Some of the jokers around here, pretending to Bé dominant...?
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Posted:Mar 30, 2023 12:09 pm
Last Updated:Apr 1, 2023 1:58 pm 6731 Views
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At least, that is my experience over the years,
All want to 'do' bondage.
ALmost all of them!
( without having the knowledge to do bondage in a safe way)
Want to restrain the submissive, right from the start!
Without bondage, they are not interested in the submissive....
I find that very strange, but maybe i am reading things into this, i dont know...
For me, it is very important to submit out of mé,
without having to be bound to a table, bed (ofcourse!) first!
or what ever...
Because I wánt to submit to this person, out of my free will,
who i know, who i trust, who i have fun with and good conversations....
who cares for me, and wants me to be safe, all the time.
Most of those pretend doms, are totally NOT interested in "having a decent, ongoing conversation", unless it is about kinky, sexy, horny stuff and ofcourse their dicks!
Almost all have a preference for bondage....
I have learned, to, not ever go into bondage, as a first play, second, third, fourth play,
and maybe even the rest of the play contact.....
Never!!
There have been too many "accidents"- lets call it that, we all know better!!
With guys so terrible horny, to "do" bondage, that they totally lost contact with the person in the ropes!!
It is ALL about him.
No self controle.
And by that, you can see the difference between those pretend ds, and the good ones.
The sincere ones, the caring ones...the responsible ones.
I dont like bondage, anyway.
I find it esthetically beautiful, but that is as far as i go.
or maybe a breast bondage.. ?
Just have to wait, untill the person is done, making a roulade of me?
Why!?
What is the fun, joy in thát? hahahaha
Being a masochiste, who needs ropes, when whips, can do the job!? LOL
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speaking French without one word, or no! one word French?
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Posted:Mar 30, 2023 11:32 am
Last Updated:Mar 31, 2023 11:51 am 5949 Views
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In one of my favorite special shops, this Indonesian toko,
i was waiting in line, there was this very beautiful woman two places ahead of me,
she paid her stuff, the next woman, paid for her shopping things too, saw some keys on the counter..
Pointing the owner at the keys, the woman was all ready gone.
So, when it was my turn, i told her, i will look for this lady, dont worry.
She told me, you have to do that in French, oh no! was my response....
It is a very small shopping centre, so i went outside, looked around ,
tried to find her 'energy' so to speak, or her aura, if you believe in that...
So, i was just scanning the surroundings, and i saw her, walking into an other shop.
So, i shouted; Madam!! MADAM!
(FRENCH)....
She turned around, i made a motion of a key in a door, or key lock...
She looked at me, questionable, i took my keys out, she looked at me,
searched her pocket, i mentioned her to come with me, i said the name of the other shop, she walked with me, to that other shop..
Then, the lightbulb hit her, she was soo happy.
telling me it was the key of the house of her sister!
So i brought her back to this toko, i told the owner, i explained her, without one word of French...
Ooh! No!
one word French!
Madam!
Ths French lady made kiss motions to me, so happy she was to have her key back!
My good deed, of today!
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Masters and slaves.
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Posted:Mar 28, 2023 12:07 pm
Last Updated:Apr 1, 2023 1:37 pm 6825 Views
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As usual, i read a lot on fet.
This is a very good group, they have a great amount of knowledge, they are willing to share with everyone.
The group has 83.850 members.
Ofcourse, not all members are as active as some....
It is living a 24/7 day to day, power exchange, relation, in wich the D (f/m)
is in charge, has the lead and the s follows willingly and enthousiasticaly
Sometimes it is the D/M type who stays at home, work from home and his s type has a very stressfull job, outside the house.
Sometimes, it is the D who does the cooking and the s type, who brings in, the biggest paycheck.
And all the other possible variations on their D/M-s dynamic.
It is as flexible as the people in their dynamic.
I do love to read about how they came to find their way.
Some dated months and months, before they decided, are made for each other.
Others had a long online contact, meet each other and they dicided to live together, from that moment on.
In this specific couple, the s type is allowed to say NO.
Her Master knows her, and knows, it is very important, for her, to be able to say NO.
Allthough that does not change the task, job, assingnment....
what ever they call it.
I really like that idea, the D/M person, knows, it is very important for his s person, to be able to say No, although she knows she agreed to obey.. listen, follow his lead...
It is a mind thing, you have to understand the mindset of this s type, person, to understand how this works for her.
and allow her to say NO.
It has nothing to do, with being disobedient, or a "brat", it is a mental thing, important for this s type, person.
i really, do dig this and love the understanding of her D / M type for her need, in this.
There is a lot of psychology in building a healty, loving, caring Master~slave relationship, powerdynamic
Both need to have a deeper understanding of each other and each others background, needs, wants and desires..... as a human being.
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Passive~agressive?
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Posted:Mar 25, 2023 8:14 am
Last Updated:Apr 1, 2023 12:16 am 8057 Views
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Is it possible for a dominant to learn from a / his submissive?
Appearently, i had some sort of conversation, a while ago......
The other person did not react back, only after some time....
I was totally forgotten about this 'contact'...
Or is it an insult to their domly domlyness...
To have to stoop soo low....
To acknowledge the fact that most submissives have a brain of their own, and in working order, too?
That learning from his submissive/ slave, is far to low for him...?
How dare she to implicate he nééds to learn a thing or two???
Even, maybe, from the submissive?
Or, is this too, again some sort of ego game? Again?
Domly domly ness......
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On fet,
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Posted:Mar 24, 2023 1:47 pm
Last Updated:Mar 28, 2023 6:33 am 8188 Views
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There was this question.
When and how did you found out, you are a slave?
In the group; 24/7 living it, day by day.
(Not the role play act, lifestyle act)
I did not safe the writing, oeps!)
It was really great to read about women, in a 24/7 loving, caring relationship, with that special power/authority exchange.
It brought me back to a play contact, a scene, that went terribly wrong,
although i had told my hard limits,
him, not recognising subspace,
breaking all kind of hard limits....
Men, what a mess that was.........
When he had left the building, leaving me behind in a mess, mentally and physicially.
I cried a lot, ( i am not a crying kind of person)
Thén, at that moment, i realised, i could never be "just a play~bedroom submissive".
Althought, that scene went really bad,
He was really not suited for the "role" hehehehe, not!
I realised, that kind of sexual related actions would never, ever satisfy me,
not even physically.
Because of lack of connection, on the mental part, FIRST.
Thén, came the realisisation, i am not a bedroom submissive.
Those role play boys?
Totally not attractive!!
They cant give me anything.
Not able to reach my mind,
where my submissive comes from.
NOT from between my legs, or any other body part.
and ever since that realisation.
Trying to talk about this, leaves those boys speechless.
Huh? What?
Tis was suppose to go, about sex! their dicks!!
MIND?
WTH....
calling me al kind of names, scammer, domina !
My all time favorite:
Not A Real Submissive....
I know, what i am.
So, since most men, want to enter this whole circuit from the bedroom play act/sex
and do not give much about whó this person is...
And me, wanting and needing to go from the dating stage, getting to know the whole person first....
Not giving much about "their fetishes" ....
I am, for sure, are not going to talk to, with a stranger about my deepest needs and wants, on the D/s~M/s scale, let alone on the sexual scale
To a stranger??
To me, that is like walking up, to someone in line at the grocery counter and telling her, him, my sexual desires?
Or someone in a shop, or someone at the busstop!?
What is wrong with those dudes?
ego drivin, lazy fucks
ego drivin, lazy as fuck vanilla boys, without any knowledge of the rules accourding to this kind of dating.
Totall lack of respect and understanding for the submissive person/ woman
My humble oppinion.
It made me feel very happy, to read about those women, telling about their first staps of awareness, of being or wanting to be HIS slave,
In a leadership orientated relationship, with lots of love and fun, and the daily errands to run, too.
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True nature,
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Posted:Mar 24, 2023 1:14 pm
Last Updated:Mar 28, 2023 6:34 am 6446 Views
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All you, who ever, needs to do, is give them some space....
Or, let them ramble on....
Or maybe they make that impression, in their own heads.....?
Sooner then later, they will reveal their true colours.
be it passive- aggressive, or down right rude.
And, most of all, lazy as fuck!
Think, this is tinder or some sort place... all they have to do is swipe and then let the ladys will do all the works.
this not anywhere near vanilla dating!
LAZY AS FUCK~
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I did it!
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Posted:Mar 21, 2023 1:08 am
Last Updated:Mar 28, 2023 6:34 am 7097 Views
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You must know, i can be very sensitive for all kind of stress situations.
So, i had this online stuff to be delivered at my house.
Or in some far a way village... NOT going to happen.
So, i arranged to get it delivered at my home adress.
They send me the time frame.
Panick fase 4!
Huuh?Oh! No!
so, i contact the shop again, they cant help me any futher.....
I had to 'babysit' at the hours they wanted to deliver the stuff...
So, i contact the deliverycompany.
And, i can change the day and time
Of the delivery!!
I am ever soo happy!
All the stress is slowly leaving my body.
Sighs of relieve...
Life can be soo simple!
With such a simple action! i am totally happy!!
I did it! 
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SAD and well meant friends?
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Posted:Mar 19, 2023 2:25 pm
Last Updated:Mar 28, 2023 6:34 am 7627 Views
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SAD is actually a lack of some brain chemicals
"normal" brains, of other peoples, do not get this.
They might not really like the autunm and winter, but they can handle it
maybe even enjoy it...
Are maybe a bit slow, tired
BUT nothing mental
So there is this disbalance in my brains.
This starts, reveals it, during puberty
WIth the change of hormones in the brains, and girls become women,
menstrual cycle, getting breast, hair in strange places.....
So, while as a girl you are coping with these big changes,
i did get the SAD symptoms to deal with, too!
It felt like my body was betraying me.
It was, or had nothing to do, with who i am.
It felt like a fucked up, sick trick!!
So, around 14 i got to deal with this, every FFF winter again!
I always, all those years, did search for what it was, talked to my aunt, because she was a stable source of knowledge about the family history...
Year, after year, i went to my doctor, explained the why and how
And every FF year they send me away!
Only after i threated to commit suicide , this doctor send me to a psychologist.
I got to this doctor, i get into her chamber, sit down, i am almost on the verge of tears......
I telll her just a very little, small part of how i feel, every autunm, winter time again...
She looked at me, told me; girl, there is nothing wrong with you.
It are those doctors they have been wrong, to try to put you on antidepression "medication"
Thát is the worst to do!
With SAD people!
For the first time, i felt accepted.
Understood.
a very heavy weight fell of my shoulders
At the same time, i did became very, very angry with all those lazy fuck upped doctors!!
How in hell, did they dare to act like that!!
FF criminals!!
Ingorance is no bliss!!
GGGgggrrrrr
So, i had a name to my symptoms
I finally got to understand what happened in my body, brain.
Stil no cure, but this was a start.
Then i became part of a rollor coaster trip to all kind of tests....
I was tired like hell, because those tests needed to be done, in the midst of my SAD,
dragge meself to the hospital ...
Test, test test...
And, then came the desillusion.
There is a very, very small percentage of people, who dont react to the daylight therapy - lamps!!
I fellt soo teriible sad, down, when i got that outcome!!
MAD, too, again!!
I just want it to end it all!!
ENOUGH!!
So, after some days of very heavy depression....
feeling like i was with my back against, up to the wal, nowere to go!
Nowhere to heal, too
I put myself, together again,
Researched all and everything i could to find some kind of medication, herbal, anything!!
Tried soo many new supplements, every time there was something new on the market, i bought it, tried it.
I really made some companies rich!!
N.O.T.H.I.N.G. W.O.R..K.E.D!
And now i have these.. well, they call themselfs my friends......
Wanting to 'heal me' from my SAD.
I can not get more angry, when such ignorance twits, think with their microscopic small brains, that they can cure this!!
I am on the ferge of explosion!!
And, i did explain to them, how SAD works, brainwise, mental wise...
Murderous angry!!
How dare they!
Anyway....
I decided to ignore them.
This hurts me, you know?
I became fulnerable, to explain all this stuff and this is their reaction>?
To show all my pain, about this...
Years ago... and now this??
Yeah, Yeah, dont come telling me, they mean well!
Nó! They dont!
This is all about them, not mé!! 
Soo many people, "all meant well", trying, without really understanding, to "cure" me.
Before long, they want to pray for my healing!! god forbid!
Real sunshine, is all that works on my brain unbalance.
My brain does not go, for the chemical, artificial 'sun'light of those daylight lamps
When i was in Portugal and Spain too, worked there, also in what is called winter time
I never had any symptoms of this SAD, ever!!
I was, mé, again!
So well balanced, so full of energy, ever sooo happy!
Mé -
not this SAD person, who is very alien to my core being.
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Still a bit off....
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Posted:Mar 19, 2023 1:36 pm
Last Updated:Mar 20, 2023 8:54 am 7564 Views
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Offcourse!
Got sick, last friday.
My god, it is not nice to have to care for yourself, when you/i feel too bad to do anything!!
Not nice.
And i am the kind of person, who does not ask for help, in such case.
It does not make me feel better...
It is only more hassle.
Although my friends, will be good and act caring and want to help.
I cant be bothered, to have to explain how i make myself better...
What my modus operandi is....
Neti pot, a lot of herbal tea, honey, garlic honey, Iit tastes horrible!
A lot of sleep and feeling weak!!!
terrible weak!!
I still lose weigth and not eating, because too sick, to cook... = is not a good idea.
i am on starvation, all most- not really! ofcourse!
BUT, that is how it feels!!
Tomorrow, i will buy a lot of food, to give me strenght, again.
gonna eat, the whole day long!
munching!!
Make muffins, pancakes, omelette... when i have the strenght again.....
Take pauses, while baking etc.....
Tomorrow, i feel much better again,... bleagh.....
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Eye candy,
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Posted:Mar 18, 2023 11:08 pm
Last Updated:Mar 21, 2023 12:16 am 7133 Views
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There is this shop.
He works there ...
My, god!! is he eye candy, for me. LOL
Just looking at him, makes me totally happy..
feels so good....
objectifying?
Sexistic crap?
The reverse world??
I don't care, i don't give a bliep....
The way he looks at me.....
Hmmmm....
Such a innocent action..... gives me such a joy!
Feel good. 😇
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