The real reason your initially not going to enjoy m2m
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Posted:Dec 7, 2023 7:25 am
Last Updated:Dec 7, 2023 10:52 am 3651 Views
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Let's be honest...your voyage into guyland initially will be bumpy.
Your not gonna just slide into the deep end..
Well I did...but more on that later..
Your gonna be nervous, your not gonna want to touch the guy,kissing is the furthest thing from your mind..
Hell you most likely didn't even bring lube or condom..
Youve banged women but never had to discuss whose topping who.
Hopefully you at least had that talk with the dude.
If your both new to the game then yeah the fucking
Is gonna be rough.
Literally...no lube.. you have no clue that you have to prep the bottom guy with your fingers,no clue that you have to give him that moment to adjust to your girth..
What...you thought you'd just slam it in..
It will be an experience the bottom guy soon won't forget..
A painful one..
So let's say you got it in and now are pumping away...
Feels pretty good from your end... probably as good as a woman..
But the sensation your really lacking is the bottom guys reaction..
It will be akin to a woman that just lays there in bed..
You'll end up with a dude that is in pain from your thrust..and most likely won't know how to process it...and his hole will clamp down,tighten. Meaning it is harder for you to thrust
This is why some guys try their hand at bottoming and never go back
And since your inexperienced ..you won't know the difference between this guy
And someone like me..
Who went fucked.. enjoys it and will start to moan, groan,make sexual noises as you thrust..
So you'd get a completely different experience with someone like me.
Another reason it might initially suck is your afraid of touching the other guy.
So your just...dick/mouth..and maybe anal . But your missing out on alot of ways to turn a man on..
To which your probably ignorant of cause you never explored your own body..
But you can caress his skin, pull his nips, use your mouth on his body like you'd a womans..
You do that with a woman..right?
When there is more than just your penis involved,it's just a better experience all around.
Okay let's say everything is gonna great, you got the plane in the air,the passenger is enjoying the flight..
But have you given any thoughts on how are you gonna land the plane..
To which you most likely don't even think of where your with a woman..
Do you nut up in the guy? Is it rude?
Do you pull out and shoot on him? Is that rude?
Can you finish off in his mouth? Is that rude?
Is it rude to even ask? Or should you just do it..
Even odder . And for the love of Pete...
Please don't make this mistake...cause your most likely be a top..
After you orgasm...
Please..please.. please do feel like you owe the bottom guy one..
I had way too many tops reach over and start to jerk me off..
It's like they can't process that it's very enjoyable being a bottom..your get a lot of wonderful sensations back there .
So I'm good ..I had fun
Meanwhile they are rubbing my dick so hard you'd think they are trying to start a fire..
anything anal sort overrides sensations to the penis for a bit
And you just rode me hard...it's gonna take a minute to prime the pump..
Meanwhile we both feel silly as you constantly work the handle and nothing comes out..
You feel like I'm missing out..
If you want to see me cum..then engage me as the bottom..stick your fingers in me when you jerk me,put a toy in me and suck me off etc.
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There is no " brokeback mt" moment
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Posted:Dec 7, 2023 6:10 am
Last Updated:Dec 7, 2023 9:01 am 3326 Views
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The real problem with basic m2m is how it's stereotyped.
I really don't believe 2 dudes cuddling and more in a tent ...
leads to them being gay and regretting their marriages..
There is no...I can't get over you ..
Moments..
Now the book or the tone of the movie may have implied both were initially gay..???
Whatever..
My point is you doing m2m suddenly doesn't make you gay..more or less want to leave your wife..
Chances are your not going to fall in love with a bro
You may fall in love with say sucking a cock though..lol
But still...you like dick and not the dude attached to it..
Which is surprisingly common.
And if you luved banging an ass.. Yeah your still gonna love banging your wife..
I disagree with the notion that people were born gay
Cause there are people like myself that have flip flopped.
So I ..me personally
consider it a preference...much like you should..
You can fuck a blonde,brunette, redhead..
Why not a woman or a man..
Without it defining or labeling you..
Let's be real...if you were shipwrecked on an island for years with a dude..
You'd bang him..right,
So what's holding you back now?
The funny thing about straight,curious,bi guys is there literary is no change..
It's not like..wow I fucked a dude and now I want to be " flamboyant"..put on some ladygaga..
Your the same dude..you most like top...Will go back to your wife tonight and then top her..
Nothing really changed..
So guys there is no reason to fear m2m..
And perhaps your married and your fear to tell your wife..
Well afraid to tell you..but yeah some women are into gay porn,m2m.
They feel like it's raw sex without the love.
Like I mentioned previously..if you add the lifestyle into your interest in men, then it's just easier for you/ for both of you to process this as a power exchange/ domination..
Your not fucking an ass..your taking his ass.. Your rejoicing at how much the bottom slut wants your cock,your load in him..
So you stop seeing this in negative terms..your not " gay".. Your dominating your slave..
Either way...
There won't be a broke back moment
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Part 4...I don't want to leave you with the impression
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Posted:Dec 6, 2023 6:20 pm
Last Updated:Dec 6, 2023 6:26 pm 3248 Views
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And honestly I am tired of the disney/ Hollywood stereotype of a gay man..
Fuck I like guys..I'm not 5'6 ..i'm not geeky..I don't talk with a lisp..I don't dress like Elton John.i don't drape myself in a flag ..I'm not woke. I'm not not mayor Pete butterbitch.
I'm 5'11 2010lbs, I lift weights,I work on cars, I luv football, I'm manly AF ..yet I like a dick in my ass..no seriously..I'm a bottom
And honestly I don't know If this even is a shocker anymore
Yeah I liked to being plowed by a 60 something farmer.
Is it because I look like you,work with you,dress like you..that annoys you
Yet it Doesn't mean I want your dick in me..doesn't mean I'm attracted to you..or want you to convert..
Gay guys are different..And there should just be mad respect for what bros like
No different than you having a type..maybe your into blondes or bbw or black women..
It's called a preference.
And it doesn't mean cause we all are banging weights,spotting each other or even showering naked
That I need to process this sexually..
Gay men can have straight friends..
And honestly unless your gay..I'm really not interested..can actually have dude friends.
Yeah...I guess this is where the gay guy is supposed to inserted the emoji hearts,flags,bears? Unicorns
I'm not really interested in you..or the flag or bears
No offense..we good..
I honestly wish people would get this.
You don't want me...And you can't give me what I want..
So we can just chill and lift.
And we're cool..
I'm just shocked that in 2023...people still freak out about dudes fucking dudes..
In ancient greece,rome,Germany japan..great warriors/ hero's fucked men.
Kinda funny in their time..
It wasn't a big deal
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Part 3 of the D. Being gay vs m2m..I think there is a huge difference.
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Posted:Dec 6, 2023 4:58 pm
Last Updated:Dec 7, 2023 5:09 am 4496 Views
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First off
Sorry if I'm log jamming the boards a bit with these topics.
Second...I honestly think people need to chill a bit when it comes to labels or the fear of being labeled.
An act doesn't define you..so dont define yourself over an act.
Too many dudes run head first into the woodchipper proclaiming they are now curious or bi because..
Omg..they got their dick sucked..
By a guy..
And ( cue Katie perry) they liked it..
Of course you liked it
Who doesn't like it..your dick is being sucked..
But here's the deal There is a huge difference between a blowjob and falling for a guy.
But honestly I could stick your dick through a glory hole..
And walk a variety of different adults from a 22 yrs college coed to the mailman to the golden girls. .to a pack of nuns..into that room to suck you
And your gonna enjoy it..
But that doesn't suddenly make you
the pope..
Being gay is more than...a sexual act..
Like you could literally fuck a dude...And I still wouldn't consider you bi.
ALOT of people like to define bisexual or gay to mean your attracted to someone of the same gender.
I'd like to clarify that definition by saying it's more than attraction.. It's feelings.
I can be attracted to a bodybuilder and admire his big pecs or huge arms..I can hero worship him. But that doesn't mean I want to date him. I may want to suck his cock.. But that doesn't mean I want him in my life
The same goes for ALOT of straight women..they can think an actress is hott..be crushing on her.. But there is no real feelings for that person..
To me it's like a dude going to a bar to hookup with women..he's there to get laid and doesn't invest any real feelings into them.
I'm not suggesting a guy is using a guy as a " replacement "..Like say in a prison setting.
I'm saying it's okay to have fun with another guy without worring what it makes you..
You there to get laid.
Your barman.
Your there to suck and fuck...
I said the same argument about lifestyle play with another dude..
It's more about bonding than falling in love, have feelings
And if or when your ready to advance down the orientation scale..you might notice that bi sex still is different than even gay sex..
???...say whattttt!!!
But am I not putting my Dookie in his cookie..?
Once again..it's not the act.. listen you can pump your dick into a fleshlite or an ass.. Blindfolded both will feel tight and warm on your dick..
But your not gonna have an emotional attachment/ investment in either..
That is basically what bi is in my opinion...Being comfortable with the guy...to some extent But it still can be very standoffish.. your not invested emotionally
Gay sex on the other hand is completely different. In my experience there are no barriers,guys are warm, affectionate,passionate,do way more than just suck and fuck..
Hell I had dudes that sucked my fingers,licked my arm pit..
And to really hit home the idea that what you might wanna try,curious about or actually do with a guy isnt..
Gay..( you been warned)
Hell I had a top guy literally lick my asshole out...no warning either..
At first there was a...
Hellloooooooooo nurse sensation....he gave me no warning..just stuck his tounge right in..
Why???? Cause for him it was a casual thing to do..like why wouldn't you eat a bottoms ass out..it really is a common practice
But once I realised what he was doing..I was chill..
And just saying
I liked it..
I'm not saying every gay guy is like thid
But certain things are the norm...like obviously kissing, the top prepping the bottom by stretching his hole with his fingers..ass eating, cum eating,sucking your nips
Some things we label as fetish are quite normal/common in boytown like chastity,edging,anal play,fisting,spankings,nipple play, feet,sounds etc
My point isnt to freak anyone out..
I'm using extreme examples to clearly show what you do 2 in the morning after a few shots..With your bud
Is much ado about nothing..
It's basic...so don't read into it..
But I'm also saying Women can be...how do I say it without sounding like a dick..
Let's go with less experimental...
You may have always wanted to fuck an ass,have your own backside played with,maybe you luv getting oral and that wasn't her thing,maybe your into feet and were really afraid to approach a woman about your fetish desires..
I'm not saying all men are laid back...but there is less of a sticker shock in the gay community.
So yeah..hopefully this helps..
You to understand there is a huge difference between sucking a penis and a top rolling me into a ball and fucking me silly ( no cap..true story)..
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How to get the D part 2 etc
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Posted:Dec 6, 2023 12:10 pm
Last Updated:Dec 6, 2023 12:22 pm 3038 Views
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Honestly I'm not expecting any response to my original blog..
Cause I know it's a hard topic to talk about
And more guys are into it or would like to get with other men..
Than they are willing to admit.
But I find it funny how society wants to villianize the male sex drive.
Why is it wrong for men to desire sex,think about sex..be sexual..
Why is the male sex drive contrasted against the female standard ( ours being judged as " too high"). Why not theirs is too low
Without rambling on and pissing someone off..
My point today's wasn't to make men sound like immature sex freaks..
Rather male sexuality..is well..normal..
And if your having issues connecting to/ with women
Maybe you have considered men..
And hopefully realising
That being " sexual" doesn't have to be a bad thing..
It's okay to finally be
Horny
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How hard is it to get the D...as a guy
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Posted:Dec 6, 2023 9:22 am
Last Updated:Dec 7, 2023 5:09 am 3028 Views
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I'm off..the coffee is flowing..
I read an ad on fet where this 40 yr old guy was begging for help,tips on why he wasn't connecting with women,etc..
Honestly I could have given him some. I doubt if he would have really processed it..
CAUSE at 40..he was still acting like he was 20..
You want younger,younger don't want you..
You want sex..they want chad,that 10 percent of the male population..
Your not chad
Wash,rinse,repeat..
So maybe you've been in a similar boat..And as you turn 40,50,60..hell 70..
Maybe the thought of men has crossed your mind..
Maybe you wondered how hard it is to be with a guy.
If so then pull up a couch and let's talk...
I don't like to stereotype or generalize people..
But the 40 yr old man " looking" is a common occurrence.
And the 40,50,60,70 etc yr old man " looking" for a man is becoming more common.
I think the biggest difference in my opinion is ALOT of women from say 30 up are very relationship focused..
Maybe she's never been married or just got divorced or has etc.
The 30 something man on the other hand most likely is either bored or is divorced himself and suddenly wants to be that movie " old school"/ wants to go back to his former 20 something.
He wants to fuck..anything adult..not nailed down..
And some guys never want to get back on the relationship train cause..
Available women of a certain age come " prepackaged"...they come with ,they come past issues,baggage.. And I'm not bashing women here...a lot of guys/ divorced guys have issues too.
It's like asking for the big mac...but finding you have to get the combo...
Men? There are single men out there sans ..
So what's it like being with a guy??
No I'm not getting into that sexually...unless you really are curious..
But I'll say what guys are like in my next reply
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Married men? How do you handle the situation
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Posted:Dec 6, 2023 7:22 am
Last Updated:Dec 6, 2023 8:23 am 3339 Views
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I chose to blog about this topic instead of just replying to another members posting..
I figured I need the room to air out this topic..
Cause it pops up more than you think..
And obviously you can swap out married man for married woman..
But you'll find it's usually the man doing this...
I'm not even talking about cheating... I mean a married guy ( both straight,bi,gay) will post an ad looking for..
And they will say it's all good..their partner knows,they have permission..or even..
Gay couples ALOT of times play seperate..
You'll find these ads in both the vanilla and kinky lifestyle..
So how do you broach this topic when a married guy contacts you?
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World's best lifestyle hack? Talk to an older person
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Posted:Dec 6, 2023 6:42 am
Last Updated:Dec 6, 2023 7:03 am 2813 Views
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I'm really suprised this generation of slackers,influencers,don't wanna work 9 to 5 generation doesn't pull the greatest life hack...
Lean on the older mother f ucker with the wrinkles,the scars..the people with knowledge and experience..for advice
Cause some things don't change.
I commented on this tiktok vid on YouTube and this young dude was flexing... Literally boasting about how much he could " straight curl" a barbell with his back against a wall.
And while everyone was stroking his ego..
I laid the smack down..
Not because I'm jealous...of what..his youth or ability to lift a " heavy weight"??
Your boy is a forktruck...
Anyway it's hard for an " old guy" like myself to just sit back and let someone do something incorrectly..
And you know there will come that light bulb moment...down the road
Where everyone says..
I wasted x amount of years lifting incorrectly..I never got " big"..or I hurt my shoulders.. Or now I got bad knees..
I wish I would have listened..
Young buck? Your talking with a guy that has been lifting on and off for like 35 years..
He and I had a back and forth in the comment session..
Finally he wrote..
I see your point...but my way works best for me.
I replied
And your way is wrong..( I dime dropping it right there)
Someday you'll sit back and contemplate life.. You'll ask yourself where has time gone And you'll say... I wish I wouldn't have wasted all those years Lifting incorrectly..
Then after a torn bicep or back back..
You'll finally be ready
To listen..
I'm not a guru..I'm not influencer..I'm not here to sell you supplement..
Or merch..( but hey imagine me on a t shirt or beer cosey)
I'm am scared, I am wrinkled, I am tired...
This is what you look like when the world
Has beaten you down for 54 yrs
This is what
Experience
Looks like.
So hey keep doing what you think is best for you..
Just saying..But this old motherfuck
At 54.. can squat,over head press,bench..( my knees,my back,my hips,my shoulders are fine..never been injured...w/o any pain)..
And hopefully when you reach 54..you can say the same..
For such a slacker generation I'm suprised they don't use this hack..
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Do people really want the experience or just the fantasy
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Posted:Dec 4, 2023 12:41 pm
Last Updated:Dec 5, 2023 6:48 am 3290 Views
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I posted this after reading something on fet..
69 yr old guy is looking for some to tie him up,explore bondage,orgasm control..
Soooooooo if your cynical like me...
Your thinking..good luck.. No way in hell does anyone really reply..
Nope,nada,zilch..not a chance
Then a slightly younger guy replies,explains he's a novice etc..
And then the 69 yr old literally dumps the fantasy barrel on this dude..
Detailing the whole thing ..in ALOT of detail
And I ponder
Bro your 69...you brought up bondage..
Got someone to actually reply
Dumped the equivalent of your literally load on this guy..
You bukatted the fucker
And most likely ghosted him..
But that's my guess..
I ponder
Do people really want to connect
Or are they just living vicariously
Hey no sweat off my brow..
But what if you were that other dude and was sincere
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