Body Art
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Posted:Sep 21, 2017 8:00 am
Last Updated:Nov 17, 2018 9:50 pm 20553 Views
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This past week I spent stretched out on a table letting a wonderful girl create a piece of art on my hip which will be a part of me now forever. I have to admit it took me a long time to really figure out a design, meaning and place to put it. When I saw the initial art work I fell in love with it and then took it to the artist explaining what I wanted to change in it to make it my own, symbolisms in it and colors, size and swirls. After a number of hours of alot of poking I got to look down, and fingers trace over the swirls and was thrilled. For me tattoos should have some sort of meaning, connection, sybolism which speaks to the person...not just hey that's a cool design. But hey that's just me. I love my foxy addition. So that's my 2cents for today
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One of those klutzy moments
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Posted:Jul 4, 2017 3:11 pm
Last Updated:Jul 5, 2017 3:05 pm 19253 Views
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Well, I had my klutzy moment of the week yesterday. Walking through the parking lot on my way back into work and obviously not paying close enough attention tripped over a chunk of the walkway missing. I am sure I was a sight Looking more like Mr Bean with arms and legs flailing in every direction as I went flying in all directions, my bag and my drink (the latter two which were just fine surviving it miraculously). The string of curses which followed I'm sure more appropriate for a sailor then a woman in my field as I look up from the ground at the lovely sunny skies and then tried to get up. The warm trickling sensation down my leg indicating that no this was not an injury free tumble or when I tried to put pressure on the foot who was the culprit of this roll on the pavement to find the aching pain.
Finally righting myself I hobbled into work and had my knee patched up. A large 3"x3" chunk missing from my knee. Very nicely done. And the ankle hobbled my way through the rest of the shift as it swelled putting some ice on it when I got home and elevated it. The whole scene I just look back and shake my head at how goofy it must have looked and my sheer klutziness. Definitely not one of my more graceful moves. So now I get to nurse the ankle and knee for a couple days. Not the best at sitting with my feet up "taking it easy. Wonder if I tie the ice packs on I can "skate" through the house to get things done. Just saying....LOL
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Self Esteem Reflections
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Posted:Jun 14, 2017 6:19 am
Last Updated:Jun 16, 2017 4:34 am 20169 Views
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I have not post in a little while, having been reading many of the other writers blogs of late. But one thing which seems to catch me in many of the writings I have read of late is the effects of ones self esteem which seems to be running rampant. I have sat down and really thought on my own thoughts of self image and self esteem now and through the years. The effects of media images that every woman must be a size 0 or god forbid is a plus size if over the size 10. Even for men that they need to be buff/ripped with the 6 pack flashing. The constant pressure that everyone must fit this mold.
Then there are those that are affected by life experiences. Abusive parent or partner who has cut them down to make them feel they are less then dirt on their feet, that they can never measure up and the affects this has on the person as a sub as a dom. The need for reassurances jumping into relationships and situations in fear that if they don't there won't be another to come along that they are not "worthy" of anything better. It is easy to fall into these ruts, leading to depression, low self image and low self worth. I think most of us have been there at some point in our lives.
I admit that at points in my life I have fallen into this like many others. Questioning my self worth, settling when I knew it was not a good fit but fearful of the thought of being alone or there being no one else that could love me/care for me for me. No, I am not a size 0 and will never be one. But as I have grown older I have learned to look at the world from a different perspective. My world I deal with many elderly and those once size 0's and beautiful faces and bodies are no longer so different, wrinkles and aches and far from the hour glass figures. I learned that it is not what is on the outside so much as on the inside. beauty comes and goes but it is what is on the inside that really counts.
It is not about size, as much as it is about attitude. I have met amazingly exuberant plus sized women and men who ooze sexuality and self confidence. And I recall one man which I was blessed to meet who told me I was gorgeous on a day I really wasn't feeling the most gorgeous, that he loved women with lush curves on them...who wants a boney rack to drive into it damn well hurts slamming into bones. Need some cushion for the pushin'. It made me laugh and changed my mood that day and made me look at myself a little differently. Women were built to have curves. But in that there are just as many women who struggle to get curves who are slender and no matter what they eat or do that is who they are. There are size 0's out there unfit and eating garbage and size 22's that are at the gym several times a week and eating healthy every day. Do not assume due to size one is in a better state then the other.
Through the years I have tried to reflect onto my as she grew and to those who struggle with their own self image that the world is made up with so many shapes, colors and sizes. There is beauty in each if we take the time to look, not everyone has the same tastes. Kinda like ice cream not everyone is a vanilla, strawberry or chocolate lover...(I'm a pumpkin pie cheese cake icecream kinda woman, creamy and spicy )).
There will always be those who bash others for looks size trying to belittle others. Whether this makes them feel bigger...better I don't know. This is their issue though not yours, it could be past experiences they have struggled through or are struggling through, you may never know. There are some subs out there who seek this type of belittling , humiliating or demeaning relationships as their kink which leaves me to wonder if it is a turn on or an issue of self esteem and fears deep.
For me after years of being in a verbally abusive life made to question my self worth, self image. I have learned to look at myself much more closely, and with positive people in my world learned to see that while no I will never be a size 0( which I think I would be rather sickly looking at that size... ) I love my curves. Yes I could be leaner and at times make healthier choices and I am working on that day by day. I know what I have to offer as a sub, my strengths, and I realize life is a learning experience and I open my viewpoints to this. But I also learned that I need to pay attention to my gut feeling and not let fears suck me in. I have learned to voice them face them one by one. I have been gifted with those close to me who have been there to lean on and remind me of my worth. I look to those around me who have that presence and embrace who they are rather then beating themselves up over their imperfections. Some of those imperfections are what make you amazing!!
I wish people would look at those around them and rather then focusing on the negative or bringing them down took the time to find the positive. A dom caressing a sub down their back with a soft "you look good enough to eat" a sub commenting on how sexy a Master looks....a hug to let someone know someone is there and cares, words of encouragement or praise when they have done something well. It is the little things which can change a person's world and you may not even realize just how much that small thing can matter.
Well that's my two cents for the morning. Sorry my rambling got away on me this morning
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What is/are your MUST haves?
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Posted:May 21, 2017 4:54 am
Last Updated:May 23, 2017 2:02 am 20739 Views
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I was doing some "spring cleaning" going through toys and intimate items this weekend. Getting rid of pieces that really just didn't cut it for the promises of pleasure or had just been replaced with better items. So then lies the question as I am looking at various sites for new items or replacements ...What are the toys you just CANNOT do without? Are there specific stores whose items are the must go to stores you hit?
I have to say I am pondering the satisfyer Pro penguin clitoral stimulator as a next purchase as have had 2 girlfriends on girls weekends bring up this piece saying they purchased it and in 3 min or less they are over the moon and having more intense orgasms then they ever knew possible.
So what are your MUST haves?
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The Art of Kissing
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Posted:May 18, 2017 11:09 am
Last Updated:May 24, 2017 3:48 pm 21608 Views
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Have you ever had the type of kiss which just takes your breath away and makes you ache for more? Or perhaps it was a wet sloppy one that made you think they mistook you for an ice cream cone? I guess I find my thoughts roaming today on those exquisite kisses that had my heart racing that I could feel that quiver in the pit of my stomach making me not able to think straight it just was completely about him and that hunger for the next kiss. Yes, it can be addictive!!!
What is it that makes that kiss so amazing? Pressure? Technique? Energy? So I went looking today reading others thoughts ideas and found this which I thought I would share:
Here are six extra sensual kissing techniques for your kissing pleasure in 2017.
#1 Make your lover yearn for your lips.
Begin by allowing your lips to linger in front of your lover’s lips. Breathe. Feel your lover’s gentle breath linger over your lips and into and around your mouth. Take time to feel into the subtle energy between you—enjoy the stillness and silence. Do not rush. Build up the yearning. Resist the temptation to bring your lips together and pull away when you feel your partner wanting you. Make them beg silently for the taste and sound of your kiss. And then, when you are ready, brush your lips up against theirs, but only slightly, giving them a taste of what’s to come.
#2 Go super slow.
Now that you’ve mastered the art of the linger, you can progress into slow kissing. Remember, kissing is quite possibly one of the most sensual and exquisite sexual acts that exists, therefore, I encourage you not to rush. Instead slow your kissing down to an excruciatingly slow pace, eventually building it up to a deeper and more intense experience.
Do not introduce the tongue straight away, begin with small slow kisses (remembering to breathe, don’t hold your breath). Explore your lover’s lips. Taste them in every cell of your body. Go slowly, so slowly that you feel your partner wanting more, but knowing you have all the time in the world to build up the intensity.
#3 Breathe.
Using your breath during kissing allows the sexual energy to flow up through your body and chakras, eventually syncing with each other to create a beautiful flow of sexual energy that connects you at a deeper level. There’s no special breathing. Simply don’t hold your breath and when you feel it’s getting unbearably hot (and you’re so turned on you can’t stand it anymore), imagine that you are breathing the sexual energy up from your sex centre (the area at your cock or pussy) and into your heart and consciousness. This is a simple practice that allows for the energy to flow through your entire body, connecting you with your lover at all three center (not just your sex center).
#4 Alternate between slow and sensual, and hard and rough.
Now that you’ve mastered the art of slow kissing and things are getting hot and heavy, it’s time to alternate between slow kissing and firmer kissing. Introduce a harder, sexier, more predatory kiss. Perhaps you gently scratch your lover’s back while your tongue enters their mouth with more force. Perhaps your breathing is deeper, and your sounds are louder (yes, sound is welcome during kissing). Perhaps you gently bite your lover’s lip, or you bite their neck, bringing out your wild woman/warrior who has a deep yearning to f*ck your partner. Alternate between this style of kissing, the yearning and lingering and the slow kissing.
#5 Eye contact, eye contact, eye contact.
There is nothing sexier than a lover who looks you in the eyes and can hold your gaze. Not everyone is comfortable with this, so if the thought of it makes you cringe, I suggest you begin to get comfortable with it, because eye contact is crucial for mind-blowing sensual kissing and sex. So, if you feel like the kissing is getting increasingly hot and heavy, and you want to slow down, slowly pull away, open your eyes and wait for your lover to do the same. Now hold their gaze, and be truly present with each other. Simple eye gazing can bring about orgasm without any touching or kissing—it’s such a powerful and beautiful way of connecting and a true form of intimacy. Also, try kissing with your eyes open, this is one of the most erotic and sensual ways to connect.
#6 Use sound.
Don’t be afraid to make sounds when you are kissing. Sound activates our body so when we allow ourselves to let go and breathe, the sound of kissing is beautiful, erotic and even more powerful. You may also find that slow, intimate kissing can bring about orgasm—and orgasm is even more powerful when sound is used as a form of expression. So let loose with the sound.
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For many women I have spoken to they will say they can tell you they know in the first kiss whether it will be a good match or not. Can they take your breath away? And if they are a bad kisser what then? Is it a make or break issue?
Sits back with a smile on my lips thinking of the amazing kisses which took my breath away..mmmmmm 
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