“The Man, The Master”
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Posted:Feb 11, 2008 12:10 am
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I came across this writing and once again reflected upon the kind of man, Dominant, I seek.
I believe the author has so eloquently captured the essence of Dominance. It is a gift which I now pass on to you. Enjoy and I hope it inspires you, as it did me - to see the real greatness embodied in those men whom we honour and respect as true "Masters".
I offer it with respect and gratitude to the author for sharing such a wonderful gift with us.
tasina
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The Man, the Master
A Man who displays sensitivity
Will be a Master who is sensitive to you
A Man who displays humility
will be a Master who will show you respect
A Man who is not afraid to cry
will be a Master who understands your tears
A Man who is quiet
will be a Master who will hear your quietest whisper
A Man who knows fear
will be a Master who will not leave you to face yours alone
A Man who will listen to a
will be a Master who will always work to understand your words
A Man who can stand alone
will be a Master who will not crush you under His weight
A Man who controls Himself with ease
will be a Master with the ability to control you in the same way
A Man who does not have to prove His point
will be a Master with many worthwhile points to share
A Man who never makes demands
will be a Master who treasures anything you give
A Man who doesn't run after you
will be a Master you will never need to run away from
A Man who is calm
will be a Master who can weather your storms
A Man who has walked the path to peace
will be a Master able to guide you along that path
A Man who does not shout
will be a Master who will never deafen you
A Man who knows Himself
will be a Master who will have time to know you
A Man who never stops learning
will be a Master who never stops growing
A Man who always seeks to be the best He can be for you
is the only Man truly worthy of being called "Master".
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Bought Two Tickets
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Posted:Jan 27, 2008 10:05 pm
Last Updated:Aug 9, 2023 4:17 pm 2416 Views
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And what exciting trips they were!
The first experience was one where I was fortunate to see another as he truly is - one with hope and dreams but an inability to attain them; one who desires so much from others but offers so little in return; one who is lost and has yet to find himself, yet feels he is capable of authority over another. This would not be a safe place to nurture my submissiveness. It took me a while to accept it and finally write "the email". Naturally he's having difficulty accepting the reality, and continues to hope I will naturally be drawn to him by his words regardless of his actions -- but I know that will not happen.
And as one door closed, another swung open!
I was also fortunate to have encountered someone who, to this point, is the closest to being the kind of Dominant with whom I could willingly and totally experience my submissiveness. It was so refreshing to see and experience the dynamic to the extent we could. So much potential and possibility - so much desire to be and do - so much to learn and experience.
To see the potential and possibilities was almost euphoric and in many ways only increased the desire. For the first time, I could see myself doing as I knew has been so much a part of me -- and willingly. I could see it and I could feel it.
To walk the delicate line of femininity and submission, of the lady and the slut, of the woman and the object of gratification, of being all powerful, yet putty waiting to be shaped - those were the experiences of the week which I treasure.
And for those wondering how it all turned out -- we chose to remain in contact, but parted ways. While all the elements were present, he felt he could not be the Dominant I needed (and yes, while I accept our choice, I do know that he need only be his natural self, for with him, the submissive was there, waiting to please him and for him to claim her as his own).
One can only feel gratitude and respect for the maturity and candor that openness and honesty create.
As I look around for the next ticket-seller, I carry a smile in my heart: for this week, I'm truly grateful.
I wish you joy in the knowledge of what is, and in its acceptance.
tasina
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Sharing the Light...
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Posted:Jan 22, 2008 6:39 pm
Last Updated:Aug 9, 2023 4:16 pm 2502 Views
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I was reminded tonight, of the true gift of acquiring and accumulating knowledge, experience and wisdom -- that of allowing others to light their candles by it.
Such a gift is to be treasured, and for that opportunity I am grateful.
As submissives, we are so accustomed to offering ourselves to another, or others in certain ways as defined by the D/s or bdsm lifestyles. We often forget that there are so many other ways to practice giving, that don't involve the power exchange or elements of control.
To freely share, to freely give of one's self is to willingly choose to give up control over that which we own, ourselves - not sexually, not physically, but the knowledge and experience that might help another along the way.
To say it slightly differently, if you hold something set it free, it will be returned many times over -- such is as it is with giving of one's self. And if one thinks about it, such is as it is with submission.
Thank you for permitting me to share my thoughts with you.
tasina
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Enjoying the Garden View..
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Posted:Jan 20, 2008 1:32 am
Last Updated:Aug 9, 2023 4:16 pm 3092 Views
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I had some interesting feedback on my blog this morning. Someone shared that they had concluded I'd been led down the garden path recently. An interesting conclusion to have drawn, but possibly not quite accurate, and that's the last impression I'd like to leave my readers with.
I accept people at face value, assume they are truthful, and trust to a degree until they give me cause not to. As was shared with me, that often leaves one vulnerable to manipulation by others.
I am somewhat guarded in that I don't allow my emotions or feelings to place me ahead of whatever situation I'm in. I see myself as hopeful that things will work out as one envisions, but am also am very realistic in my expectations of what it takes to realize my hopes.
I'd rather take the chance and accept a person at face value than to be overly concerned with being played or manipulated. That risk I can handle because I'm experienced with it. Often it doesn't take very long to figure out who is who, and what a person is about.
While I may be somewhat disappointed when things don't work out as I may have hoped, I'm accepting of the reality and move on, grateful for having had another learning opportunity, grateful that there is a vast number of people out there that I've yet to meet, and grateful that I have hope.
I know that hope and opportunity will converge the day, that I've met that person who brings them together for me.
In the meantime, I do greatly enjoy the view and experience as I wander the garden path, stopping to smell a rose along the way, but being ever mindful of the thorns that surround it. ~wink~
tasina
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Cards Dealt and Played - The Game is Over
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Posted:Jan 16, 2008 5:30 pm
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Just a moment for a quick update. The cards were dealt and the game played out; the end result: yet another learning opportunity. ~laugh~
Relationships intended to be built on a foundation of mutual trust and respect self-destruct when it's discovered that one of the participants failed to disclose some key information such as the existence of a live-in partner.
Trust - the last thing to develop and the first thing to go. If I can not trust you to be who you present yourself to be, then how can I trust you with authority and control over me.
Forgiveness - that which one extends to one's partner to maintain and move forward in the relationship.
The Learning:
Some people like to represent themselves different from who they are. Rather than risk being rejected or gauged as incompatible, they may avoid sharing important details with their prospective partner. Unfortunately, the end result is worse for not sharing than having shared in the first place. Prospective partners have invested time, energy and themselves only to yield a negative return on their investment. Misplaced trust in people we know hurts.
While I understand the circumstances, forgiveness and a rebuilding of trust would only be extended if there was a relationship to be explored - which at this point is not the case. Oops -- there goes another one! ~laugh~
Onward in the search! ~smile~
tasina
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A New Day - A New Year...
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Posted:Jan 6, 2008 8:08 am
Last Updated:Aug 9, 2023 4:16 pm 2380 Views
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Finally 2008 has arrived and 2007 left behind! Milestones - those points where we consciously review and let go of the past, and boldly step forward to a new beginning. We have a whole new year of potential, possibilities, opportunity, discovery and growth.
Potential and possibilities - that which we have the capability of attaining.
Opportunity - that which we need only grasp when presented.
Discovery - the moment by moment lessons that reflection summon
Growth - the embracing of all that is new and the acceptance of what we discover as our own personal truths.
May each day and the year prove plentiful. *s*
tasina
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Honor? Integrity? Trust? - What Tips the Scales?
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Posted:Dec 7, 2007 1:57 pm
Last Updated:Aug 9, 2023 4:16 pm 3140 Views
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Ever notice that the acronym for the fundamental values of the lifestyle, "honor, integrity and trust" is H..I..T? I guess with relationships, that's where the rubber "hits" the pavement. ~laugh~
If D/s is at the core of one's being, and a person consciously accepts that, and in so doing s/he openly states they subscribe to the HIT values, then it sets the framework as to how the interaction will operate. Add to it the stated expectation for honest, open and candid communication, and one would think the interaction is on solid footing.
Unfortunately though, words, intent and actions do not always align, and trust is broken. What then? How do we manage staying true to the values while extending basic care, compasson, understanding and tolerance to others?
It often feels like a trade-off, when I respect it should be more like a balance. How does one achieve that balance and what tips the scales?
Obviously more questions than answers today.
May we all be blessed by the learning opportunities life serves up to us.
tasina
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Things Happen in Amazing Ways
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Posted:Dec 1, 2007 11:09 am
Last Updated:Aug 9, 2023 4:15 pm 2428 Views
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My what a time I've had since my last post! I almost feel like fate sold me a ticket on a roller coaster ride -- and what an exhilarating one it is!
As quickly as I had accepted my place, and saw my next step, the universe offered up a whole suite of rich experiences, that I treasure.
This was a week of high social contact. I made the time to step out and reconnect with old friends and in doing so, opened the door to new people! I made some new friends, one of whom has the potential to hold a very special place in my life, if the cards dealt are played right -- time will determine the outcome.
I am so grateful for my friends both online and offline -- they enrich my life so much and through our mutual sharing, we reciprocally learn and grow. However, it is so much more of a gift to be able to interact in person -- that they also enjoy the personal interaction is truly a gift.
As to my new "friend", I expect that will be a story in itself that will evolve over time, the destination of which is yet to be defined. And did I mention he's a hotty? I mean, the mere thought of him moves me to.............Oh my, I seem to have gotten a bit distracted there! ~laugh~
And now for the rest of the story:
Naturally he's not local (very few are these days! ~laugh~), but that is something that fits well for me right now. All too often we get caught up in the infatuation or lustful stages and don't take the time to get to know the other dimensions of a person. Distance will help with maintaining a reasonable degree of objectivity. But then again, maybe this will be the time to throw caution (and objectivity to the wind) and freely explore what is? We were able to spend some time together this week (in person of course), to reaffirm and solidify our initial interest in each other. Over the next little while will be the usual phone and online contact aimed at creating that foundation, where we explore compatibility or discover those areas of potential incompatibility. Either way, the discussions will position us to define limits in a variety of areas (emotional, physical, and otherwise) for when we are able to spend time together again. Assuming there is a 'next meet' of course. ~laugh~ The next in person contact is yet to be determined, but I suspect desire (or perhaps lust) will play a huge part in that. ~laugh~
This could be the start of something great, or it could just fizzle in a flash. LDRs are not the easiest to manage, but then neither are local interactions. ~laugh~
But as fate would have it, wouldn't my circles of friends (existing and new) converge? One of my friends needs some time away from the daily demands of her life and decided that a trip to where my new friend lives is in order some time in the next few weeks! I'll know in the next little while if that is meant to be, but what an unexpected gift!
For once I'm at a loss for words -- the potential of what might lie ahead is a bit overwhelming. But having been down this path before, I'll contain my excitement, until it comes to pass, or is passed up.
All I can say is that I am truly blessed by my friends and experiences.
May you be truly blessed by yours!
tasina
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Reconciled and Moving Forward
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Posted:Nov 25, 2007 3:12 pm
Last Updated:Aug 9, 2023 4:15 pm 2047 Views
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I've reflected on my previous posts over the last little while and have finally come to a landing. I had been struggling with life as it is, and as it could be and focusing on the gap. In reflection, I realize that is so unlike me. I am grateful for what is, not mournful of what isn't. It seems I had forgotten that for a moment.
We hold and own the lens through which we see our world. We hold the power to choose our feelings and our response to whatever we encounter.
We owe ourselves the opportunity to create and sustain a positive and healthy outlook on our past, our present and our future.
A friend sent me a note one day and I was reminded of the relationship between the past, the present and the future. I wish I knew who penned it so that I could give credit where it is due. I offer it to you, as a gift on how to sustain the outlook necessary to move forward and reach for what "can be".
"Yesterday, Today, Tomorrow"
Today I will delete from my diary
two days: yesterday and tomorrow.
Yesterday was to learn,
and tomorrow will be the consequence
of what I can do today.
Today I will face life
with the conviction that this day
will not ever return.
Today is the last opportunity
I have to live intensely,
as no one can assure me
that I will see tomorrow's sunrise.
Today I will be brave enough
not to let any opportunity pass me by,
my only objective is to succeed.
Today I will invest
my most valuable resource:
my time,
in the most transcendental work:
my life;
Today I will spend each minute
passionately to make it a different
and unique day in my life.
Today I will defy every obstacle
that appears in my way,
trusting I will succeed.
Today I will resist
pessimism and will conquer
the world with a smile,
and a positive attitude
of always expecting the best.
Today I will take the time to be happy
and will leave my footprints and my presence
in the hearts of others.
Today, I invite you to begin a new season
where we can dream,
that everything we undertake is possible
and we fulfill it,
with joy and dignity.
Peace be to thee.
tasina
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Weighing In
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Posted:Nov 11, 2007 3:16 am
Last Updated:Aug 9, 2023 4:39 pm 2004 Views
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On the one hand, life as it is.
On the other hand, life as it could be.
If one lacks the key ingredient for life as it could be, what then? Are we left with life as it is?
How do we find the one that is the key to the future, the key to what can be? Time will pass, and our lives will unfold regardless of our actions or inaction.
While it is our best life for the moment, how do we reach and grow beyond what is, to what can be?
I've met so many wonderful people over the years, and I am grateful. However that special one still eludes me, and I him.
How does one retain the internal fortitude to hold on and stay the course. It often seems too easy to let the dream of what can be go, and withdraw in acceptance of and resignation to what is.
To the outside world we are happy, and vibrant, and inside we live our dark solitude, with each day that passes, slowly chipping away at our hope, our faith, and our dreams.
Such is the reality of one who seeks.
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