~Goodbye Tina
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Posted:May 27, 2023 1:18 am
Last Updated:Jun 1, 2023 12:07 am 12690 Views
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I spent the past few days listening to Tina. Going back in time. She was an astonishing woman and toured her whole life. Tina even insured her legs for 3.2 million at the peak of her career. Legendary. Soulful. Beautiful.
* River Deep -Mountain High ~ Simply The Best ~ Remastered 1991
* Better Be Good To Me ~ Simply The Best
* Look Me In The Heart ~ Simply The Best
* Nutbush City Limits ~ The Best '90's Version
* The Best ~ The Best
* What You Get Is What You See. ~ The Best
* Proud Mary ~ Ike & Tina ~ Working Together
* You Can Have It ~ Ike & Tina Working Together
* The Way You Love Me ~ Ike & Tina
* A Fool In Love ~ Ike & Tina ~ The Soul Of Ike And Tina Turner
Better Be Good To Me ~ Simply The Best
A prisoner of your love
Entangled in your web
Hot whispers in the night
I'm captured by your spell (captured)
Oh, yes, I'm touched by this show of emotion
Should I be fractured by your lack of devotion?
Should I?
Should I?
Oh, you better be good to me!
That's how it's got to be now
'Cause I don't have no use for what you loosely call the truth
And you better be good to me
Yeah, you better be good, good
C'mon, c'mon, be good to me
I think it's all so right
That we don't need to fight
We stand face to face
And you present your case
Yes, I know you keep telling me that you love me
And I really do want to believe
But did you think I'd just accept you in blind faith?
Oh, sure, babe, anything to please you!
But you better be good to me
That's how it's got to be now
'Cause I don't have the time for your overloaded lines
And you better be good to me
Yeah, you better be good
Be good to me
And I really don't see why it's so hard to be
Good to me, and, you know
I don't understand, what's your plan
That you can't be good to me
What I can't feel I surely cannot see
Why can't you be good to me
And if it's not real, I do not wish to see
Why don't you be good to me
Why can't you be good to me?
Why can't you be good to me?
Why can't you be good to me?
Why can't you be good to me?
Why can't you be good to me?
Be good, good to me
Be good to me
'Cause I don't have no use for what you loosely call the truth
And I don't have the time for your overloaded lies
So you better be good to me
Yeah, you better be good
Better be good to me
Better be good
'Cause I don't have the time for your overloaded lies
And I don't have no use for what you loosely call the truth
And you better be good to me
(Why can't you be) be good to me
(Why can't you be) be good
(Why can't you be) be good to me
(Why can't you be)
'Cause I don't have no use for what you loosely call the truth
And I don't have the time for your overloaded lies
You better be good to me
(Why can't you be) good to me
(Why can't you be) good to me
Be good
Be good to me
Why can't you be (Why can't you be) good to me (Be good to me)
Why can't you be (Why can't you be) good to me (Be good to me)
C'mon c'mon c'mon c'mon c'mon c'mon c'mon c'mon c'mon
Be good to me
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~Art Break
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Posted:May 24, 2023 8:13 pm
Last Updated:May 25, 2023 11:56 pm 12212 Views
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~ Artist: David Ralph
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Happy Birthday, Bob
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Posted:May 24, 2023 7:10 am
Last Updated:May 24, 2023 7:04 pm 10408 Views
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* Girl From The North Country ~ Live At The Royal Festival Hall ~ London , UK 1964
* It Ain't Me Babe ~ Live At The Royal Festival Hall ~ London , UK 1964
* Visions Of Johanna ~ Live At The Belfast Theater, Ireland 1966
* Simple Twist Of Fate ~ Blood On The Tracks
* You're A Big Girl Now~ Blood On The Tracks
* Not Dark Yet ~ Time Out Of Mind Sessions ~ The Bootleg Series ( 1996-1997 )
* Standing In The Doorway ~ Time Out Of Mind Sessions ~ The Bootleg Series ( 1996-1997 )
* I've Made Up My Mind To Give Myself To You ~ Rough And Rowdy Ways
* It's Alright Ma" ( I'm Only Bleeding ) Live At The Oval City Hall, Sheffield, UK ( 1965 )
* Love Minus Zero/ No Limit ~ Live At The Odeon Liverpool, England, UK ( 1965 )
* She Belongs To Me ~ Live At The Royal Albert Hall ~ Manchester, UK ( 1985 )
She Belongs To Me ~ Live At The Royal Albert Hall ~ Manchester, UK ( 1985 )
She's got everything she needs, she's an artist
She don't look back
She's got everything she needs, she's an artist
She don't look back
She can take the dark out of the nighttime
And paint the daytime black
You will start out standing
Proud to steal her anything she sees
You will start out standing
Proud to steal her anything she sees
But you'll wind up peeking through her keyhole
Down upon your knees
She never stumbles, she's got no place to fall
She never stumbles, she's got no place to fall
She's nobody's , the Law can't touch her at all
She wears an Egyptian ring that sparkles before she speaks
She wears an Egyptian ring that sparkles before she speaks
She's a hypnotist collector, you are a walking antique.
Bow down to her on Sunday
Salute her when her birthday comes
Bow down to her on Sunday
Salute her when her birthday comes
For Halloween give her a trumpet
And for Christmas, buy her a drum
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~Intimacy
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Posted:May 23, 2023 6:54 am
Last Updated:Apr 16, 2024 4:58 am 10397 Views
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Intimacy means that we can be who we are in a relationship, and allow the other person to do the same. ‘Being who we are’ requires that we can talk openly about things that are important to us, that we take a clear position on where we stand on important emotional issues, and that we clarify the limits of what is acceptable and tolerable to us in a relationship. ‘Allowing the other person to do the same’ means that we can stay emotionally connected to that other party who thinks, feels, and believes differently, without needing to change, convince, or fix the other. An intimate relationship is one in which neither party silences, sacrifices, or betrays the self and each party expresses strength and vulnerability, weakness and competence in a balanced way.
~Harriet Lerner, The Dance of Intimacy
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Age Gaps And Lifestyle Relationships
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Posted:May 22, 2023 6:15 am
Last Updated:Feb 2, 2024 1:19 am 10897 Views
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At times it can feel that the older you are, the harder it becomes to find a partner, especially in D/S. A case in point was a recent post from a submissive who has leveled up in life a few times and is seeking a daddy dominant. In their writing, they expressed disappointment because they felt that those who identify as daddy dominants want younger partners thus leaving them out in the cold.
The struggles with lifestyle dating plus the D/S Dear Abbey’s who preach against age differences bring about the need for a frank discussion of age gaps in lifestyle partnerships.
One thing to consider is that a daddy d-type does not mean an age gap in the relationship. This style of dominance is about the methods and manners the D-type employees embrace. There is a common misconception that someone who identifies as a DD wants or needs a partner that is younger, often significantly younger as a submissive. The same is true about age regression play, an s-type who is a little, being a mandatory component of a lifestyle relationship with a daddy dominant. While many who seek a daddy Dom, do enjoy age play, there are many submissives as well as DDs who find age regression play to not be their jam but simply enjoy the style of leadership that daddies are known for. Additionally, while there are individuals who seek a younger partner, it does not link to a specific role or gender. As an example, we all need to clear our throats so we can “rawr!” because many cougar submissives are prowling about in our kinky forests.
Some assume the role of daddy dominant because they are an ODB, old dirty bastard, that uses the title of “daddy” to target young, naive, and/or vulnerable submissives thus allowing ODB to get thrills. This is the reason the majority of those who take titles online such as lifestyle trainer, teacher, instructor, and professor are ODBs and the use of the before-mentioned monikers must be seen as a red flag. These sleazy schoolmasters often claim they just want to teach the lifestyle which translates into getting their grubby little paws on fresh lifestyle meat. A quick note of clarification, not all who are kinky Professor Proton types are ODBs, some do just teach and share their experiences. These good apples are just like amazing educators in the vanilla world, they want to empower others, but the lessons shared are never done by engaging in hands-on learning. Also, just like in the real world, make sure those who teach their theories, walk a walk in life that reflects their teaching, for example, they do not preach trust as well as honesty while having a wife at home that they cheat on with their students.
On the flip side of that, this is a good flip slide, because the lifestyle brings people together with open minds some connections happen between people who do have a gap in their ages. Open minds make themselves available to being loved and loving someone that perhaps Dr. Phil and vanilla society might disagree with. Speaking of the vanilla world, is it, not a craptastic double standard that men are often lauded for having a much younger partner but women are not? Manthers are acceptable but cougars are not, facepalming. So with the lifestyle being a place where open minds gather, you do encounter more partnerships that occur between people of all ages, and the majority of these come from the heart. Additionally, it is not just dominants with younger submissives in the lifestyle but it is just as likely to see a submissive older, perhaps significantly older, than their d-type.
When it comes to age differences in relationships, more people have contrasts in their “levels” in the lifestyle versus the vanilla bean world but that is not because it is an expectation in D/S nor is it something that daddy dominants want/need but it is due to the prevalence of open minds and hearts that are found here in the lifestyle. While some bad actors try to take advantage of this openness, most people involved in age-gap lifestyle relationships do so from places of goodness rather than from selfishness. With open minds come open hearts and in a lifestyle of very open minds, like D/S, relationships blossom and grow between consenting adults of all ages, even those with gaps between them.
How do you feel about age-gap relationships and why?
©TLK2023
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The One....
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Posted:May 21, 2023 9:09 pm
Last Updated:Feb 13, 2024 1:06 am 9441 Views
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“She instinctively knows that each pretender she eliminates brings her one step closer to the One, and in fact, it is not unusual to hear her use this exact terminology: The One. You can almost hear the Capitalization as she says it.”
*Author Unknown
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Warning: Soapbox Ranting/Rambling Ahead ...
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Posted:May 20, 2023 2:48 am
Last Updated:May 24, 2023 3:25 am 8314 Views
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Read on or skedaddle, biscuits are definitely required and play nice.
Calling a submissive fake because they questioned an instruction is unadulterated bullshit at best and cruel manipulation at worst.
Respectfully questioning an instruction/order because it is/was unclear, unsafe, not possible, not pre-negotiated/agreed to, or not consensual is exactly the right thing to do and is what a submissive should do in the event of any of the above occurring.
It is responsible, productive, and the clever thing to do under dodgy circumstances - no matter what flavor of BDSM governance one adheres to.
Because here’s the thing:- blind compliance in the event of unclear parameters, lack of negotiation, and/or uncertain consent is not submission.
Submitting is not about being bullied, coerced, or manipulated by a person or situation.
Dominating is not about bullying, coercing, or manipulating a person or situation
We know this. We know that BDSM does not stand for *bully" *damage* *scar* *maim* …
Btw - BDSM stands for bondage discipline/dominance sadism/submission masochism - in case your dictionary goblin is on a tea break.
Neither BDSM nor d/s is about bullying or being bullied/coercing or being coerced/manipulation or being manipulated. (if you think that it is about any of those things, I’m afraid you’ve overshot the runway and landed in a swamp called Abuse - sorry, no biscuits for you - please proceed straight back to ‘nillaville)
Respect, consent, trust, and safety are absolutely everything in d/s.
So why then, is it so common to hear people saying stupid shit like “submissives must always obey, no matter what” or “a true submissive would never question an order - they just trust their dominant”.
Trust goes both ways - dominants must be able to trust their sub to ask for clarity if they don’t understand and safeword if there is danger or withdrawal of consent. And a submissive must be able to trust that their Dom will listen and respect their call.
Unfortunately, the whole blind obedience thing seems to be getting way too much airplay and folks don’t seem to understand that it’s fine as fantasy but not How Things Actually Work. And sadly, people are getting hurt. Sometimes repeatedly because they don’t understand the basics of healthy power exchange and end up just being abused by twatwombles.
In addition, recognizing that one is being bullied/manipulated and being able to remedy the situation is not necessarily as simple or easy as explaining one’s position and poof! problem solved. Often there are many other factors at play - sometimes really complicated ones.
Regardless, as the submissive in a d/s engagement/dynamic, one does have certain responsibilities, one of which is to safeword or otherwise call it if the situation warrants it.
For example: if and when an instruction is unclear/dangerous/not previously agreed to or not consensual. Blind obedience under such conditions puts both parties at extreme risk.
In other words, it is the submissive’s responsibility to make sure that they fully understand and enthusiastically consent to whatever is being asked of them. And if they don’t, it is their job to speak up - either to ask for clarity or to pull the plug.
Anything less than full understanding and educated, enthusiastic, ongoing consent is not submission or power exchange.
It may be helpful to keep the following in mind:
Compliance, obedience, and expectations thereof are not standard issues, one-size-fits-all applicable to every d/s dynamic/experience kind of thing. Like kinks, hard/soft limits, and other matters relevant to power exchange/kink-based relationships, they must be discussed, negotiated, and agreed to before engaging.
Until all the details have been hammered out and agreed to by all parties, the submissive party is not required to obey or comply with any instruction from the dominant party. And once all negotiations are complete and agreed to - by all parties - the submissive party still retains the right to ask as many questions as are necessary to ensure full understanding and full consent.
Personal responsibility, logic, manners, and basic decency do not get chucked out the window just because one has a sticker that says “Hi my name’s Candy and I’ll be your submissive for the evening” or one gets off on being told what to do. These aspects of human interpersonal relating actually become exponentially more important - not least of all because of the danger to life and limb.
So if a dominant gets all bent out of shape and takes the “you’re not a real sub” route when you don’t immediately drop to your knees, strip, and/or beg to polish their knob because it’s your first meeting and communication is apparently an abandoned city south of “we haven’t even bloody discussed kinks, limits, and expectations let alone negotiated whether kneeling is actually A Thing or not” - run the fuck away as fast as your legs will carry you - do not walk - do not stop to say “kthxbai” and for the love of fuck, do not think for one moment that you are a fake sub. You’re not. You’re a silly sub for not sorting that shit out long before agreeing to meet but you are one hundred percent a real live (emphasis on the live) submissive.
Submissive is who you are. Submission is something you offer to the person/people of your choosing under the terms and conditions of your choosing. Your identity as a submissive is not open to debate, criticism, or judgment by anyone. Ever.
So, ask the questions - ask all the fucking questions necessary to ensure the well-being, understanding, and consent of everyone involved. Respectfully, firmly and if needs be, repeatedly. That is your right and responsibility as the submissive.
Thank you for reading. Be well - be kind and play safe.
And remember: submission - like dominance, is a gift. And gifts come with responsibilities.
TTFN 🐾
Shiny.
P.S. Eat your biscuits! You’ve earned them…
P.P.S. lots of repetition, I know. You’re welcome.
~ itsshinycollectordestinyworld
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Eyes Wide Open
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Posted:May 18, 2023 6:16 am
Last Updated:Apr 10, 2024 9:35 am 7712 Views
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I've learned to pay attention to the little things in the beginning. The things that get overlooked until they become the bigger things in the end. Things become skewed once feelings form. Simple actions that tell of one's true nature, personality, moral center, and heart. The things lovers think they can change in someone. Or settle with. It's better to go with your eyes wide open instead of jumping off a cliff into arms that were never really strong enough to catch you. Or even worse into arms that would rather see you fall. Once you start down a path of feelings it's easy to get lost in the idea of a person, instead of what's been staring you in the face from the beginning that you chose to close your eyes to.
her-reconciled-heart
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Something About Love
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Posted:May 16, 2023 9:33 am
Last Updated:Jan 30, 2024 12:29 am 8419 Views
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Love is someone saying "I see you and I will walk in that direction."
Sometimes you see; sometimes they see. Sometimes you walk; sometimes they walk. Healthy love is where all of that happens consistently. That's how simple it is.
Except... no one is born good at seeing or walking. We each have to learn. Each of us, no exceptions. So, we learn, at different rates, in different ways. That's how complicated it is.
If it were easy and common, it wouldn't be as valuable, would it? We'd take it for granted. We wouldn't have so many songs and stories about love if it was just some convenient product, we could pick off a shelf.
Love is rare and homegrown. Each love is a unique work of art representing time and effort and dedication and all of the lessons learned along the way. That's why it's a priceless treasure. That's why it's a gamble and investment. That's why so many of us want it so much.
Learn to understand and be understood. Learn to approach and be approached. Don't get upset at anyone for learning -- including yourself. It's all part of the process we've each had to individually reinvent after thousands and thousands of years of humanity.
It's as simple and as complicated as that.
~consistent-sincerity
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D/s & Dating
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Posted:May 16, 2023 6:04 am
Last Updated:May 22, 2023 9:42 am 8664 Views
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Dating is a bizarre ritual, and frankly, it’s one I’ve never understood. My relationships have always just sort of happened. We were friends first, or there was a spark and we dove in. At least that’s how my brain tells the story. I know every relationship began with uncertainty and wondering if I should say this or do that. But nearly a year into dating again, I find myself completely perplexed by it.
Then there’s D/s dating. It occurred to me last week that I have no fucking clue what I’m doing. And that’s probably because I’ve never really done it before. Sure, I’ve had D/s relationships. But they have been in the context of looking for a Dominant, not looking for a partner who wants to own me. There’s a difference.
When you are just looking for a Dom, you make sure they want what you want, that you like them as a person, and that your must-have kinks are a match. Then it begins. Rules, titles, tasks. And bam, it’s A Thing. It happens quickly—or at least it always has for me.
But when you are looking for a whole person within D/s, it seems to happen more slowly. It’s more like vanilla dating. You talk. You learn about each other. You live in the grey area for longer, not sure if it is or it isn’t. You give up control, but gradually. One piece at a time. Then one day you wake up and realize you are owned.
As a person who needs clarity and order and instruction, this grey area is hard. I wonder if there are submissives out there who actually like dating. Or maybe we are all just giant balls of anxiety, trying to make it to the point where we can submit—where we feel inspired to give control to a person who wants to take it. There is a deep comfort in finding a leader worth following. I can build my own clarity and order, but somehow, it’s more fulfilling when it comes from another.
Still, there’s tension in dating. How do you make sure a person wants the same depth of dynamic while also letting the power exchange unfold organically? When do you start to give up pieces of control? How can I convey my desire to submit without giving too much too soon? Am I undermining the foundation of a deeper dynamic by expressing my kinky, slutty side?
Of course, these are not so different from vanilla worries. There’s a lot of vulnerability early on in dating. But somehow as a submissive, I feel less comfortable just stumbling into it. It’s hard to trust that the power exchange will develop in its own time. I want to project manage the process—to see in black and white that it exists or will exist at some appointed time. Ironically, letting go of control is not always one of my strong suits.
But then a text message comes, and there’s an instruction. The first instruction. Small. Simple. And yet, it speaks volumes. It says he’s thinking of me. It says he wants control. It says he knows I will obey. And I do, gleefully. He tells me he appreciates my prompt obedience. And just like that, some of the uncertainty clears away. It’s a first step. And oh, how it makes me want to take a second.
~cherished property
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