lol, why?
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Posted:Jul 6, 2018 3:23 pm
Last Updated:Apr 30, 2024 7:34 am 4830 Views
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It was years ago, back when people though 1984 had missed out but only by the date. We were all bopping till we dropped in nightclubs.
Remember when ? Go on,,,, try hard,, if you ARE old enough, it will all be a LOT hazy, REALLY hazy lol
Well, I was on leave, My first, and I was seeing this slightly older girl, who giggled every time she slapped My cute lil ass, remember, back then I was a sub
AAAnyway, I recently headed back to where we first met. Now, I freely admit I have grown a little, older, wiser, kinkier. But you know you have grown older when the doorstaff says ...
"Oi oi,,, some one is in tubble innit!"
whatthe hell can you do wrong in a 5 person queue?
"someone's Mum turned up!"
BANG .. cheeky shite!
as he falls down,, I walk into the club, then I remember My age, the 8 tequila shots, and My mind feels like I am in a swing, My legs BARELY remember where the floor is and My common sense asks ,,,,,,,,,
"Why do people not remember antacid on a night out?"
"Why do people not remember they are over 20?"
"Why do I not remember where I know that girl's mum from?"
I present this for a giggle, because I found humour in it. But,,, one day .... I might need the ant-acid!!!
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to quote a genius
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Posted:Jun 28, 2018 3:15 pm
Last Updated:Apr 30, 2024 7:34 am 4722 Views
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to quote a genius
"five mantras to carry with you through your lives. These are mine. These are what have helped me, not only to survive, but to be happy, yeah? Now remember these, remember these:
All men are equal, therefore ......... what are you laughing at? All men!
Number one. All men are equal, therefore no-one can ever be your genuine superior.
Number two. It is your future. It is yours to create. Your future is as bright as you make it.
Number three. Change is a constant of life so you must never ever lose your wisdom.
Number four. If you want to live a full and complete human life you have to be free. Freedom is paramount.
And number five. Love is the answer. Love is the answer.
So my friends, there’s my present to you. You just make sure that you’ve always got those five things. Equality, Opportunity, Wisdom, Freedom and Love. Yeah? Equality, Opportunity, Wisdom, Freedom and Love and you’ll be alright. You’ll be alright with that and a bit of good luck. So good luck. Congratulations and good luck my young friends. You go out there and have yourselves a forking good life"
Rik Mayall 
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Red Flags
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Posted:Jun 27, 2018 10:21 am
Last Updated:Oct 3, 2018 8:58 am 5117 Views
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I saw this and loved it. This is not My posting, but is copied verbatim... enjoy
Isolation - When s/he tries to keep you from meeting or hanging out with others. Whether it be in the community or not. That's a sign that they are either really insecure, don't want you to find something out about them, or they are possibly keeping you from learning something else that doesn't jive with their play style or maybe you'll be interested in something they aren't.
Immediately wanting to play - If someone wants to jump right in to play and you are new to the scene, be afraid. Don't jump in to something until you really know what you're looking for. This can be hard with the "frenzy" that some new people fall in to. Don't do it! Be safe!
Immediately wanting to collar or claim you as their sub - They are afraid someone else is going to take you from them or that you'll find something that you like and play with someone else. So, unless you feel the same about them, which you shouldn't right away, don't fall for this one, no matter how much they try to talk you in to it.
A Dom thinking a new sub needs to "be broken". NO! NO! NO! A healthy D/s relationship is beneficial to both parties and is based on respect and safety.
Do not fall for the "If you were a real sub" line. No real Dominant would ever use that. That's something that the abusive types use and try to play it off as D/s
Someone who refuses to negotiate on even ground. If you go in to a negotiation and the things either side wants aren't respected, just walk away. There are many people out there that will play safely and with respect. Again, this is a sign of an abusive person playing their shit off as D/s
Consent violation - Any time someone does something you say "No" to, that's a consent violation. This is one of the worst things someone can do in the community. It ruins their reputation and it makes new people want to run and not look back. If someone violates your consent, walk or run away. Don't fall for the bullshit, once it happens it'll happen again.
No safe words - No, just no. Unless you are in an experienced Master / slave relationship, or the like, this is not how people play. If someone ever says that they only play with no safe words, look elsewhere.
When someone is ambiguous as to what they want in a scene or relationship. This should be pretty self explanatory. If they won't tell you exactly what they want, there's probably a reason for it. Don't play without knowing the rules.
If in the initial contact they go all out with the Dom attitude. If you haven't even talked or met with someone, they have no right to act like they are your Dominant. This is what wannabes and abusers do.
When someone seems to be "stuck" in the Dominant role, even outside of the community. If they act all Dom like to cashiers or waitress', this is something to walk away from. They are trying to impose their role on people without their consent.
Someone who will not give you references. This should be pretty clear on what the problems could be.
Someone who does not participate with local communities. Now, this isn't always a red flag but it's safe to say that if there's an established community and someone avoids it, there's a reason. It might just be that they are an introvert or work crazy hours, but definitely ask. And ask the local community leaders about someone like this, just in case they are hiding something, especially if they criticize the local community.
Narcissism is a HUGE problem in this community. Most of the abusers fall in to this category. Read up on the disorder and understand what to look for there. Isolation, control, "negging" you, gaslighting, these are all signs of at least a narcissist and possibly worse.
Someone who immediately contacts you and goes all out to get your full attention. I've seen many times where a new person will show up to one Munch and never come back because s/he gets overwhelmed with attention. Yes, we all get eager to meet new people but sometimes it goes overboard. If someone is a little too eager, put their brakes on or just walk away.
Their name on Fet. If they have something stupid or offensive, you can guess what kind of person they are.
Dick pic for a profile pic. 'nuff said. Delete and block.
Zero info or pictures on Fet. Again, walk away. You know that is either a fake profile because they have done some bad shit or they are just out to get laid or abuse someone.
Do they treat you as more of a possession than a person? That's one to walk away from. Most likely you've found a narcissist, unless you've negotiated a Master/slave deal.
Will not discuss limits. This one is just like "No safe word". There's no such thing as no limits. If someone won't discuss limits, or worse, won't respect them, run the hell away.
Doesn't want to get personal about themselves. They are hiding something, simple as that. If they won't discuss their personal life, should you really be doing something as intimate as anything BDSM?
Doesn't take personal responsibility, always has an excuse and it's someone else's fault. This is a sign of the narcissistic type yet again. Probably best to walk away before you start to become the one that's always blamed.
S/He tries to tie you down to a specific role that only suits what they want from you. Don't let this one happen. You should be able to be you, unless you've agreed to that dynamic, of course.
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Another Anniversary
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Posted:May 19, 2018 10:47 am
Last Updated:May 29, 2018 8:43 am 4942 Views
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Yesterday was tough. Another year since She died, and My heart still feels empty somehow. I do not know if this is a forever thing, She did promise Me forever once.
Every day I feel Her loss, but now I can barely remember the voice that giggled with me, the smile that made My heart skip a beat, that sly wink that would make Me tremble.
I have to pass these feelings on to someone.
To give these gifts to another.
I have been lied to, had someone say they had only two weeks to live, cheated and screwed over, yet still, DEEP down, I know there is space in My heart, because of Her.
I do not know if I can be all She was, but for Her memory, I have to try, to try to be better, more, and try to give Her gifts to others.
I will keep trying My Beloved, for as long as I have the breath in Me.
sleep well My WhiteRoses, My darling Francesca xxx
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To Gabbi
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Posted:May 12, 2018 5:45 am
Last Updated:Apr 30, 2024 7:34 am 4909 Views
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I just heard today why Gabbi left alt, I do not know if anyone who knows her will read this, but if you know her in RL,, please please please pass this on to her from Me
When I first joined alt, you had Me giggling so hard I thought I was having a fit. You were funny and fun, every time I saw you in the lobby, I knew I was going to laugh. I came close a few times to needing depends from laughing so much.
Back when we could pm in chat, I would often sneak in a quiet chat. You gave advice freely, with a cheeky humour that never came off as condescending. You were like a big sister or a mum. I loved you for your open fresh and happy approach to everything.
As time went on, you became an excellent friend. Always interested in what was going on. A thinker, a voice in the wilderness, a guide and mentor. I do not think you ever knew how much I respected and trusted you.
Now you have slipped away, I understand why. I wish I could have given you a mahooooosive huggle, just one more time. Walk with your head held high. I love you like family and I will always be grateful for everything you gave me. You are, and will remain, My gabbimum,,, huge hugs beautiful,,, what I am is a little of what you gave Me.
Ciao for now ya crazy bratty yet sweet and caring angel,, love ya shitloads Gabbimum xxxx
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