Questions, answers? Answers, questions!
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Posted:Apr 6, 2024 6:22 am
Last Updated:Apr 24, 2024 12:59 pm 288 Views
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I know it’s a shamelessly stolen song title but slightly rearranged (anyone know who by?)
I’ve recently had quite a few questions about what I do and can offer on Instant Messenger, despite months of stating I can’t reply on there through lack of points. I am always happy to chat about what I do, what it feels like, and offer any help, but can only do on direct messages or via this blog.
So the floor is yours, feel free to ask, especially if you’ve already tried on IM. Questions / comments will be previewed for anyone who wishes to remain anonymous.
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For contact or chat.
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Posted:Jun 21, 2023 1:27 am
Last Updated:Apr 17, 2024 4:29 pm 1828 Views
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This blog post is for people to get in touch. All posts will be reviewed so won’t go public with contact details unless you expressly stated otherwise. Please remember that bots monitor every post so certain words and/or phrasing will be denied, so a little creativity is needed. I can also access Direct Messages if you can send them and prefer this method.
Thanks for getting in touch.
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Did lockdown unlock us?
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Posted:Nov 2, 2021 3:51 pm
Last Updated:Feb 9, 2024 3:34 am 2691 Views
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's been a while since I last posted here. So long actually that Covid didn't exist back then. was a time when chats and enquiries were few and far between, and I always put that down the extreme nature of what my and pictures suggest. didn't come as a surprise and never bothered me. The times I was ghosted did initially, but it became part and parcel of the site, in the way scammers tried numerous ways get or personal details. In the way IM would crash mid chat, disappear from your list of chats, then the nerve you again resume the chat with the person. These reasons are why I'll never be anything more than a standard member on here, but I'm digressing now.
Leading up Covid, I'd had two or three serious discussions regarding saline over quite a few years. One led a meet and subsequent sessions. Others been on hold because of lockdowns and distance and/or circumstances also been a factor. were some other chats that quickly became obvious were after ideas fantasise over, and had no intention of actually physically wanting undertake anything. If that is the case, please just say so. I've always said I'm happy discuss and offer advice, that is still the case today.
Lockdown came, and I spent much of away from kink as meets were going be impossible. Work demands in the transport sector grew and this kept me busier too. I'd occasionally in see what had changed, and was usually further restrictions in communicating on here. Messages could no longer be replied (unless you knew a backdoor), IM messages suddenly cost ten times more start/reply . During this time, I started a profile on Fetlife as an alternative this ever restrictive site. It was as quiet over the successive lockdowns as was here.
Jump forward this summer. People are starting see their freedoms returned after what seemed like an eternity. Lockdowns were gone, the vaccines were in full flow, bubbles were popped, socialising was reborn. The world was returning normality slowly wasn't it?
It was, but something strange was also happening. Inhibitions weren't as before. What was once a hard limit was now a soft limit. What was unknown of before was now a curiosity. What was a far flung fantasy was now an reality, and you ask yourself why? Why were people suddenly thinking, following, practising far more than they ever did pre lockdown?
I believe is the realisation that our freedoms are far more precious than we ever thought imaginable. The sudden inability even socialise on the scale we were always used . Couple this the fact Covid was as ruthless as comes, and took away from us even the healthiest of people, we suddenly saw how fragile both life and freedom is. People now want to experience life at its fullest, freedom at its greatest, kink at its extremes.
It can't be a coincidence then that in the past three months I've had more chats and enquiries specifically about saline than I did in the many years leading up to lockdown. One has already had a first 'medical' and is ready for a second appointment, are others keen follow, and others that wished they lived several thousand miles closer the UK.
For all the trials and tribulations that Covid has brought us, been some positives too. Not many admittedly, but some.
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Not everything is as it seems (or people aren't who they say they are).
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Posted:Jun 23, 2019 12:16 am
Last Updated:Dec 7, 2019 5:06 pm 2760 Views
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When IM actually works on here, I've recently had some quite interesting chats, and made some good connections. There are a few on here I hope to share more knowledge with and some I believe will go beyond that, and I appreciate their open-ness and willing to explore with me.
Now I fully appreciate that both my name and profile pictures can be off putting to some, especially those with a phobia of needles. Fortunately some see beyond this and are willing to chat, and often become more interested in my collection of tools/toys for other types of play. On a regular basis, IM then crashes and the conversation/connection is lost. After this, some respond back at a later date. Some don't and it is these people who confuse me.
I could name half a dozen members (but I don't do things like that, it's not necessary) who I've discussed a variety of kinks with, some over an hour, some over several days, who suddenly just disappear in to the woodwork. Vanish. Nil response. Nothing.
Why???
Is it that these people have realised they are out of their depth, and suddenly have to escape without wanting to tell the truth? I know one who wasn't (and sent pictures that prove this), but they suddenly stopped all communication without reason. And that is the most fustrating thing. Why someone you have basically struck up common ground with suddenly decides to ignore that and go silent. I can understand people feeling overwhelmed by the content and scope of needle and saline play, but why not explain this? Why just go silent and ignore any further attempt at communicating?
I've gotten to the point of not letting it bother me now, if people aren't interested after all that is their prerogative. What I do find a touch annoying is members saying 'here to chat' and totally ignoring a new message saying hello, etc. Quite clearly they are not here to chat or find this, that and the other. If I'm not what you're looking for, it would be nice to receive a message back saying so rather than nothing at all. I do so to any messages I get, I think it's courteous to do so. Maybe that's just me though.
For now, I shall continue being me and for those who have shown an interest, I thank you and look forward to our future discussions, meets and scenes.
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I bet the internet fucked a lot of schedules.....
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Posted:Feb 22, 2019 1:47 pm
Last Updated:Dec 7, 2019 5:05 pm 2823 Views
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Who remembers dial up? The messing about plugging the laptop into the phone socket, the agonising wait as the modem and exchange screamed each other. Would it connect first time? How many more attempts might it take?
Summer 2000, an IBM ThinkPad and early ADSL. It seemed quick in those days although definition or size images rendered slowly. My mobile phone was a Nokia 7110, a great 'telephone.' It didn't even know what the internet was, let alone connected to it.
Of course the internet then wasn't quick really, it just appeared to be since the of information we could suddenly access was insurmountable. Connectivity with other people, complete strangers, was so easy and seemed so safe when sat behind a keyboard and screen. And this is how the problems began. The thirst for knowledge, page after page after page. The desire for social acceptance and developing friendships.
What started as an hour to before sleeping became an hours sleep before the next working day. After several nights of the World Wide (a)Wake, morning alarm calls didn't do their job first time round. Back up alarms would to start with, and the subsequent rushing round to catch up time should have been a stark warning, but being trapped in the 'Web' obscured everything.
This would carry on for months with days off being wasted catching up on much needed sleep. The time would come when work began to suffer. Making a mistake when you're tired at work could be relatively harmless for a supermarket shelf stacker as a random example. Heinz baked beans on the wrong shelf isn't going to lead to disaster. Being a train driver is a little different. No, a lot different.
I was lucky. I never made a mistake, sleep deprivation led or otherwise, but after several telephone calls to ascertain where I was since I should have signed on and be departing the station in five minutes whilst I was still floundering in bed over an hour away from work, I finally 'woke up' to what was happening to me.
I would imagine there are people the world over who can relate similar stories, who saw meetings missed, work effort degraded, time and schedules completely screwed up, and probably jobs lost as well. Before it came to risking my employment, I made a positive effort to alter my internet lifestyle.
Until I rediscovered my sadomasochistic side...…….
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