out Of Mind
Shadows are falling and I been here all day
It's too hot to sleep and time is running away
Feel like my soul has turned into steel
I've still got the scars that the sun didn't heal
There's not even room enough to be anywhere
It's not dark yet, but it's getting there
Well my sense of humanity is going down the drain
Behind every beautiful thing, there's been some kind of pain
She wrote me a letter and she wrote it so kind
She put down in writin' what was in her mind
I just don't see why I should even care
It's not dark yet, but it's getting there
Well I been to London and I been to gay Paree
I followed the river and I got to the sea
I've been down to the bottom of a whirlpool of lies
I ain't lookin' for nothin' in anyone's eyes
Sometimes my burden is more than I can bear
It's not dark yet, but it's getting there
I was born here and I'll die here, against my will
I know it looks like I'm movin' but I'm standin' still
Every nerve in my body is so naked and numb
I can't even remember what it was I came here to get away from
Don't even hear the murmur of a prayer
It's not dark yet, but it's getting there
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Vulnerability ...
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Posted:Dec 15, 2023 8:16 am
Last Updated:Dec 17, 2023 12:44 am 23517 Views
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There is nothing easy about surrendering yourself to another person. Anyone tells you otherwise, tries to convince you that submission is a weakness, doesn’t understand the nature of strength.
If being a submissive was a switch I could flick on and off, I’m not sure that I would turn it on most days. Making yourself vulnerable is a terrifying thing. As humans, we spend our lives building walls to keep hurt. We construct mechanisms to defend us against vulnerability, hoping to protect our hearts. But, as FDR famously said, “Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the assessment that something else is more important than fear.”
To be submissive is to invite someone behind those walls. To cast off your armor, lay down your weapons, and crawl into the arms of another person, trusting that they will not betray you.
To submit is to choose each day not to recoil, to not construct new walls, or draw your weapons. It doesn’t mean that we aren’t scared. It doesn’t mean that some days it won’t be the hardest thing we do. But it does mean that each day we choose submission over fear, not because we are weak, but because we are strong.
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~Saturday Sway “Storytellers” Playlist
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Posted:Dec 9, 2023 6:10 am
Last Updated:Jan 1, 2024 5:04 am 23123 Views
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* Piano Man - Billy Joel
* Atlantic City - Bruce Springsteen
* Fast Car - Tracy Chapman
* Biko - Peter Gabriel
* The Hurricane - Bob Dylan
* Father & - Cat Stevens
* Living For The City - Stevie Wonder
* River - Joni Mitchell
* Cat’s In The Cradle - Harry Chapin
* If You Could Read My Mind - Gordon Lightfoot
Atlantic City ~ Bruce Springsteen
Well, they blew up the chicken man in Philly last night
Now they blew up his house, too
Down on the boardwalk, they're getting' ready
For a fight, gonna see what them racket boys can do
Now there's trouble busin' in from outta state
And the DA can't get no relief
Gonna be a rumble out on the promenade
And the gamblin' commission's hangin' on by the skin of its teeth
Well, now everything dies, baby, that's a fact
But maybe everything that dies someday comes back
Put your makeup on, fix your hair up pretty
And meet me tonight in Atlantic City
Well, I got a job and tried to put my money away
But I got debts that no honest man can pay
So I drew what I had from the Central Trust
And I bought us two tickets on that Coast City bus
Now, baby, everything dies, honey, that's a fact
But maybe everything that dies someday comes back
Put your makeup on, fix your hair up pretty
And meet me tonight in Atlantic City
Now our luck may have died and our love may be cold
But with you forever I'll stay
We're goin' out where the sands turnin' to gold now
Put on your stockings, baby, 'cause the nights gettin' cold and
Everything dies, baby, that's a fact but maybe
Everything that dies someday comes back
Now I've been lookin' for a job but it's hard to find
Down here it's just winners and losers
And don't get caught on the wrong side of that line
Well I'm tired of comin' out on this losin' end
So, honey, last night I met this guy
And I'm gonna do a little favor for him
Well I guess everything dies, baby, that's a fact
But maybe everything that dies someday comes back
Fix your hair up nice, make yourself look pretty
And meet me tonight in Atlantic City
Meet me tonight in Atlantic City
Come meet me tonight in Atlantic City
And meet me tonight in Atlantic City
(Tonight in Atlantic City)
(Tonight in Atlantic City)
(Meet me tonight in Atlantic City)
(Tonight in Atlantic City)
(Tonight in Atlantic City)
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Determination
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Posted:Dec 4, 2023 10:12 pm
Last Updated:Dec 7, 2023 8:51 pm 22334 Views
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Submission, and Dominance for that matter, while inbred, don’t come naturally. Now don’t mistake my meaning here, I believe submissives and Dominants are born this way, as much as people are born with blue eyes or brown. The innate desire to lead, or to follow, is not a choice, but the acts of submission and dominance are not innate, they are learned.
Take sex, for example, you can know that you want it, that it is something you need in your life, but learning to have fulfilling sex is a journey, not a single act. And so it is for D/s. You can take a submissive or a Dominant as your own, but that doesn’t complete your journey any more than losing your virginity makes you a master of sex. There is always more to learn.
And you know what? It’s not fucking easy. You’re going to screw up. Probably a lot. You’ll hurt the person you love and it’s going to be soul-crushing. They’re going to hurt you too, and you’ll probably be blindsided. You’ll learn and grow, and if you’re anything like me, sometimes you’ll look at the trail of mistakes behind you and you’ll wonder if maybe you aren’t meant for this after all. That maybe you aren’t really submissive because you seem to fail a lot, or that maybe you aren’t really Dominant because you seem to hurt your sub even when it’s the last thing you want.
But here’s the thing… Dominance and submission are innate desires, but learning to fulfill those desires takes work. Learning to serve your partner, fulfill their needs, and make sure that your own are met, requires determination and effort. Wanting something, truly deeply wanting it, even needing it, doesn’t mean you know how to get it.
You have to be willing to pick yourself back up when you fall. It doesn’t mean you weren’t made for this. It doesn’t mean you aren’t a ‘true’ submissive or a Dominant. It means that if you want it badly enough, you’ll muster the strength to learn.
~pleasurewhore
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I Tried Weed Lube , And Oh My God, Yes!
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Posted:Dec 3, 2023 4:10 am
Last Updated:Dec 11, 2023 3:23 am 20660 Views
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It’s easy to be skeptical about Cannabis Lube when you read reviews about Velvet Swing lube like, “OH. MY. GOD. It is amazing! I’m pretty sure we could achieve world peace if everyone had a bottle of this stuff.” Or reviews about Foria Wellness like, “While masturbating, I felt each sensation and touch was intensified, and I was more relaxed than I have been in a long time. f*** human partners!” Weed lube sounds like a gift from the gods, so I made it my duty to find out whether the claims were too good to be true. It’s a tough job, but someone’s gotta do it!
What is Weed Lube? What is Cannabis Lube? What is Marijuana Lube?
Before we get into our weed lube reviews, let’s go over the basics, shall we? You can use Cannabis Lube, Marijuana Lube, and Weed Lube interchangeably, but usually, people are referring to lube that is infused with THC. THC is the tetrahydrocannabinol found in cannabis responsible for getting you high. Now let’s get something straight, there are two kinds of cannabis lube: THC Lube and CBD Lube.
One thing’s for sure, cannabis lube, whether infused with THC, or just infused with CBD, is way more than regular lube. Weed lube isn’t designed to give you a head high (unless you end up consuming it, but why would you do that?) However, there have been mixed reports of some people not getting high at all while others report a mild high. Weed lube is designed to give you a better orgasm. CBD lube is the same thing, except it doesn’t contain any THC, and this is the factor that makes CBD lube legal in all 50 states.
Technically, this isn’t a lubricant per se because it takes some time to feel the effects; you have to actually apply it 15-45 minutes before any sexual activity so wait, now you’re thinking how do I use weed lube?
How to use Weed Lube?
Applying lubrication is pretty straight forward, simply apply to your nether regions and wait for it to work. Foria’s directions state, “apply 4-8 sprays directly onto the clitoris, inner and outer labia, and inside the vagina.”
Cannabis lube is different from regular lube because you have to wait for the effects whereas regular lube works immediately. Regular lube does not have the same active ingredients as cannabis lube and is just used to lubricate, not enhance. Sure, cannabis lube provides the same lubrication as regular lube, but there’s so much more to it. You just have to be patient. Despite what you think, waiting can be sexy. Foreplay anyone?
Just remember that it may take 15-30 minutes to feel the effects of cannabis lube. In some cases, it may take an hour or longer because it all depends on several factors, including age, weight, and tolerance.
Why don’t I just smoke a joint or eat an edible before sex?
Cannabis lube is designed explicitly for pinpoint effect. Rather than experiencing a head or body high, cannabis lube is localized to where you apply it. If you smoke or vapeor take an edible, it won’t be the same. Period. They won’t cancel each other out; on the contrary, they may complement each other if you choose the right strain.
Will I get high?
CBD lube won’t get you high. In contrast, marijuana lube, or any lube with THC, may get you high. Some people report feeling a bit high while others don’t report feeling anything.
There are a few factors that will determine whether or not you’ll get high: the potency of the THC, your weight, and your body chemistry. Even if you feel the psychoactive effects of THC, they will be significantly less than what you would feel than if you smoked or consumed an edible or tincture.
There’s one exception: if you use THC lube and someone performs oral on you, that person will get high. Consuming the lube is inevitable and is basically the same as taking an edible.
So, should I buy weed lube or a CBD lube?
Weed lube and CBD lube are quite different. For one, CBD Lube is legal in all 50 states as long as it is derived from American hemp and does not contain any THC. On the contrary, THC lube is only available in areas that have legalized cannabis for recreational use. The major difference is that CBD is non-psychoactive and won’t get anyone high.
While THC and CBD both come from the cannabis plant, they produce two different effects — THC gets you high; CBD gets you relaxed. Let me put it this way, taking CBD Lube is like driving a Mercedes Benz while taking weed lube is like driving a Ferrari.
From my experience and other reviewers, THC lube has more pronounced sexual effects where your orgasms are intensified and multiplied. In comparison, CBD lube enhances the sexual experience by relaxing you and getting you in the right headspace. CBD lube has also been reported to ease painful sex.
Choosing between weed lube and CBD lube is a matter of personal preference. If you find yourself getting stuck in your head with performance anxiety or general anxiety, CBD lube is the better choice. If you’d rather heighten sensation, weed lube is the better option.
Is marijuana lube for guys?
Yes, someone with a penis can use marijuana lube, but it will work much better in the rectum than on the penis. The rectum is much more absorbent than the penis. If you’re only intention is to use marijuana lube for your penis, you will not feel the same effects as someone using it on their vagina or anus.
Weed Lube Reviews
First, you should know that I’m a skeptic. I begrudgingly did this review in the name of science. I didn’t do it as an excuse to get off during work, I swear. I tried to be as scientific as possible. I took it the same time each day, used the same toy, and followed the instructions.
Now for the good stuff…
Orgasm By Dani Pepper
The best weed lube I tried, hands down, has to be the Orgasm Enhancer by Dani Pepper – an AAXLL Brands Company. Surprisingly, this was the last product I tried, but it makes first on my list. By the time I tried Dani Pepper Orgasm Enhancement Oil, I felt like a pro. I felt like I knew what to expect, but holy crap was I wrong. I was very turned on 10 minutes after applying it. I felt the same warm, tingling sensation but felt a little extra. I don’t know how to explain it other than my body felt super responsive, and my skin was very sensitive in a good way. I felt really in touch with my body and comfortable with myself and my sexuality.
I was feeling intense pleasure. That’s the only way I can describe it. It’s like my mind and body opened up. I was entirely in tune with myself, and every second was euphoric. It made me want to call in sick the next day and have a marathon session.
My orgasm literally made me cry. It was the most amazing thing that I had ever felt. I don’t know whether the other lubes I tried had primed me for this, but it was the best orgasm that I’ve ever had. This was the epic, earth-shattering orgasm everyone was talking about. I’ll let you fill in the blanks, but my orgasm was explosive, to say the least. The second and third were tremendous and unexpected but warranted. This experience was easily my best with any lube.
As a bonus, Orgasm by Dani Pepper is sourced from sun-grown cannabis cultivated to organic standards. It is also independently tested for purity.
Another thing that you have to consider is that this is an oil-based lube, so it can’t be used with latex condoms or specific toys. It also may be messy and hard to wash out of sheets. However, it is all-natural and has a pleasant smell. Out of the three THC Lubes that I tried, I’d recommend Orgasm by Dani Pepper Next time you’re at a cannabis dispensary in California, remember to look for Dani Pepper Weed Lube.
Foria Pleasure
I decided to try Foria Pleasure as my first foray into cannabis lube because it’s arguably the most famous THC Lube out there. The only ingredients listed are weed, coconut oil, and love. It doesn’t say whether they used Non-GMO love, but I decided to risk it.
That night I was already primed and turned on. I had been thinking about this assignment for days, so I had some pent up “stress” to relieve. I decided to use the full eight sprays directly on my clit, inner and outer labia, and inside my vagina.
I usually need to watch porn to get me started, but this time, I felt really aroused within 15 minutes. Playing felt sensational. I was so relaxed and felt wetter than I had been in a while. My session lasted longer than I had anticipated. Even though I felt like climaxing, I was able to hold on and keep enjoying myself. It felt as though I was feeling more sensations than usual.
When I did orgasm, it was long and strong but not as epic as I had anticipated. I don’t know whether I bought into the hype and built it up too much, but for how long I was masturbating and for how good I was feeling, I thought I was going to experience something different. Don’t get me wrong, it was a really good orgasm, but it was missing something. It was a little anticlimactic.
There are a few other things that you should know before trying Foria Pleasure. There is a slight cannabis smell that may be off-putting if you’re not used to it. Like Orgasm by Dani Pepper, it is also an oil-based lube, so it is not safe to use with latex condoms and certain toys. The cleanup may be messy as well.
Velvet Swing
Velvet Swing was founded by sexual activists and educators Mistress Matisse and Chelsea Cebara and is the first water-based marijuana lube. Their formula contains both THC and CBD at a 3-to-1 ratio as well as other cannabinoids and other terpenes.
I used the recommended ten pumps half an hour before I was supposed to play. I wasn’t feeling particularly frisky when I applied it, but to my surprise, I felt warm and tingly down there, which got me in the mood.
This time the orgasm came quicker. Again, it was stronger and longer than what I’m used to but wasn’t something I’d describe as earth-shattering. However, I did have a second orgasm. It wasn’t as good as the first, but it was delightful and a pleasant surprise. According to the company, “THC dilates the smallest capillaries, which increases blood flow and heightens sensitivity, and can lead to longer, stronger orgasms.” I would say that that’s accurate.
Velvet Swing can be used in water and is safe to use with latex condoms and toys. You won’t feel a slimy, oily texture like oil-based lubes, and cleanup is easy. The only downside is that you don’t get the same glide as oil-based lubes. Plus, the lube itself doesn’t last as long as oil-based lubes, which is why I’d rank this third on my list.
CBD Lube Review
If you live in a state that has not legalized THC Lube, you can also try CBD Lube. Both THC and CBD Lube work the same way in the sense that they increase blood flow to the sexual organs, which means heightened sensation and minimal discomfort. It also means orgasms can happen more easily. Reviewers have even talked about decreased pain and increased desire.
In a study by Remedy Review, of the respondents who used CBD sex products, they said that there was a noticeable change in their sex lives including a decrease in anxiety, stronger orgasms, and pain relief.
Again, I tried three different CBD Lubes: Foria Awaken, Ignite CBD Lube by Kush Queen, and O by Dani Pepper. You should know that Foria Awaken is oil-based and Ignite CBD Lube and O Dani Pepper Intimacy Lube are water-based.
CBD Lube gives you a much more subdued experience relative to THC Lube. I felt mellow but still felt incredible, relaxed, and comfortable — my mind was free of distraction. The day’s stress melted away, and I was able to be fully in the moment.
While the warm, tingling sensation greatly improved my experience with THC Lube, this wasn’t that. I could stay in the moment and didn’t have to worry about deadlines or anything. I felt like I could play all night. My orgasm was still stronger and longer than usual. I suspect it was the mental clarity I had. I think the best word I can use for the experience is EASY. It didn’t feel like I had to work for anything; everything came naturally. When I did orgasm, I was shaking, but I felt relaxed.
While the three CBD Lubes I tried were quite similar, I’d recommend O Dani Pepper Intimacy Lube because it seemed like I was more in tune with my body and felt stress-free. I fought with my mom and had a long day that day, so I wasn’t in the mood to play. This lube got me out of my own way, and I had a sensational night. I actually played longer than I had with the other lubes.
You can buy Dani Pepper CBD Lube online, but you have to hurry, it sells out pretty quickly!
Best Weed Lube – The Final Word
Out of the three lubes we tested, Dani Pepper stands out as the best in both the THC and CBD categories. The team at Dani Pepper has formulated something game-changing and I’m excited to see what comes next.
Generally speaking, THC Lube and CBD Lube affect your sexual experience differently than regular lubes. You won’t be paranoid or hallucinate. THC Lube only gets you high if you ingest it or use it in your anus.
Overall, these lubes amplify your sensitivity. You’ll feel a warm tingling with THC Lube within 10 – 30 minutes. With CBD Lube, you’ll feel content and relaxed; you won’t be in your head as much. The effects can last from two to four hours, so the chance of multiple orgasms is there.
The orgasm you experience from THC Lube is much different than the one you get from CBD Lube. Overall, it was easier to have an orgasm on both. The build-up on THC Lube was much more intense and most likely contributed to a more intense orgasm.
There are pros and cons to both water-based and oil-based lube. Oil-based lubes can’t be used with latex condoms or certain toys while water-based lubes don’t have as good of a glide and don’t last as long.
The best part is that some reviews report that marijuana lube helps with endometriosis and ovarian cysts. Explosive, pain-free sex is the holy grail. The only drawback is the wait time. Sometimes your engine is already revved, and waiting an extra half hour seems like an eternity. But you don’t have to do your taxes; you could manually stimulate yourself or, if you have a partner, you could, dare I say, take your time with foreplay.
So if you’re wondering whether you should try cannabis lube, my answer would be Yes! YES! OH, GOD, YES!
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