Safety Pup
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Posted:Feb 28, 2021 1:35 pm
Last Updated:Apr 1, 2021 6:04 am 7827 Views
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So I am going to meet a potential Dom next weekend, and all the usual safety precautions are in place, safe call, letting someone know where I’ll be, when I’ll be back, limits known, we’ve been talking for about 6 weeks, so I don’t feel like we’ve rushed into this, although maybe some standards we have, although maybe some standards we’ve waited too long. I don’t know.
Anyway, all subs have it drilled into them (or they should at least) safety, safety, safety. There are rules and protocols and general guidelines about how to protect yourself. And honestly, the Doms are fine with this. As they should be. At least the ones worthy of the name. If you happen across one that doesn’t abide these rules-RUN.
The purpose of this post however is about female safety in general. I wonder if you men have any idea the safety precautions women have to take, just to live their lives. In the US alone 1 in 6 women will experience a r*pe or attempted r*pe in her lifetime. Gentleman, these are your wives, your sisters, your daughters, mothers and cousins, your submissive and your friends. And don’t even get me started about the college campus statistics, freshman girls, football players and frat parties are NOT a good mix. So in a community where consensual “r*pe play* is such a popular kink. As a person with an XY chromosome, this is just a partial list of what I should do to do to keep myself safe-basically at all times.
• Don’t wear your hair in a ponytail-easy to grab
• For the love of God, don’t leave your drink unattended
• Carry an umbrella
• Don’t get taken to a secondary site
• Make sure all windows and doors in your home can be locked securely, particularly sliding glass doors. Use the locks. Keep entrances well lighted.
• Check the identification of any sales or person before letting him in.
• If you live in an apartment, avoid being in the laundry room or garage yourself, especially at night.
• If you come home alone and find a door or window open or signs of forced entry don't go in. Go to the nearest phone and call the police.
• Be alert to your surroundings and the people around you.
• Stay in well-lighted areas as much as possible.
• Walk confidently at a steady pace on the side of the street facing traffic.
• Walk close to the curb. Avoid doorways, bushes, and alleys.
• If you are in trouble, attract any way you can. Scream, yell for , or yell "Fire!"
• If you feel you're being followed, walk into a store or knock on a house door.
• Keep your car in good working order and the tank at least half full.
• Park in well-lighted areas and lock the doors, even if you'll only be gone a short time.
• When you return to your car, have the key ready and check the front and rear seats and floor before getting in.
• Drive with all the doors locked.
• Never pick up hitchhikers.
• If you have a flat tire, drive on it until you reach a safe well-lighted and well-traveled area.
• Exercise extra caution when using underground and enclosed parking garages. Try not to go alone.
• If you are being followed, don't drive home. Go to the nearest police or fire station and honk your horn. Or drive to an open station or other business where you can safely call the police. Don't leave your car unless you are certain you can get inside the building safely. Try to obtain the license plate and description of the car following you.
• Try not to load yourself down with packages or bags as this can make you appear more vulnerable.
• Make sure your cell phone is with you and charged and that you have cab .
• Don't allow yourself to be isolated with someone you don’t trust or someone you don’t know.
• Avoid putting music headphones in both ears so that you can be more aware of your surroundings, especially if you are walking alone
Why do I have to do all of this and more to keep myself safe? Why can’t I just walk down the street with impunity? How come I have to be responsible for my safety in this manner? How about you assholes just NOT take what isn’t freely given?
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Play With Fire?
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Posted:Feb 18, 2021 1:17 pm
Last Updated:Feb 23, 2021 2:39 pm 8270 Views
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You know Him
The One that burns brighter than a thousand splendid suns
The fire mesmerizes you
Captivates you
Entrances you
You can’t look away
You don't want to look away
You inch closer….and closer…and closer
You want to dance in the heat of Him
Swirling, twirling like a madwoman
All reason, lost
You know you are going to burn
You know that you will writhe in pain
And writhe in ecstasy
Devoured the flames
Do you turn to dust?
Or rise like a Phoenix from the ashes?
Dare you with fire?
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Not a fan
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Posted:Feb 14, 2021 1:02 pm
Last Updated:Mar 8, 2021 12:24 pm 8324 Views
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So here we are, February th. Valentines Day. I have never been a big fan of this made up holiday promoted Hallmark and florists. It just doesn't make sense to me.
I'd rather get flowers on a random Tuesday, than a bouquet of roses marked up 200% because of the day.
Go out to dinner? Sure, but how about just so I can have a night off from cooking.
Chocolates? Yummy at any time, but I;m free right now.
Sparklies? well, those ARE my weakness. But again, why today?
Meh, I'm just not feeling it. But Happy Valentines to all who indulge I guess.
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Value
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Posted:Feb 10, 2021 1:43 pm
Last Updated:Mar 9, 2021 8:07 pm 9494 Views
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What worth a submissive?
To hear some, a gem beyond measure
To hear others, a worthless piece of fuckmeat
To hear some, a to be accepted with a humble heart
To hear others, someone to tie up and fuck
To hear some, a deeper connection than our vanilla counterparts will ever know
To hear others, a way to pass an evening
Why then, do submissives tend to throw themselves at any Tom, Dom, Dick or Harry, that shows them a modicum of attention? And I wish this was only true of new submissives, but it’s not.
And believe me, I KNOW. I’ve been there. I’ve done that. I’ve got a cute little tee shirt with sparkles on it to prove it. When your heart and soul and cunt crave Dominantion in THE WORST way. When you feel like you’re going to crawl out of your skin if someone doesn’t flog you, or spank you, or bind you or fuck you, or tell you what to do, or make you crawl and beg and plead.
And I don’t think that there is a sub on Alt who hasn’t gotten herself into a less than stellar situation, wanting it, and getting it, from the wrong man.
If you’re going to do all those things, why not find someone to do them for, who sees your true worth? You are rare. You are valuable. Don’t let them take from you unless you get in return. Whatever it is you may need.
Value yourself, so others may as well.
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Just sayin'.....
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Posted:Feb 7, 2021 11:05 am
Last Updated:Mar 10, 2021 6:35 am 9077 Views
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Let's go Bucs!! My Tommy needs number 7!!
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MINE!!!
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Posted:Jan 30, 2021 11:30 am
Last Updated:Jan 10, 2022 6:57 pm 11207 Views
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Ahhhhh, ............“MINE”.
I wonder if any Dominant can truly understand what that one word does a submissive.
Well, is fucking amazing, I’ll tell You that.
is such freedom in that word.
Such excitement, such safety , such caring
Such darkness, such delight
It signals the release of self.
It signals the permission just...BE
raises goosebumps on your flesh
makes you wet, and weak in the knees
says, I've got you
And yes, my dear Dominants, you most certainly do
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Hey Baby..
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Posted:Jan 27, 2021 11:19 am
Last Updated:Jan 30, 2021 6:51 am 11810 Views
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First contact
Him.....hey baby, I can make all your fantasies come true
Me...so you're going buy me a Porsche?
I can't even with these men anymore!
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Dom School?
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Posted:Jan 22, 2021 6:57 pm
Last Updated:Feb 11, 2021 8:48 pm 13553 Views
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All right my delightfully deviant, Dominant darlings, time to spill the tea.
So how exactly do you go about learning how to do what you do? I'm not talking about the innate qualities that make you a Dom, but rather those skills which can be acquired and honed over a lifetime. Like bondage, or using a whip.
Is there a Dom school? A clubhouse? A secret handshake?
Seriously though, do you find a mentor? go to a kink club? It seems to me that just picking up a whip and having at it would not be a pleasant experience for the submissive involved. And since her safety is paramount, how does one learn to flick a whip, so that it can go from a light kiss, to a sweet sting, to something even harsher and more dark? Do you practice your knots and quick releases on a table leg? Do you read and learn how to check extremities for blood flow? How long can you leave on nipple clamps?
Curious as always, and thank you for your responses.
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What’s the rush?
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Posted:Jan 20, 2021 12:41 pm
Last Updated:Feb 28, 2021 1:42 pm 11963 Views
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Ok so I know are probably as many different definitions of what a “good” Dom is, as are Doms and subs. Everyone is looking for something different in their D/s relationship. I think we could all agree though, that a good Dom is patient, and understanding, calm and smart. Supportive and curious.
So in my experience on Alt, this time, last time and the time before that I don’t think I’ve ever had (what I consider) a “good” Dom, ask me for a photo, ask me to IM, ask me for a phone number, ask me to them in the first 2 emails, asked for a meet up, even asked me for my . Now they’ve gotten all those things and more because I wanted communicate further. In fact, their “reticence” if you will, made my desire speak with them more……oohhh light bulb moment for rayne…you guys do that on purpose don’t you?!?!? And not that I expect or want standoffishness once we start talking, but that small step of letting me take the lead in the beginning is awesome.
Every “good” Dom knows it takes time build up the level of trust required for a quality D/s relationship. Hell, even if one is just looking for casual playtime, you are still putting your safety in another persons’ hands. How can I be naked and bound before you if I don’t even know random things like if you have siblings? Do you like tomatoes? How long was your previous D/s relationship? Shouldn’t you know a bit more about them than just what their profile provides? By allowing me to develop the relationship at a pace I’m comfortable with it allows a kernel of trust to take root.
Why does everything have to happen so fast? I know we live in a digital age and every thing is now, now, now!! And believe me, I am the LAST person to preach patience, as to once I’ve started talking with someone, I usually want more sooner than later, but even sooner is later than most seem to want.
What happened to friendship? What happened to long, rambling emails filled with random stuff? What happened to quick, hey I heard this joke today emails? I’m old. And old school.
Stop rushing me!
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MLK
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Posted:Jan 18, 2021 12:30 pm
Last Updated:Apr 6, 2021 5:45 am 12854 Views
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I am happy join with you today in what will go down in history as greatest demonstration for freedom in history of our nation.
Five score years ago, a great American, in whose symbolic shadow we stand today, signed Emancipation Proclamation. This momentous decree came as a great beacon of hope to millions of slaves, who had been seared in flames of withering injustice. It came as a joyous daybreak end long night of their captivity. But one hundred years later, the colored America still not . One hundred years later, life of colored American still sadly crippled by manacle of segregation and chains of discrimination.
One hundred years later, colored American lives a lonely island of poverty in midst of a vast ocean of material prosperity. One hundred years later, colored American still languishing in corners of American society and finds himself an exile in his own land So we have come here today to dramatize a shameful condition.
In a sense we have come to our Nation’s Capital to cash a check. When architects of our great republic wrote magnificent of Constitution and Declaration of Independence, they were signing a promissory note which every American was fall heir.
This note was a promise that all men, yes, black men as well as white men, would be guaranteed inalienable rights of life liberty and pursuit of happiness.
It obvious today that America has defaulted this promissory note insofar as her citizens of color are concerned. Instead of honoring this sacred obligation, America has given its colored people a bad check, a check that has come back marked “insufficient funds.”
But we refuse believe that bank of justice bankrupt. We refuse believe that there are insufficient funds in the great vaults of opportunity of this nation. So we have come cash this check, a check that will give us upon demand riches of freedom and security of justice.
We have also come his hallowed spot remind America of fierce urgency of Now. This is not time engage in luxury of cooling off or take tranquilizing drug of gradualism.
Now is time make real promise of democracy.
Now time rise from dark and desolate valley of segregation sunlit path of racial justice.
Now it time lift our nation from quicksand of racial injustice solid rock of brotherhood.
Now time make justice a reality of God’s .
I would be fatal for nation overlook urgency of moment and underestimate determination of ’s colored citizens. This sweltering summer of colored people’s legitimate discontent will not pass until there is an invigorating autumn of freedom and equality. Nineteen sixty- not an end but a beginning. Those who hope that colored Americans needed blow off steam and will now be content will have a rude awakening if nation returns business as usual.
There will be neither rest nor tranquility in America until the colored citizen granted his citizenship rights. whirlwinds of revolt will continue shake foundations of our nation until bright day of justice emerges.
We can never be satisfied as long as our bodies, heavy with fatigue of travel, cannot gain lodging in motels of highways and hotels of cities.
We cannot be satisfied as long as colored person’s basic mobility from a smaller ghetto to a larger one.
We can never be satisfied as long as our are stripped of their selfhood and robbed of their dignity by signs stating “for white .”
We cannot be satisfied as long as a colored person in Mississippi cannot vote and a colored person in New York believes he has nothing for which vote.
No, no we are not satisfied and we will not be satisfied until justice rolls down like waters and righteousness like a mighty stream.
I am not unmindful that some of you have come here out of your trials and tribulations. Some of you have come from areas where your quest for freedom left you battered by storms of persecutions and staggered by winds of police brutality.
You have been veterans of creative suffering. Continue work with faith that unearned suffering redemptive.
Go back Mississippi, go back Alabama, go back South Carolina go back Georgia, go back Louisiana, go back slums and ghettos of our modern cities, knowing that somehow this situation can and will be changed.
Let us not wallow in valley of despair. I say you, my friends, we have difficulties of today and tomorrow.
I still have a dream. a dream deeply rooted in American dream.
I have a dream that one day this nation will rise and live out true meaning of its creed. We hold these truths be self-evident that men are created equal.
I have a dream that one day out in red hills of Georgia sons of former slaves and sons of former slaveowners will be able sit down together at the table of brotherhood.
I have a dream that one day even the state of Mississippi, a state sweltering with the heat of oppression, will be transformed into an oasis of freedom and justice.
I have a dream that my four little will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin but by their character.
I have a dream today.
I have a dream that one day down in Alabama, with its vicious racists, with its governor having his lips dripping with the of interposition and nullification; that one day right down in Alabama little black boys and black girls will be able join hands with little white boys and white girls as sisters and brothers.
I have a dream today.
I have a dream that one day every valley shall be engulfed, every hill shall be exalted and every mountain shall be made low, the rough places will be made plains and the crooked places will be made straight and the glory of the Lord shall be revealed and all flesh shall see it together.
This is our hope. This is the faith that I will go back to the South with. With this faith we will be able to hew out of the mountain of despair a stone of hope.
With this faith we will be able to transform the jangling discords of our nation into a beautiful symphony of brotherhood.
With this faith we will be able to work together, to pray together, to struggle together, to go to jail together, to climb for freedom together, knowing that we will be free one day.
This will be the day when of God’s will be able sing with new meaning “My country ’tis of thee, sweet land of liberty, of thee I sing. Land where my father’s died, land of the Pilgrim’s pride, from every mountainside, let freedom ring!”
And if America is be a great nation, this must become true. So let freedom ring from hilltops of New Hampshire. Let freedom ring from mighty mountains of New York.
Let freedom ring from heightening Alleghenies of Pennsylvania.
Let freedom ring from snow-capped Rockies of Colorado.
Let freedom ring from curvaceous slopes of California.
But not that, let freedom, ring from Stone Mountain of Georgia.
Let freedom ring from every hill and molehill of Mississippi and every mountainside.
When we let freedom ring, when we let ring from every tenement and every hamlet, from every state and every city, we will be able speed that day when of God’s , black men and white men, Jews and Gentiles, Protestants and Catholics, will be able join hands and sing in of old spiritual, “ at last, at last. Thank God Almighty, we are at last.”
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