Take this seriously - stalkers are scary
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Posted:May 10, 2012 8:57 am
Last Updated:Sep 9, 2020 7:47 am 25190 Views
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Until recently, I never took the concept of stalking very seriously.
I'm reminded of the first time I endured a serious hurricane. Until then, I thought it would just be a lot of rain and wind. I never realized the potential catastrophe one could cause.
I assumed that no one would ever stalk me. It's often hard enough to get anyone to take notice in the first place. And even if it did happen, it would be cute to feel like someone is obsessed with me. What a shot to the ego.
Then it happened and I've come to understand the agony this can bring to one's life.
It started normally enough. I contacted a faceless profile (from another site) and things progressed as one might hope. We soon met for a meal and seemed to get along well. Perhaps not a perfect match, but enough of one to continue.
Looking back, there were some signs that this person may have been a bit off, but I refuse to fault myself for her actions.
Within a few weeks, she decided to end things. Actually nothing had ever really started. We'd never progressed beyond a couple of passionate kisses.
Then it started. Calls, emails, handwritten letters. A little googling revealed some frightening behavior in the past - including some genuine violence. I started getting a bit nervous.
Even after repeated requests, all of the contact continued. I never responded to any of it and it seemed to enrage her all the more. You eventually come to realize that there's no hope in trying to reason with an unreasonable person.
So now, the police are involved. I didn't want this. I'm sure she doesn't want it, but what can one do? What might seem to begin as a slight annoyance can so quickly progress to terror.
And this might be the worst thing of all. Not knowing. One might think that when the calls and the emails stop, the problem is solved. It's really not. You still find yourself sleeping with one eye open - waiting for the other shoe to drop. I have no idea how long this will affect how I live my life.
I refuse to allow this to change the way I approach new people. Crazy people are crazy people and they're everywhere. I wish, as a comedian said, they had to wear signs, but the world doesn't work that way.
I hope I'm making clear how seriously stressful this has been for me. My hope in writing this is that others can head things like this off before they get so entangled. This is not just annoying, it can be terrifying. Lost sleep. Constantly checking to make sure doors are locked. Trying to live under the radar. It can consume you. It has me.
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A wonderful summer comes to a close
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Posted:Oct 5, 2009 2:28 pm
Last Updated:Jan 27, 2014 8:09 pm 24025 Views
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I can't believe I haven't written anything here for a year. My new resolution (New Years or not) will be to write here more often. Not that I dare think that anyone out there gives much of a damn what's going on in my life, but writing about it sure helps me organize my thoughts about things.
This has actually been a pretty brutal spring and summer for me in a number of personal ways, but the pluses have outweighed the minuses.
I am just tickled to death to have met so many wonderful women lately. A few in person, chatted with others and only emailed with still more, but it just warms the cockles to know that you're all out there.
It also seriously reinforces my earlier post about being respectful to people. I just don't understand why other men don't get that. It's not as if I'm Casanova here. Isn't this just obvious?
Honestly guys, trust me on this one. Being polite and respectful works.
So, everyone, drop me a line. Don't you know how much fun it is for a guy to get unsolicited messages here? Hell even the solicited ones are fun 
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Back in the saddle.
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Posted:Aug 11, 2008 8:09 am
Last Updated:Dec 12, 2011 2:30 am 23383 Views
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Well it's been a brutal summer and I don't mean that in any kind of way that might be positive on alt.
First let me apologize to all my friends here who must have thought that I up and disappeared.
I didn't.
I spent most of the months of June and July in bed. Again, not in any interesting way. I had the worst case of bronchitis I've ever had. Well, come to think of it, it's the only case I've had, but nonetheless, it was debilitating. I had no idea how uncomfortable not being able to breath can be. I guess I'm not cut out for any suffocation fetishes.
There have been some high points to the summer though. My beloved Goldwing died on me and I was able to get a hold of a beautiful brand new Harley.  I was even finally able to take a much needed vacation. About a dozen of my friends and I did 1700 miles (on our bikes). We slayed the infamous Tail of the Dragon in Deals Gap TN. What a blast. Not quite the same rush one gets from a good spanking, but close. Come to think of it, my butt was pretty sore after that too!
Well, again, I apologize for my absence and I know I failed to fulfill a few promises. I will endeavor to make amends.
Best to you all.
Greg
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A sub in a dommes brain.
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Posted:May 28, 2008 9:31 am
Last Updated:Sep 9, 2020 7:46 am 24501 Views
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Well,
Alt certainly can be a journey and an adventure.
I haven't written anything here for ages but I really need to get something off my chest.
The numbers here are pretty obvious. Male subs looking for female dommes must outnumber everyone else - several fold.
I realize this can be frustrating. I realize that it means that it's hard to get noticed. I realize that it means that connections can be hard to make.
Accept it! Life is hard. Wear a helmet!
I'm just astonished at the bitching that goes on here from subs. And yes, you mostly bring it on yourself.
Hey, I'm one of you, but alt has been very good to me. Am I lucky? Probably not. Am I the perfect specimen of a male being? Hardly. Am I just not choosy enough? Hell no!
I'm polite, respectful and I follow the rules.
Being so outnumbered, why would you think that dommes are going to be knocking on your door? Wouldn't that lead one to think that maybe they need to initiate contact?
And guys, come on. Think a little before you send a message. It's my experience that dommes are people first. They don't appreciate message that start with an offer of submission. They need a connection to you know. I really don't think there are that many women out there looking to abuse any man that offers his service blindly - especially when they can be choosy because of the numbers here.
Why not start with a nice introduction of yourself, followed by a description of what you are interested in and finally perhaps a little groveling?
Trust me, it works! Dommes want (and deserve) to be treated like ladies, long before they have any interest in domination.
Well, I suppose I shouldn't be speaking for dommes, but that's the impression I've been given. And considering the number of fabulous women I've come to know here, I think I'm onto something.
There are, obviously, women who my description won't match, but I think they're fewer and farther apart than one might surmise.
And while I'm on my stump - how about filling out your profile and maybe even posting a picture? Hide your face if you must, but I think dommes have a right to know what they're getting into.
It really doesn't take that long to answer the questions and write a little about yourself. Do you really think anyone is going to respond to a profile that shows that you're a 35 year old white male who likes to be spanked - and nothing else?
So stop embarrassing me! Stop making subs look like idiots! If you want to be a doormat, fine. Just maybe ask her how her day was first and perhaps even offer to buy her a nice dinner.
Ok, I'm climbing off the stump and back down into my submissive position. Let the flames ignite.
Greg
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