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Pondering life

My general ramblings on thing affecting my life. The good, the bad, the mundane and many other strange and wonderful thing that make life interesting like my thoughts on BDSM and sexuality.

My bisexual relationship
Posted:Jun 21, 2008 5:42 am
Last Updated:Aug 14, 2012 4:52 am
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My gay self has finally got my head around my relationship with my closeted bisexual lover.

I now realized that he not only cares for me but he truly loves me. He puts so much effort into making sure I am happy I know it is stretching his personal resources yet he does it . When we meet we will spend the day playing or making love or he will call to simply have coffee before he heads off to work. We do lunch or dinner at least once a week and he is comfortable being close in public, surprising for a closeted person. When he has to be away for a while he always calls and shows up as soon as he gets home. Yes, this man really does love me, what else can it be, because there is nothing to be gained from his efforts other than my returning his love. He can get the sex anywhere so it isn't that.

It is a wonderfully liberating feeling because I have doubted that a bisexual could truly love one person. The turning point came after a near break up and a reconciliation. From that point on I knew he really wanted to be with me otherwise he could have simply walked away. My paranoia was put to rest and I was able to accept the fact that a bisexual could be in love with two people at the same time.

Thank god because I think I have been in love with him from the day I met him. I knew I wanted him the first time I laid eyes on him, a very sexy confident man.

Yes I am at peace with myself and my love for my bisexual man.
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What a guy
Posted:Jun 14, 2008 5:28 pm
Last Updated:Sep 4, 2012 4:58 am
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My bottom took me out for dinner last night to celebrate my birthday .

On the way over a lady backed into his motorcycle and crunched his fender, Badly, I have to admit, the metal fender was folded over on itself and wasn't going to be fixed without the jaws of life doing it's work.

He was an absolute sweetheart about it all, I know I wouldn't have been. I knew he was fretting because his bike, his prized possession, had been badly dinged but all he did was cater to me.

Any way from 4:30 till 10:30 PM he was absolutely all mine dotting on my wants,not a thought of his own problems.

This morning he called to wish me a happy birthday and said we should be having breakfast together but couldn't because his bike was broken.

Man, I love this guy, waited all my life to meet him, hope we live to be a hundred.
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Breathing is dangerous
Posted:Jun 12, 2008 11:28 am
Last Updated:Aug 14, 2012 4:49 am
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I just heard on the news that some plastic shower curtains can release toxic chemicals and be hazardous to your health.
It surprising any of us are alive.
Nothing is safe these days, even breathing can kill you.
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Beware of bruised egos.
Posted:Jun 11, 2008 5:20 am
Last Updated:Sep 4, 2012 5:00 am
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Playing in cyber space is eerie to say the least. You encounter many different personalities and you have to be careful of hurting feelings.

Tread lightly and be aware. I noticed feelings of rejection can cause a multitude of problems for the person not being receptive to advances being made.

One has to wonder if the pleasure derived from cyber space out weigh the negativity encountered.
I guess only time will tell.

Caution, beware of bruised egos.
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My mind is just a spinning
Posted:May 22, 2008 8:02 pm
Last Updated:Aug 14, 2012 4:55 am
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Have you evey had something on your mind and can't get the thought out of your subconsciousness,it keep sticking it ugly head out at every opportunity,just driving you insane.

I have had something running through my mind for a couple of days now and it driving me crazy. There is no one to talk to about it because none of my friends would understand how my mind is working these days.

I am wondering if I am becoming a sadist of the worse kind, someone with absolutely no feeling about what I am doing to someone else's body. I don't want to stop because I get such pleasure out of the lifestyle. The power I hold as a top is awesome but I find it scary and I not sure what to do about it.

Who do you talk to about this wonderful dark world of BDSM we live in if the one person you need isn't there for you.
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Crap,Crap and more Crap
Posted:May 22, 2008 2:04 pm
Last Updated:Sep 3, 2012 5:23 am
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I am sooooo pissed off with the world. Sometimes I just want to get the hell off. It seems everything one touches these days is going to hell in a hand basket.

Last night I got a call from the Medical laboratory telling me the Hemoccult test I submitted was done on an outdated slide card used to collect the samples.Thanks a lot Doctor, perhaps you would like to collect the samples next time because I have to do them all over again. Great if you are into playing with scat but this boy isn't.

Samples have to be taken from three different bowel movements and by the way don't let the samples hit the toilet bowl. No problem, I'll just crap in a paper bag again.

Oh, don't forget you can't have any aspirin or advil for a week prior to taking the samples, forget that it allergy season. Great, just bloody great.

Seem everyone I know is in a bad mood or upset about something these days, why should I be any different. If it is such a great Fucking world, why am I in such a crappy mood. Right do the Hemoooult test again.

Thank God one can vent on a blog otherwise I would probably crap out.
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Outrageous gas prices
Posted:May 9, 2008 4:44 am
Last Updated:Apr 2, 2014 4:17 am
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With the outrageous gas prices we are experiencing do you plan on doing anything to help the alleviate the strain on your pocketbook.
Plan on down sizing my vehicle to a more gas friendly type
Combine errands and use the car less
Give up pleasure driving
Take public transportation where feasible.
Use my bicycle where possible
I am stuck, I need my vehicle for work
No the costs doesn't bother me , I'll continue what I was doing
Other
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Pleasant surprise
Posted:Apr 30, 2008 5:59 am
Last Updated:Sep 3, 2012 5:24 am
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What I thought was going to be a quiet week is turning out pretty good. Monday, out of the blue, my bottom called and asked if I wanted to play that afternoon. Would I ever so no, don't think so.

I met him at the public dungeon where we spent an enjoyable afternoon. Later, over drinks, he said he would be away the rest of the week and would see me next week. Ok, no problem these thing happen, life isn't always about the game. People have a living to earn and other thing that need to be taken care of.

Surprise, surprise 7.30 AM Tuesday morning my phone rings. My bottom asking me to wait for him and we would walk the and go for coffee. His plans had changed, we strolled the sea wall, had coffee and came back to my condo.

Fade to curtain blowing in the breeze.

A couple of hours later we went for lunch.
I had a great day.

Life is good.
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Alternative life style
Posted:Apr 28, 2008 5:23 am
Last Updated:Feb 12, 2015 5:39 am
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What does "Alternative Life style" mean to you.
Bondage and disopline
Sadism and masochism
BDSM a combination of 1&2
Dom/sub
Master/slave
Gay/lesbian/TG/TS/TV
straight swingers
other
All of the above
4 Comments , 14 votes
Bigots
Posted:Apr 27, 2008 5:41 pm
Last Updated:Sep 3, 2012 5:27 am
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I am a little perplexed these days.

Why would narrow minded people with bigoted attitudes come to "ALT" and pass judgment on peoples lifestyles.

"ALT" I understand stands for "Alternative life styles" so why would a bigot remain if he or she finds thing not up to their standards of so called normalcy. I would think if the climate isn't to their liking they would go elsewhere for their entertainment.

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