ExNameForUses hot topic, triggered this writing...
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Posted:May 19, 2023 1:52 pm
Last Updated:May 24, 2023 1:23 am 11271 Views
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That is why sites like this, are a great playing field, for narcistic personalities.
Because, some submissives are really very eager to please, to do what ever is necessary to please, this person.
Mostly, because they longed soo long, to be finally be able to serve, to submit
Her longing is sooo strong, so deep.
They lose contact with reality, thinking they have found their god....
Because, narcists, are very good in playing you.
Know your weakness and work them, like a charm.
Without, first really do a good check out on his personality.
Take the time, to get to know them, take it easy, going slow
Narcistics dont like that... They would have to invest in that contact, most dont / cant? Must be consistent? in all.....
Because i know this, i have a list of questions to ask.
It is not about the answers, it is about hów the other asnwers those questons....
It is not full proof ofcourse...
Some submissives, are also soo needy, hunger soo, after that dominance, the guidance, the play, his leadership,
that they lose their common sense and are very happy, with every snippet of attention, such a persons gives...
You maybe could call that subfrenzy.....?
Could compare it with subfrenzy?
I dont blame any one, for their actions.
I do understand how this mechanism works.
Have seen it happen, many times, with people in the scene....
Going head over heals, into something they cant oversee....,
the effects on them, in the long run.
Being sucked in, by that time!
Have to fight their way back to a person they lossed ontact with, because they have been played, by a narcistic personality.......
narcistics persons want the control, from the first second.
maybe even pushing you, to give over your consent, controle, authorty...
I believe there are submissives who mistake that behaviour for dominance
and fall for that shite....
A dominant, take you and all you are. in consideration,
takes the time to get to know you, back to front...
inside and out.
Takes his time.
He, too, looks for inconsistencies..
As he knows, you have to get to know him, too.
Have to get used to how he is, what he is, how he behaves
Who he is.....
Narcistic persons only manipulate you, untill you dont know what your back or front is, anymore....
I am very happy, that my inner alarm is working, always goes off!!
When such a person presents himself to me....
My fighting modes goes on, full alert.
Ofcourse narcists have different levels of intelligence, too
So, the real smart ones can manipulate you, play you!
Beyond believe... very refined
Others, not so intelligent, are easier to detect.
use too much force, to get you were they want you.
totall dependend on them and their visioen of you...
Making you a emotional invalid, totally cripple.
I believe they act out of fear,
They want to controle everything,
They are very afraid they are found out, that their character, that they are not so nice at all.
That they are false in every way....
The core of it?
I dont know... what triggered this in them?
I dont know.
I am not willing to be their boxing ball, i dont want to play their therapist.....
Maybe it is also some disbalance in the mental chemicals, in the brain,
just like borderline...
I dont know...
by controling every move, they disarm the other, mentally healty persons...
Or, so they think.....
It is about enemy thinking, i believe.....
Want to make the first cut, the first shot, the first move.
Fear and controle.
A false sense of superiority, too
Just some ramblng...
Do with it, what you like....
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Your calling?
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Posted:May 16, 2023 12:11 pm
Last Updated:May 23, 2023 1:12 pm 10810 Views
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I have a nephew.
Ever since he was able to walk and talk, he wanted to be a farmer
So, his parents had an easy deal, thinking about birthday/christmas etcetera days
Always farmer related gifts.
You could not make him any happier, with those.
Now, he is somewhere about 12 years or something like that.
He has a friend and he has a job on a farm
His friend is the of the farmer.
So, he sort of, found his calling.
That make me think of if i ever had a 'calling'...?
I know, when there was a famine in Biafria, in 1966- or maybe 1967?
a part of Nigeria,
I wanted to become a nurse, to save all those starving .
To call thát, a calling?
I dont know, i am more likely to think it was my love language talking,
caring, helping, "acts of service"....? Maybe
It is for the best, thát did never happened, because i cant stand the sight of blood, from someone else.
And i cant stand needles!
What kind of a nurse would i ever have become?? 
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DIY, nose, and visit the doctor?
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Posted:May 8, 2023 10:07 am
Last Updated:May 13, 2023 1:44 am 12185 Views
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For those who worried, about me and my nose?😍❤💋
As i told you all, it is not broken,It is just bruised, takes about a week of 4 -6 to heal.
i can swim, eat, drink, dance.....
just take it easy.
I cant read, because my glasses hurt my nose....😫
But,i am oke.
Thank you for your concern! ❤🥰😍
❤😘
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Where is "Our" hair artists? hair dresser?
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Posted:May 7, 2023 2:49 am
Last Updated:May 13, 2023 1:48 am 12020 Views
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I am sorry, i cant remember her name.... ( i am bad at remembering names)
But i hope someone knows where she is, if she is alright?
i did not read a blog story from her, for some time now....
Is there someone here, who knows her wereabouts?
And her name, too?
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Fetish dispenser?
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Posted:May 7, 2023 2:13 am
Last Updated:May 11, 2023 12:41 am 10704 Views
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I dont know, if women act this way too.
Being a heterosexual woman.
I dont have to deal so much, and in thát way, with woman.
Men, a lot of men on here.
Be, or acting submissive or socalled 'dominant'....
All behave the same,
wanting a fetish dispenser.
They dont want to have to knów the other person.
Prefere NOT to know, anything about that other PERSON.
That messes with their mental image picture/ horny fantasy of how they want that dispenser/ domina / submissive to act, be.
In both cases, the women, have to act in a certain way
fitting their horny kinky fantasy.
If you, as a submissive woman, or dominant woman, dare to act
outside their little fantasy.
Those men, get nasty, beyond believe!!
Thén, you see their true colour!!
ALL RED FLAGS!! RED FLAGS OVERALL!
Demanding all kind of strange acts.
Dont give a damn if the other person has totall other desires.
wants and needs.
That murder the fantasy of those men, by being normal, wanting a normal conversation, first!
That is what makes those men upset beyond believe...
Submissives, and dominas, asking questions, have an oppinion, of their own! ?
The dispenser does not have to show any human trait, believes, private life...
MUST not show any human traits!!
They are only there, to fulfill the fantasys of those men,
when they want it, how they want it.
That they dont get anything out of that kind of behaviour?
Not the problem of those men!
No responsiblity, no care, no connection.
It is not mend to be, that this fetish dispenser has ideas of her own.
This is what dominas and submissives have to deal with, every single day,
being on sites like this.
My domina girlfriend is very offended by that behaviour
WTH do those men think! Anyway
To dare to treat "us" like that!!
Brainless egoistic, egocentric vanillas.
most of the time, with a lot of womens issues! hatred, maybe...
They dont LOVE women, for sure!
Or, even appreciate women......
Maybe they are even afraid of women...?
"We" are worthy, much more, then they will ever be able to understand.
For the men, who dó understand the nature of submissive women, or dominant women.
It is not about what you DO, but how you behave.
And, i have to admit, there are some couples, who function perfecty happy,
being each others fetish dispenser.
No human contact, no friendship.
just fulfill each others fetish, each others "role", if they are compatible..
Or not.
I cant get my head around that, at all.
I did see those people at partys... those couples.....
To me, it is all for the bunhe... for "the others"..... show off.... role....
I need that emotional contact, the connection, before anything else.
That is were the trust is growing.....
It all starts in the mind, brains.
Try to figure out, what makes her tick, what makes her happy, what makes hér....
Try to get into her brainwave, her set of mind, what is important for her,
in live, in living, her goals, her ....
What makes her, hér?
Boy, You have to invest?
time and energy?? in a domina??
Or, even worst, in a submissive??
Have to remember what she tells you?
Show real, genuine interest in the whole human being???
be connected??
Hell no!
It is all about HIS FANTASY!
Kneel!! you bitch!
Do as i tell you!
or, being A socalled male submissive?
You have to fullfill MY fantasies.
If i want to lick your feet, You let me!
Because it is ALL ABOUT MÉ, MÉ MÉ!
That you hate that someone touches your feet?
Too bad!
Are you out of your mind!!
They have to service mé! no matter what!!
Emotional cold, egoistic 10 year old boys in a adult body.
behaving that way, too, when they dont get their way!
Thát, is in essential, the behaviour of those special brand of vanilla men, on here....
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My girlfriend, and i,
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Posted:May 6, 2023 2:40 pm
Last Updated:May 9, 2023 12:00 pm 10803 Views
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We talk about almost everything.
There is nothing taboo!
Even when it hurts a little bit.
So, we talked about fet and "the scene", for what ever that may mean.....
She was really very clear, about nog having any interest anymore,
in the whole scene
The munches, the parties, the men!
just not!
The way she talked about the men!
My, Oh, My!
That was no good!
If some men, could have listen in??
it would have crushed their little egos...
She talked about all the red flags, she almost always read in the messages she got.
Being a domina, you dont want to know, what kind of horror she sometimes get..
And, how nasty those men, become, in a second! when she rejects them.
Never read such a foul language! from socalled submisisive men!
We talked about that guy here, with his: "report yourself"/melde dich" act.
RED FLAG was all she shouted.
I laughed my tits off!!
I told her, relax!
You dont think i would fall for that kind of nonsense, dont you?
You must know me much better then that!
So, she too, is 'cured' - like so many women, are...
Just leaving "the scene', disgusted and disappointed, beyond believe...
Does not want to have anything to do, anymore, with 'submissive' men.
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Gifts of nature,
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Posted:May 6, 2023 1:49 pm
Last Updated:May 9, 2023 12:02 pm 8942 Views
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It was a reasanel pretty day, this day.
I love my saterdays.
a bit shopping, the market,
visiting my best friend.
She was a bit depressed, tired, beyond believe...
I, ofcourse worried about her.
Because she allways have very, very,very! high standards, só high, it works against her....
Forget her own pace, room, space, time
Everybody else is always much more important then she is....
Thát, is not a bad trait, but if it is in the overdrive scale, it is no good.
So we talked abit, we even hugged, ( did not do that, since the corona haox)\
She was way too scared...to get other people sick or become sick herself
That is how she is.
While i think, everybody has her or his own responsiblity.
and have to carry that too.
Anyway.
Coming back home, i listened to my favorite radio programs
did some cooking.
And, when the twilght time came, i went outside
It was not really "warm"....
But i wanted to be outside.
There was a blackbird singing and singing, it was soo nice!
and then some wild cats came into my garden, did not see me
untill i moved, they ran like the devil was onto them
I always have to laugh about their reaction.
The blackbird keep singing and singing, it was great
My own personal concert!
Then, i saw the first star appear!
That was a great gift, too.
Some bats were flying around my shed....
An other gift....
I was getting a bit cold, and stiff from sitting so still for so long...
Hoping for more gifts...
Did not want to appear greedy, already having got soo many gifts...
And then, it happened.
There was this shade, moving against the other shades...
Already getting pretty dark.
It was a hedgehog!
My first hedgehog of the year!!
It drank out of the waterbowl for the birds.
I think it must have had some real great meal, because the snails are there again!
Everywhere!
I am thankfull for all those lovely gifts of nature....
It was a well spend evening outside.
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DIY
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Posted:May 6, 2023 7:18 am
Last Updated:May 7, 2023 1:33 am 7761 Views
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I was working on my bike, there was something i needed to repair.
I needed some muscle power, to get in done.
And then, the item worked it self free and i heard my nose crack!
On some metal part of my bike......
My glasses were thrown off my face... It hurted like a real MF.
I inmediately put a cold cloth on my nose....
and keep repeating that action......
There is no blood, so i dont think my nose is broken, my nose is already crooked, so you cant tell, by the shape if it is broken.....
I can touch it, it does not hurt.. very much....
There is some swelling.. but not really very heavy.....
laconic about such injuries.... no panick at all.
it just is......
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Do you all think i should do it? ;-)
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Posted:May 5, 2023 2:00 pm
Last Updated:May 6, 2023 2:09 pm 7971 Views
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This is a joke, i am totally not serious.
just playing around...
I had this message, it is for sure spring!
I have to report to this.... aah, well, just let me give him the honor to call him dominant.....
yawns....
Thats all, no introduction, nothing.
Just report yourself?
When i get that kind of messages, these always make me laugh out loud.
Maybe there are women , who fall for that kind of thing....?
I dont.
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Remembering day, 2e WW
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Posted:May 4, 2023 4:02 am
Last Updated:May 4, 2023 11:57 pm 7825 Views
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4 May, we in Holland remember all the people who died, in the 2 WW.
Now, with all the struggle/ wars going on, some people also remember ALL the victums,
of ANY WAR, ANYWHERE.
I really appreciate that.
The whole day long, there are radio en tv programs going on.
People come together, to listen to stories about their survival in those horrible years.
I listen to the storys.
I only think, this should happen, all year round, once a month or something like that.
Those who survived that horrible war, and those death camps, slowly die....
And, with them, their personal stories....
And, tomorrow,
"we" are going to celebrate the end of the 2e WW.
With a lot of music, and, again, here, a lot of public drunks!
Puking in peoples gardens.... Out of controle... 😝🤔😡
Disgusting.
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