my new favorite
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Posted:Jun 14, 2008 3:56 pm
Last Updated:Aug 10, 2017 10:13 pm 21175 Views
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is beautiful. Her waist is trim and she fits with the familiarity of a lover. Varnished wooden handle, cherry of course,and with about a foot of leather riveted on. Not even as thick as a belt. She didn't look very intimidating, but when I tried her on my hand the sting was impossible to ignore. She kissed her first bottom today. Not right away of course. Some build-up .. quite a lot of build-up. "Does it look scary" I asked when I brought her out (I've never asked anyone that before). "I'm not sure" was the answer. So we started. Just mild elbow strokes at first, to test the ease of control in real life and to judge the reaction. Such precision. So, a little harder - short swing, a little flick. The sound...the crack...well I loved it, but I know that wasn't what she was thinking about. With music there must be a dance, and so her sweet bottom danced for me. It couldn't keep still. And while she danced she sang, in her own way. And in the end when I asked again if she was scared I knew the answer. Yes, but... And she bravely took the choice I offered and suffered.
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Signal sensitivity I want to spank you
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Posted:Aug 1, 2007 11:32 am
Last Updated:May 3, 2024 5:19 am 21158 Views
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When it comes to telling someone I only know a little, about a very personal part of my life that is fairly far outside the mainstream, I’m a bit of a chicken. If I feel a little connection I love to flirt and inject some kind of bdsm into the talk to see what kind of reaction I get. But when it comes down to saying “I really meant that” I’m much more careful. I’m looking for some pretty concrete return signals. I live in a small town and people love to gossip, so I also need to trust that while she may not be interested, the secret will stay between us. And that’s a balance, because if you don’t trust anyone then ….well flirting only goes so far. And it’s also kind of a sociological question – would it really affect the rest of my life if that little secret got spread around, or is this just cowardice?
Last year I got some pretty good signals back from a woman I like very much. There’s not really much point in writing down our exchanges because the words are not the point – we were dancing around something and becoming more fluid and synchronized. And then one day something happened and the connection turned into an irresistible pull, a physical force. And the driver was her desire, her compulsion, for me to spank her, and mine to put her over my knee. Which we did – it was her first time being spanked and it was clear right away that this would not be a passing fancy. She loved it all, from my telling her that she would be spanked, to lowering her shorts and bending her over to the slow build up and eventual good, hard spanking I gave her. And she was very responsive physically and vocally. It was a peak experience for both of us. I can’t imagine a better spanking partner and every time we come together it’s better than the last
And when I couldn’t imagine how it could be more perfect she threatened to punish me, and soon.
So a couple of thoughts for comment:
How do you draw the line between when one partner is dominant and then the other? One part of me says it would be great to both submit and dominate in one long night of sensation while the other part says it would be very hard to transition from one role to the other.
The other is about signals. I wrote my original post on this wondering how to go from flirting to reality, sort of a question of the mechanics of it. But this turned out to be much more a meeting of minds (which is way better in my view). Sort of the difference between falling in love and picking someone up in the bar. Anyway I still wonder about when / how to decided when to cross that line from flirting to telling someone that you really do want them to tie you up and spank you, or vice-versa.
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turning point
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Posted:Nov 21, 2006 9:22 am
Last Updated:May 3, 2024 5:19 am 20386 Views
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I've had fantasies about being spanked all my life, but for a long time didn't see any appeal in the other end of the stick. That all changed when my lover and I were bathing in a beautiful afterglow and started talking about our fantasies. In a very vague way she talked about wanting to be "constrained" but after a little prodding (take that any way you like) she admitted to wanting to be tied up and spanked. And when she spoke those words a charge went through me and nothing mattered more than making that real for her.
I hadn't had any dominant experience at that point, but had a pretty good idea of the feelings and sensations a submissive goes through, so used that to guide us. She was very willing so we found a few scarves and began. The sheer pleasure of anticipation in taking the time to have her present each wrist and ankle to be tied, then securing her to the bed was unbelievable. The feeling of introducing her to this unfulfilled fantasy, the unexpected excitement that I was feeling, the strong connection we already had - all of this contributed to it being an absolutely electrical peak experience. We started very slowly with lots of touching and soft smacks, but it wasn't long before we both knew it was time to get more serious. Time was a blur, or maybe it stopped, and we just slowly built it up, and the smacks got harder and her bottom got warmer and pinker and redder and we were both just totally connected and transported into our own universe.
And now I am just as excited to give as to get. The experience is totally different, but the sense of connection is exactly the same - it's the same dance, just a different role.
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Stockholm syndrome?
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Posted:Nov 11, 2006 11:16 am
Last Updated:Nov 15, 2006 8:16 am 20790 Views
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My last spanking was in Toronto this past summer, with a friend I haven't seen in a long time. We still clicked and soon she told me she was going to get a few things and that I should be naked, kneeling by the time she returned. I did as I was told, but was feeling really nervous.. it had been a very long time since my last "little talk" with her and I was a little scared I might disappoint her.
The sensation of bending over her knee and lying across her lap was overwhelming.. paradoxically, it always feels incredibly secure and safe, but is filled with anticipation, almost foreboding. She is very strict when she beats me, so tested me right away with about twenty hard, fast smacks. All that took less than a minute, but seemed unbearable almost right away. And then she stopped and began to tell me what I could expect. I was really worried that I just couldn't take any more..it had been unbearable and she was saying she hadn't even started yet.
It's hard to describe all this without sounding like a Victorian novel so I won't get into a whole lot more detail. The amazing thing was how almost immediately I was right there with her - the worries were gone and it was just she and I doing our dance. By the time she was finished she'd worked her way through a hairbrush and a belt, then used her cane. I had cried, I had been totally overwhelmed, I had bruises that lasted more than a week...and our bond had been re-cemented as strong as ever.
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flirting...and signals
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Posted:Oct 25, 2006 6:01 pm
Last Updated:Aug 22, 2012 9:46 am 20530 Views
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A friend and I have been working on a project together and a little while ago she'd forgotten something she was supposed to do. Sorry, she said. So with a little frisson, I said, maybe I'll just have to put you over my knee to make sure this doesn't happen again. And she looked at me, and she ran a few steps, and in a little-girl voice she said no, please don't do that.
And then we carried on. And I don't know where this will go but we both had a little bubble of fun.
So, a question. How would you respond in a situation like that, or initiate, depending on where you stand in the spectrum? Experiences?
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election jitters
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Posted:Jan 23, 2006 5:47 pm
Last Updated:Mar 5, 2006 9:28 pm 20655 Views
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I have been watching the blogs and yellowknifebdsm group and wondering if people are just not communicating or there is some other channel. Thought I'd try the blog to make a contribution. I saw some talk about people trying to meet and talk, which is far more my preference than cybertalk which is a bit like yelling in a dark room and not knowing if anybody else is there too.
Today I'm thinking about the Canadian election, and about the nature of dominance and submission as it applies to governments. From my admittedly limited experience the credo for bdsm’ers is safe, sane and consensual. We believe in talking things over before anything happens, making sure communication is clear and open, establishing ground rules and following them. Sometimes limits are pushed. Contrast that with elections and governance (actually first picture Jack, Stephen, Paul, Gilles, Jim and the rest as doms) – we’re not always sure what we’re agreeing to (as the “submissive” electorate) and then we’re not sure they’ll keep their promises anyway. The “doms” want power but don’t seem to feel much responsibility to the “subs” either to follow their agreement or to take care of them. Maybe we could teach these guys something.
Looking at what I’ve written so far it seems to smack a bit of big “R” reformist thinking, which is actually the complete opposite of my position on the political spectrum; still it would be nice to be able to choose to put ourselves in the hands of the “dom” we fit best with and know that they will act with personal integrity.
So cross your fingers and hope that whoever is cracking the whip tomorrow knows what he’s doing.
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