Writing about cbt..is cbt still in the closet??
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Posted:Nov 11, 2023 1:00 pm
Last Updated:Nov 12, 2023 9:13 am 4771 Views
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Let be honest..cbt is really the red headed step of bdsm land.
If dudes didn't bring it up...
Would it just die off..
I mention yesterday that I still like the surreal meeting the real in a story..
Well what could be more surreal to most people
Cbt is the surreal element...the hook I need to attract readers..
Cause everyone would enjoy reading about it..
Even if they didn't want to do it or have it done to them..
And we all experienced this at say a convention..
A Domme will be demoing cbt..people will gather out of curiosity..
People will stay for the entertainment.
For the wonder of seeing the Domme actually busting his balls..
Only to scurry back to the comfort of their hotel beds at night..
My job I figure..is to drag this sorta play out of the darkness and make it more relatable..
Make it more accessable..make it less scary and more erotic???
Make the audience understand...whether through my blog or a story..
That cbt isn't a pain thing...you not actually trying to harm/ damage the male..
It's a control thing..
...cbt probably the easiest,most natural way for someone to experience what it's like to have complete control over a male
One doesn't need expensive toys,one doesn't need years of experience, one doesn't need to be in the lifestyle or join the local dungeon.
Cbt is such a unique type of play
Because ball pain is so different than any other sorta discipline.
Here's an example.,,
you can swing a heavy paddle hard and may even bruise my ass.
But you may not get that instant satisfaction you crave.
Chances are I may not flinch,I may not even let out a sound.
Most likely it will take a series of blows to wear me out physically and emotionally break me down..just to
Get me to that responsive stage you desire..
Let's be honest..you want to see the slave jump,make those wonder groans and moans with every good lick of that paddle..you get pleasure out of seeing him react to your stimuli..it makes you feel powerful
But more so...you want him to surrender to it...you want him to realise who is in charge
Which is wonderful for both parties...but you might feel tired after tanning that ass..
And chances are you probably left some deep marks..
No harm done..sometimes to make an omelette you have to break some eggs..sometimes to get what you need out of a slave you might have to put a lot of yourself into it..
And I'm not bashing those that do enjoy pushing a male while disciplining him.
I'm actually cool with being bruised etc.
But your probably done for the night and won't go back for another round.
Cbt is different because the slightest blow..say from a wooden spoon to the testicles..
Gives this instant gratifying response out of the male..he instantly reacts.
If i had to describe the pain?...
It isn't like whipping or paddling...it's more like electoshock..
It's brief,it's overwhelming, its very little effort on her part..
Oddly enough the pain associated with the balls tends to be more mental of a process.
Paddle my ass and the pain is focused there.
Tap my balls and instantly the pain is registered in my brain..
It tells me instinctively to " surrender"..collapse into a ball at her feet and try to protect the testicles.
So one gets this instant emotional rush from quickly defeating the bigger,strong male.
It's wonderful to see him instantly humbled so...
Do a few rounds of cbt and the male become very obedient and quick to obey any command.
The same reaction that might take you 10,20,30??? Blows with a paddle..
And even if she does wish to be more aggressive or get in a good hard shot that floors the male..
Like we all enjoyed on America's funniest home videos..dad gets a whiffle ball to his nuts..
The pain isnt long lasting..maybe a minute? or injury causing...it's more like knocking the wind out of his sails...his first reaction is to crumble into a ball..
But..give the male a second to catch his breathe..and she can see he is perfectly fine
And he gladly resumes the position..
So she continue cbt through out the night..
AND I'll add that I'm not suggesting you can't injure a guy..through cbt
But then again there is absolute no reason to literally bust his balls.
Use common sense,get to know the male and how he reacts..
And gauge your play accordingly.
Remember cbt is not meant to be a wham,bamm,thank you Ma'am sorta play..
It is more of a long satisfying drawn out torture on the male...make him willingly get back into position for yet another tap,slap,punch to his balls
It's more of a control type of play....keeping the Dominant in complete control and luving him under your control.
I just feel cbt gets a bad ..so many people wait years before trying it.
When I say it most likely should be their first experience when it comes to control,power exchanges,one gender controlling the other, exploring options like a Female Lead Relationships.
Like I said..it's easy,it's cheap,it's powerful,if done by reasonable sane people..there are no marks,No harm,No damage..
And the play is quite universal..it can be just playful..
It can be embraced by soft Dommes..
And it can be enjoyed by sadist
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Then it occurred to me...what I really need to write about
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Posted:Nov 10, 2023 5:06 am
Last Updated:Nov 10, 2023 8:42 am 4474 Views
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I first wanted to craft erotic stories like Anne rice..
But I didn't want those princess,castles,island of paradise..stuff..
I wanted to bring the surreal into a realistic setting.
Marge,aunt bettie..even the lady down the street might own an objectified male.
Which is fun...
But I think I really need to refine my concept of surreal realism.
I talked with this woman on fet that claimed to be a sex therapist and asked the FLR group members if they would share their cbt stories,experiences with her.
Apparently she writes some sorta column???
And wanted cbt to be the topic..
Only one dude replied???
And I thought that ironic..
Men luv to talk about their junk,men luv talking about discipline and fetishes..
So why the silence...
Then it occurred to me...
Maybe the problem
Is me..lol...and despite cbt being a lifestyle staple...
It's like that bland potatoe salad that aunt Marge brings to every party.
It's there..but no one is digging in.
Maybe I'm the only one that enjoys cbt..
So I thought it would be hard for someone like a sex therapist to write an article to a vanilla audience on cbt.
Because you have to understand how,why of cbt.
Most people see a kick to the balls as...just pain.
Maybe my niche in erotic writing could be stories...that feature ordinary folks going through these experiences and giving the reader the opportunity to be there,feel it..
From the safety of their own bed..
Maybe that is surreal realism..
Cbt in on that potluck table...I'm wondering if anyone is digging in..
And would you read stories of say an ordinary woman having fantasies..
Of what it would be like to
Say have a male balls under her feet..
And what would she do if she met someone like me..
That could easily let her have that experience....someone to literally walk her through the process of trampling a male...
And that experience would be shared with the reader..
Such fun
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I finally am " hard "
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Posted:Nov 7, 2023 6:56 pm
Last Updated:Nov 7, 2023 7:00 pm 4061 Views
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No im not talking sexually..
Over the past few years I have become a complete...
Well asshat..a chad
And refused to let anyone boss me around..
And now this new company that bought us out is
Dicking me around..
And I literally out argued the head of HR..made her look like an idiot
I said what the company is doing is really shitty..
In front of all the stores employees...in an hr insurance meeting
And I honestly let that shit fly..
Without an ounce of fear..
I'm leo..duh..maybe you heard of me
What part of being a chad..
Don't you get...
When I no longer care..yet am the best you got..or will ever get..
Then there is that disconnect.
Fire me,keep me on..
Whatever..
But I am leo..
And you'll never find someone like me.
Worked for the same company for 20 yrs..never took a vacation..was sick like 4 days in 20 yrs..
And made you money.
Nobody out works me..
I make you money..
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My advice..get it in writing.. as an employee
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Posted:Nov 5, 2023 6:04 am
Last Updated:Nov 5, 2023 8:08 am 4418 Views
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I wanted to take a moment and address your power as an employee or a potential employee for a new company.
First I'd say look at your state laws..
In good ole bumfuck Missouri...
Employers ...isn't this 2023?..are not required to even give you a lunch break.
Any benefit you are promised is between you and your employer..
And you better get it in writing..
Cause your state probably doesn't care.
I was promised x amount of paid time off..
Missouri says..fuck you...
If I quit/ get fired...I don't get paid for unused pto
If I don't use it...Missouri is gonna let you lose it..
And if the company doesn't want to give you your requested pto off..
Missouri says..fuck you...
The company literally doesn't have to give you squat..
And this is me just reading about the fun labor laws in my state for like 10 minutes..
I'm guessing there are tons more..
I've never been pro unions...esp at places like starbucks...
But..perhaps unions or any employee that wishes to start one..
Needs to bring these facts to light..
Would a union protect my pto..
Would a union have fought back against voluntary wellness programs...which are neither voluntary nor a wellness program.
Would a union actually protect an employee that had real concerns at work..
At my job we have literally under 500 employees..and like 2 HR people..
That will never return your phone calls..
And even if you do get a job perk in writing..
Do you have the resources to fight the company..
My advice...and oddly I'm starting to sound like a gen z person..
Or Peter from the office space movie..
Don't give a company your loyalty,your time ( overtime is not worth it) or your passion..
Never get comfortable and always look for something better.
And remember...people bash gen z..call them laxy,don't wanna work..
Meanwhile their starting wage
May be closer to yours..
So yeah I most likely will get fucked out of 22 days of pto,my insurance will go up 960 dollars etc..
And yes I will get a job somewhere else..
Cause your state don't care,your employer doesn't care..
And if you thought I checked out years ago..
Meet the new gen z employee in me
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Please explain the censorship on this site
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Posted:Nov 5, 2023 5:23 am
Last Updated:Nov 5, 2023 8:35 pm 4329 Views
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In my last blog I talked about our spineless government and how they allowed big business to implement " wellness" programs.
My current employer wanted a blood draw..
I refused...they put an 80 dollar a month..penalty...960 dollars a year increase in my insurance.
Mind you..it's not a " penalty"..it's a " surcharge"
And for daring to talk about such things..
All 3 of my comments got denied..
Yet none of them violated TOS..
So how is this game played?..
Is there really admin on here...
Or is it like youtube,Yahoo etc..where anyone
that disagrees..can report/flag or Karen you.
And your hard work is now removed.
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What make you special..
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Posted:Oct 24, 2023 5:54 pm
Last Updated:Oct 25, 2023 9:22 pm 7398 Views
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Out of the millions that dwell on the planet earth..
How do you stand Out?
How are you
Unique
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