Why Love Makes A Night Of Kink Even Better
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張貼於:2023年 12月 21日 2:26 am
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Kink can be practiced while being involved in different ‘relationships’. These may include playing together with a friend (or even acquittance), as a service (paying a Mistress for her services, for example), with a stranger (at a party or club), or with your loving partner. At Bedroom Bondage, we are all about exploring kink as a couple, so that is what I’ll be writing about.
Trust & safety
There’s a good reason that I start with this one. Nothing is more important than being able to put your full trust in your partner, and it is such a beautiful thing when you can. You know each other well, and should not have to worry about your play time turning into a bad experience because, for example, your partner does not respect your boundaries. A lot of people seem to think that it is all about being beaten up and tortured, but the ones who know better are very aware that there is a fine line between pleasure and pain. Domination and submission is always a matter of consent.
Being able to completely give yourself to your lover is an incredibly sexy, freeing feeling! When your man has all the control over your body, you will be very aware of every little bit of it, enhancing all sensations.
Feeling comfortable
Believe me, the more comfortable you feel with your partner, the sexier you’ll feel, and the hotter it’ll get! You’ll be way more relaxed about revealing your deepest, darkest desires… Who knows what kind of dirty wishes the two of you share without even realizing it?
Aftercare
Something that should never be missing. When the submissive is exhausted, loving care from her Master is the cherry on an already delicious cake. It simply makes the whole experience even better, when he drapes a soft blanket over you, brings you something to drink (I always seem to be up for a big glass of juice or water myself after such intense hours), gives you a nice massage… I honestly couldn’t say what would be better than to be softly kissed, ‘I love you’ being whispered in my ear, and sweetly fall asleep after this kinky, sexy intimate moment together.
When you take good care of your submissive, she’ll take good care of you, too. That’s exactly what it’s all about. Not just for the submissive to take care of her Master, but to take care of each other.
~dominantlife
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Pain
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張貼於:2023年 12月 18日 6:14 pm
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Pain is a complex and multifaceted sensation that varies greatly from person to person. In the world of BDSM, the dynamics of pain take on a unique and consensual context. Participants engage in activities that incorporate various degrees of pain to explore pleasure, dominance, and submission. It is important to note, before getting started, that many who are involved in BDSM choose to not incorporate pain into how they practice BDSM. Still, for those who do or are curious, this post delves into how individuals process and tolerate pain in BDSM activities, offering insights and techniques for maximizing pleasure while minimizing any harm.
BDSM practitioners often refer to the concept of "pain processing" as the capacity to experience, interpret, and endure pain within a controlled and consensual environment. Pain processing is a highly individualized experience, influenced by physical, emotional, and psychological factors. Key elements in pain processing include:
Consent and Trust: BDSM activities are built upon trust and clear consent between participants. Establishing boundaries and safe words is crucial to ensuring that all involved parties are comfortable with the level of pain they are experiencing.
Psychological State: An individual's psychological state significantly impacts their pain processing ability. Emotions like fear, anticipation, or arousal can alter the perception of pain. Some people find that pain intensifies their pleasure, while for others, it may decrease their threshold.
Physical Factors: Physical factors, such as a person's general health, pain tolerance, and individual sensitivities, play a role in pain processing. Pain thresholds can vary widely between individuals.
Techniques and Tools: BDSM practitioners employ various techniques and tools to manipulate and control the intensity of pain, including restraints, impact play, and sensory deprivation. Learning to use these tools safely is essential for maximizing pleasure and minimizing harm.
BDSM activities often involve pushing physical and emotional boundaries, but safety and consent are paramount. Here are some key considerations for pushing boundaries safely:
Communication: Open and honest communication is vital. Participants should discuss their desires, limits, and boundaries before engaging in any BDSM activity. A safe word or gesture should be established to indicate when a participant wishes to stop or slow down.
Start Slowly: It is crucial to start slowly and gradually increase the intensity of the activities. This allows participants to acclimate to the sensations and ensures that no one is pushed too far, or too quickly.
Educate and Seek Guidance: Participants must educate themselves about BDSM practices and techniques. Seeking guidance from experienced practitioners, attending workshops, or reading educational materials can provide valuable insights.
Aftercare: Aftercare is a critical component of BDSM activities. After an intense scene, participants should engage in a process of emotional and physical care, which may include cuddling, reassurance, and addressing any potential psychological or emotional triggers.
BDSM practitioners aim to create a balance between pleasure and pain while minimizing the risk of injury. Here are some techniques for achieving this balance:
Sensory Play: Incorporating sensory play, such as using feathers, ice, or hot wax, can heighten the sensations and provide a more balanced experience.
Safety Precautions: Practitioners should use safe and sterile equipment, follow hygiene guidelines, and be well-versed in first aid practices in case of any accidents.
Feedback and Adjustment: Continuous communication and feedback during BDSM activities allow participants to make real-time adjustments, ensuring that the experience remains pleasurable and within agreed-upon boundaries.
Self-Care: Participants should prioritize self-care, both before and after BDSM sessions. This includes staying well-hydrated, getting enough rest, and engaging in activities that promote mental and emotional well-being.
The world of BDSM offers a unique and consensual space where the interplay of pleasure and pain takes center stage. Pain processing, an intensely personal experience, hinges on trust, communication, and a deep understanding of one's own and their partner's boundaries. While pushing boundaries is a fundamental aspect of BDSM, it must always be done with utmost care, ensuring that all involved parties feel safe and respected.
To maximize pleasure and minimize harm, practitioners should prioritize open communication, a gradual approach to intensity, and comprehensive aftercare. Safety precautions and self-care are also crucial, underlining the importance of maintaining physical and emotional well-being throughout the experience.
In the end, BDSM is about more than just pain; it is about the consensual exchange of power and the exploration of desires. It's a deeply intimate journey that allows participants to delve into their fantasies and trust their partners in ways that few other experiences can replicate. As long as it's built upon a foundation of trust, consent, and a commitment to safety, BDSM can be a fulfilling and transformative experience for all involved.
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You Are a Lion
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張貼於:2023年 12月 16日 4:04 am
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To control her, you must first control yourself.
You are human and you have flaws, bad habits, and vices. So improve. You don’t have to be perfect to be a good Dominant, but you do have to be self-aware and eager to become the best you can be. Otherwise, how can you hope to inspire the same in your submissive?
You do not take her submission. She gives it to you. Not because you’re macho and aggressive and capable of breaking her like a wild horse. But because she trusts you to make her decisions, lead the way, and guide her to self-improvement. You do not enslave her, she enslaves herself. She does not relinquish her freedom, but in becoming your slave, she becomes free.
You will face darkness. We all do, to one degree or another. You will question your ability to lead, and perhaps so will your submissive. You will backslide into old habits and negative ways of thinking. You will erode your own control and authority, and you will wonder if you’re capable at all.
Don’t give up.
She submitted it to you for a reason. Any submissive worth the title will guard her heart and her submission and only relinquish control to one who can bear the burden. She chose you, not the other way around. Take strength in that, and become again the man at whose feet she knelt.
You will falter and stumble and sometimes you will fall. But leap to your feet with a roar, and remind the world that you are a lion.
~the-beauty-of-submission
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~Saturday Sway
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張貼於:2023年 12月 16日 2:23 am
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* Not Dark Yet ~ Bob Dylan ~ Time Out Of Mind
* I Put A Spell On You ~ Nina Simone ~Four Woman
* Destroyer ~ The Kinks ~ Come Dancing With The Kinks
* Paul Revere ~ The Beastie Boys ~ License To Ill
* Dessert Rose ~ Sting~ Brand New Day
* The Rain Song ~ Led Zepplin ~ Houses Of The Holy
* Bright Lights ~ Matchbox 20 ~More Than You Think You Are
* How Can You Mend A Broken Heart ~ Al Green ~ Let's Stay Together
* Losing My Touch~ Kieth Richards ~ 40 Licks
* Angel ~ Dave Matthews Band~ Everyday
Not Dark Yet ~ Bob Dylan ~ Time Out Of Mind
Shadows are falling and I been here all day
It's too hot to sleep and time is running away
Feel like my soul has turned into steel
I've still got the scars that the sun didn't heal
There's not even room enough to be anywhere
It's not dark yet, but it's getting there
Well my sense of humanity is going down the drain
Behind every beautiful thing, there's been some kind of pain
She wrote me a letter and she wrote it so kind
She put down in writin' what was in her mind
I just don't see why I should even care
It's not dark yet, but it's getting there
Well I been to London and I been to gay Paree
I followed the river and I got to the sea
I've been down to the bottom of a whirlpool of lies
I ain't lookin' for nothin' in anyone's eyes
Sometimes my burden is more than I can bear
It's not dark yet, but it's getting there
I was born here and I'll die here, against my will
I know it looks like I'm movin' but I'm standin' still
Every nerve in my body is so naked and numb
I can't even remember what it was I came here to get away from
Don't even hear the murmur of a prayer
It's not dark yet, but it's getting there
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Vulnerability ...
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張貼於:2023年 12月 15日 8:16 am
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There is nothing easy about surrendering yourself to another person. Anyone tells you otherwise, tries to convince you that submission is a weakness, doesn’t understand the nature of strength.
If being a submissive was a switch I could flick on and off, I’m not sure that I would turn it on most days. Making yourself vulnerable is a terrifying thing. As humans, we spend our lives building walls to keep hurt. We construct mechanisms to defend us against vulnerability, hoping to protect our hearts. But, as FDR famously said, “Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the assessment that something else is more important than fear.”
To be submissive is to invite someone behind those walls. To cast off your armor, lay down your weapons, and crawl into the arms of another person, trusting that they will not betray you.
To submit is to choose each day not to recoil, to not construct new walls, or draw your weapons. It doesn’t mean that we aren’t scared. It doesn’t mean that some days it won’t be the hardest thing we do. But it does mean that each day we choose submission over fear, not because we are weak, but because we are strong.
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~Art Break
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張貼於:2023年 12月 13日 6:16 pm
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Artist: Konrad Biro
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~Saturday Sway “Storytellers” Playlist
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張貼於:2023年 12月 9日 6:10 am
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* Piano Man - Billy Joel
* Atlantic City - Bruce Springsteen
* Fast Car - Tracy Chapman
* Biko - Peter Gabriel
* The Hurricane - Bob Dylan
* Father & Son - Cat Stevens
* Living For The City - Stevie Wonder
* River - Joni Mitchell
* Cat’s In The Cradle - Harry Chapin
* If You Could Read My Mind - Gordon Lightfoot
Atlantic City ~ Bruce Springsteen
Well, they blew up the chicken man in Philly last night
Now they blew up his house, too
Down on the boardwalk, they're getting' ready
For a fight, gonna see what them racket boys can do
Now there's trouble busin' in from outta state
And the DA can't get no relief
Gonna be a rumble out on the promenade
And the gamblin' commission's hangin' on by the skin of its teeth
Well, now everything dies, baby, that's a fact
But maybe everything that dies someday comes back
Put your makeup on, fix your hair up pretty
And meet me tonight in Atlantic City
Well, I got a job and tried to put my money away
But I got debts that no honest man can pay
So I drew what I had from the Central Trust
And I bought us two tickets on that Coast City bus
Now, baby, everything dies, honey, that's a fact
But maybe everything that dies someday comes back
Put your makeup on, fix your hair up pretty
And meet me tonight in Atlantic City
Now our luck may have died and our love may be cold
But with you forever I'll stay
We're goin' out where the sands turnin' to gold now
Put on your stockings, baby, 'cause the nights gettin' cold and
Everything dies, baby, that's a fact but maybe
Everything that dies someday comes back
Now I've been lookin' for a job but it's hard to find
Down here it's just winners and losers
And don't get caught on the wrong side of that line
Well I'm tired of comin' out on this losin' end
So, honey, last night I met this guy
And I'm gonna do a little favor for him
Well I guess everything dies, baby, that's a fact
But maybe everything that dies someday comes back
Fix your hair up nice, make yourself look pretty
And meet me tonight in Atlantic City
Meet me tonight in Atlantic City
Come meet me tonight in Atlantic City
And meet me tonight in Atlantic City
(Tonight in Atlantic City)
(Tonight in Atlantic City)
(Meet me tonight in Atlantic City)
(Tonight in Atlantic City)
(Tonight in Atlantic City)
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~Art Break
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張貼於:2023年 12月 7日 8:49 pm
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Artist: Ivan Koulakov, “Lovers” - 1967.
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Determination
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張貼於:2023年 12月 4日 10:12 pm
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Submission, and Dominance for that matter, while inbred, don’t come naturally. Now don’t mistake my meaning here, I believe submissives and Dominants are born this way, as much as people are born with blue eyes or brown. The innate desire to lead, or to follow, is not a choice, but the acts of submission and dominance are not innate, they are learned.
Take sex, for example, you can know that you want it, that it is something you need in your life, but learning to have fulfilling sex is a journey, not a single act. And so it is for D/s. You can take a submissive or a Dominant as your own, but that doesn’t complete your journey any more than losing your virginity makes you a master of sex. There is always more to learn.
And you know what? It’s not fucking easy. You’re going to screw up. Probably a lot. You’ll hurt the person you love and it’s going to be soul-crushing. They’re going to hurt you too, and you’ll probably be blindsided. You’ll learn and grow, and if you’re anything like me, sometimes you’ll look at the trail of mistakes behind you and you’ll wonder if maybe you aren’t meant for this after all. That maybe you aren’t really submissive because you seem to fail a lot, or that maybe you aren’t really Dominant because you seem to hurt your sub even when it’s the last thing you want.
But here’s the thing… Dominance and submission are innate desires, but learning to fulfill those desires takes work. Learning to serve your partner, fulfill their needs, and make sure that your own are met, requires determination and effort. Wanting something, truly deeply wanting it, even needing it, doesn’t mean you know how to get it.
You have to be willing to pick yourself back up when you fall. It doesn’t mean you weren’t made for this. It doesn’t mean you aren’t a ‘true’ submissive or a Dominant. It means that if you want it badly enough, you’ll muster the strength to learn.
~pleasurewhore
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