Trust- how does someone trust?
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Posted:Sep 16, 2019 2:50 am
Last Updated:Mar 26, 2020 4:10 am 4173 Views
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Trust-1.firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something:
"relations have to be built on trust"
: assured reliance on the character, ability, strength, or truth of someone or something
b: one in which confidence is placed
So a firm belief , assured reliance on the character, truth, ability or strength of someone or something.
What if you never had any of that. As a as an adult. How does one find it?
Here what i know, is we bring in what we know. So i was raised by a mother was bat shit crazy. She was a single parent at a time there were not alot of single parents. Which was strike one against me. Then being bat shit crazy , well that strikes me right away...lol
My mom was very emotionally abusive. I cant say i never got my ass beat because i did. I was a handful i imagine and back in those days parents were allowed. What happens behind closes doors stays behind closed doors.
It didnt happen a whole lot,.
But the emotional abuse was always there. and then when i found myself in relationships i brought in what i knew and that was men who where emotional abusive.
That is how the cycle continues generation after generation.
I was 33 when went to prison for stabbing my oldest daughters father. I was 28 when it happen. After years and years of to much cocaine and abuse. I I did 6 of my 7 years of probation. and ended up going to prison.
i have no regrets about not gong right away and having to piss in a fucken cup all the time. DONT MiSS That At All.
If i would of went right away i would not have had my youngest and that would be sad.
so i get to prison i am 33 i am pretty much get ripped from my 11 year old and my 3 year old. I had no idea i was going. I knew i was in trouble but had no idea that they were going to do that.
i get there and for the first time in my 33 years i am not being abused. ok lets make this clear. i was in foster homes, group home, and bounced a round a bit, but even in those places there was some kind of neglect more than abuse. The group home was the one place that i can not say there was much abuse just the shit i did to myself. wonder why i kept doing shit to get back in there.
So almost 33 of abuse i am finally not being abused. And again it was not physical but mentally. i was the physical one i always started it. I always throw the first and last punch. .
and for those that say they would of never a woman, i would turn you into a liar Because i didn't stop till you physically stopped me. and i have always been strong. . so hold me down was alot of work and i would just act like i was done and then the minute i knew i could get up on my feet i would cheap shot you.
i know i was a bitch. I was a very fucked up person. and then the guilt would come in and the whole reason we were fighting is gone because i got physical. Didnt matter that they were dick heads and were treating me like shit, didn't matter that i wasnt given a chance to be heard. All that matter was i fucked up and got physical.
This went on for a long time in my life. Sad but true.
i am finally done with the physical. One my body hurts to bad 2. its not worth it
nobody is worth me going to that place ever again. I would rather eat rats than be an abuser ever again. By the way i hate rats and am scared shitless of them.
Does trust start with self? I never thought of it like that....
I dont trust myself to make the good decisions all the time.
but i do trust myself to be a good person.
I trust myself to be real and care about others.
I dont trust myself to always show the care to the person.
i trust myself to make mistakes lol
When almost every person in your life has let you down, how does one get passed it?
How does one know when the people she brings in are not abusers?
i understand that not to trust people is not a life, but a prison and its not any kind of life. So i do trust, but only a little bit do give out.
To fully , completely trust that one person i dont know how to give that to anyone.
My dog but i even question that. lol
She loves people but yes i do trust her completely. She would die for me.
I want to, i want to trust someone completely. I just dont think it will happen in this life time.
Sad But True
So for anyone who is reading this and you have someone you completely trust, I hope this helps you to appreciated what you have because some of us don;t.
We all get complacent in our livers at one point or another. This doesnt make us bad people it makes us human.
Complacency does not equal shame.
Some times a simple blog can remind you of what you have and the true gift is really is to pull us out of being complacent.
That to me is a win win. I may never have the full trust and will go through my life with the longing and that is just the way it is. To know that i help others remember and appreciated what i may never have gives me joy.
I know i am not alone in this. There are others that have trust issues. For those all i can say is i get it. I get not trusting , i get scared to give my trust completely to any one person. I hope that you do find the one where you can give it and it is cherished.
I hope you do not go through life with the longing of wanting, needing to trust but just can't do it.
This is a battle i find i can not win but i am not going to completely lose. Its not in me to stand down.
So i keep plucking the fucken roots of this battle and hope i dont make to big of holes that i end up tripping over.
peace love and happiness
Sassy Sarah
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VALUABLE INFORMATION GUYS.....YOU DONT WANT TO MISS THIS
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Posted:Apr 28, 2019 5:12 pm
Last Updated:Dec 20, 2019 3:00 am 4436 Views
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i can not speak for all female on here but i can for a handful for of them. So if you are reading keep reading
This is information that is actually valuable. Yes i will have spelling mistake and i will have sentence that are incomplete have to many nouns and what ever else they made up for proper sentence structure. All that is the fucken window,
So get over it.....
AND PAY ATTENTION
STOP WITH THE PENIS AS YOUR PROFILE PICTURE. PUT YOUR PENIS PICTURES ON YOUR PAGE NOT YOUR PROFILE PICTURE,
LET SAY IT AGAIN
TAKE YOUR SO PROUD PENIS PICTURES AND PUT THEM ON YOUR PAGE. NOT AS YOUR PROFILE PICTURE.
I understand that your cock is the one play thing you got to keep from your childhood.
I was going to take the time to explain why to you but i have changed my mind. Time is a valuable thing .
If you want a reason why leave a comment and i will give plenty of reasons why.
Believe me - dont believe me does not matter to me. I just gave you valuable information that could improve your life here.
what you do with is up to you.
IF YOU HAVE A PENIS PICTURE AS YOUR PROFILE PICTURE I WILL NOT ACCEPT A FRIEND REQUEST FROM YOU.
STAY OFF MY PAGE WITH YOUR COCK HANGING IT IS GROSS AND I DONT WANT TO SEE IT.
SO I AM GOING TO SAY IT ONE MORE TIME. ATTENTION
YOUR COCK AS YOUR PROFILE PICTURE IS GROSS AND IMMATURE. PUT THE COCK PICTURES ON YOUR PAGE AND YOU WILL HAVE A LOT MORE SUCCESS AROUND HERE.
OR KEEP BEING A DIRT BAD.
HAVE A GOOD DAY HAVE A GOOD LIFE.
PEACE LOVE AND HAPPINESS
SS
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Oh shit the inlaws know
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Posted:Apr 16, 2017 8:34 pm
Last Updated:May 27, 2019 7:28 am 6817 Views
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So anyone who knows me knows i love cartoons. I see things in an animated wasy and so cartoons helps me to express myself....That and these are fun and I wanted to share them.
I have had these on my computer for awhile. I actually forgot about them because they were on the desk top that i don't use much. My husband brought it to his parents to be fixed cause i kept forgetting to do it and his dad is an IT guy. I am not but I do know a thing or two.
Well we went to Easter and later when wer were getting ready to leave his dad makes sure we take our tower with us. I remembered his dad gave me a strange kind of look, but at the time I didn't think anything about it..
Welll I got home and had to hook it up and put the anti virsue back on it. The first thing i see is our profile pictures. which is the first two cartoons I upload on here. Then onpond opening up I seen the array of cartoons that i had on my page and remembered my husband has them on his page also casue i put them there.....
So the upload of cartoon pictures I have uploaded on here are a portion of what i had on our computer....
So ya the inlaws seen them .
What they think I will never know. They are not the kind of people that talk about things, let alone anything of this nature.
What do you do???
Sassy
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how does one explain
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Posted:Apr 9, 2017 9:03 pm
Last Updated:May 27, 2019 7:32 am 5987 Views
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how does one explain this life style to someone who is not wired for it at all. Someone who sees it as abuse rather than disipline.
I am stuggling with this. i know i am hard wired for this and have known it since i was in grade school. Because of all the shit I had to deal with in my life up till now, i have not really had a chance to esplore it. Once i did explore it I was hooked.
Almost like a drug. Its intoxicating, addicting, its like i can't get enougjh of it. I have had my periods of drug use and this here is more addicting than any drug i have done or do.
Husband doesn't get it. I do not know how to explain it to him. He is trying to understand. I will give him that. He is a man of few words which in its self is a problelm that he can not get. Ugh....
Any advice on this would be really greatful.
Thank You
Ss 
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How to measure for a Cock Ring
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Posted:Apr 2, 2017 8:01 am
Last Updated:Feb 27, 2020 11:52 am 7141 Views
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Metal cock rings are made for intensity and powerful erections. They provide a tight grip that will enhance your performance and make for an unforgettable experience. The best of all? Your partner will enjoy it, too!
One of the most important things to keep in mind when using solid cock rings is that they are not flexible. This is one of the main reasons why they are so powerful and effective.
However, it also means that you need to know the exact size you need to order, or else it wouldn’t fit. In practice, it means knowing the girth of your erect penis (its exact diameter).
In order to enjoy your metal cock rings to the fullest, it is important to know your size. If you are unsure about the right size it’s best to measure yourself to find out which size fits you best. Do not order your cock rings without knowing your size. This is an imperative because it’s vital to ensure a good fit.
Measuring for a Cock Ring
One of the main things to keep in mind when choosing the right size for your cock ring is that it should be tight enough to provide a good grip for enhancing your erection, but also loose enough not to cause discomfort. The first thing you need to know is that the cock ring sizes represent diameters. Typically, cock ring sizes are given in millimeters, so you should ideally know your penis diameter in millimeters (or convert it from inches to millimeters). In order to know which size to order, you need to know the diameter of your penis. However, keep in mind that you need to order a cock ring with a diameter that is a bit smaller than your penis, since you want your cock ring to provide a tight grip. Never order a cock ring that is too small, though – the grip will be too tight and thus uncomfortable (and potentially dangerous).
To measure yourself, you need to be erect. Your flaccid size is smaller than your erect size so it’s not the appropriate one for ordering a cock ring. This is why it’s important to be fully erect when measuring.
When erect, take a measuring tape and wrap it around the base of your penis. The tape should sit around the bottom of your shaft, right where your penis meets the body. Record this measurement. For the best accuracy, it’s
advisable to record several measurements and take the average. If any measurement is off (too large or too small compared to the rest), make sure to disregard it.
The number you get with measurements is the circumference of your penis. Since cock ring sizes represent diameter, you will need to divide your circumference by 3.14. This will give you the diameter of your penis.
As mentioned above, many cock ring sizes are given in millimeters (mm) and not inches. If you take your measurements in inches, you will get a diameter in inches. To get your diameter in millimeters, multiply your result by 25.4. This will give you your diameter in millimeters.
Typically, it is best to order a cock ring of the nearest smaller size than your diameter. Never order a ring that has the exactly the same diameter as your penis. Similarly, you shouldn’t order rings with larger diameters. However, if your penis diameter is only a bit bigger than the first smaller cock ring diameter, the ring still might not be tight enough. Generally speaking, allow at least 5 to 6 mm (around a quarter of an inch) of difference. Your penis should be at least that bigger than the cock ring. However, this will depend on several factors (including your preference). Some men prefer cock rings that are 1 cm (around a half of an inch) smaller than the penis diameter.
That being said, you shouldn’t go much tighter than that. Penis rings that are smaller than that will probably be too tight. Chances are that you don’t want to get a cock ring that is more than 1cm smaller than your diameter.
If you wish to wear a cock and ball ring, you will need to take another measurement. This time, wrap the measuring tape behind your balls and all the way up around your penis. The goal is to fit both your testicles and penis inside the measuring tape. You need to be erect to do this, or else the measurement will be off. When taking this measurement, try to keep the measuring tape close to the body. Take several measurements to get your circumference. Again, you will need to divide his number by 3.14 to get your diameter. Just like with cock rings, it is best to order a cock and ball ring with a diameter a bit smaller than your own.
Similarly, to get a good glans ring size, (we sell glans rings in the kinky corner catalog) you will need to wrap the measuring tape just under the penis head. Make sure you are erect. Take several measurements to ensure accuracy. This will give you the circumference. Divide it by 3.14 to get your glans diameter. You will need to order a glans ring with a diameter a bit smaller than your own.
Wearing a Metal Cock Ring
Metal cock rings are surprisingly easy to wear, but you need to be careful when putting them on or taking them off. Keep in mind, however, that comfort doesn’t mean you can leave your cock ring on for too long. These sex toys are not suitable for a long-term wear. They are made to constrict the blood flow and make the erection more powerful, so it’s important to take them off after 20 to 30 minutes. It is also important to remove your cock ring immediately if you if you experience some sudden pain and major discomfort at any point.
With these warnings in mind, wearing a metal cock ring is actually pretty easy. If you have measured yourself, it becomes problem-free to ensure a good fit. It is best to put a cock ring on while penis is flaccid. It is very difficult to put on a solid cock ring while erect, so it should be done before erection. Since the penis is smaller when flaccid, you should not have any problems sliding the cock ring over your penis. Simply slide it over your glans and shaft, all the way to the base of your penis.
It may be difficult to judge whether the ring sits comfortably or not before you are erect. However, once you begin to get an erection it is easy to re-adjust the positioning of your cock ring or to push it a bit further down or up on the penis. If you have a trouble doing that, make sure to apply a bit of lube on the penis and around the edge of the cock ring.
Keep in mind that a metal cock ring should provide a tight grip – this is the only way to achieve those rock-hard erections you’ve been dreaming of. However, the grip should never be too tight to completely constrict the blood flow and cause pain. You should not feel discomfort while wearing your metal cock ring. The feeling may seem a bit “too much” in the beginning, especially if you’re used too softer, flexible rings, but it should not be painful or really uncomfortable.
In fact, pain, significant discomfort and other problems (discoloration, redness, and excessive tenderness) are a sign that you need a cock ring of a larger size. If this is the case, you need to measure yourself again to ensure a good fit.
If you wish to wear a cock and ball ring, it’s important to put the ring around your testicles first. In order not to hurt yourself, make sure to go one testicle at a time. Be gentle – testicles are very sensitive and you should not hurt them. The ball ring, when properly placed, should sit around the scrotum. After the testicles are inside of the ring, carefully place the ring around your penis. It is important to do this while flaccid or else it won’t work.
Depending on the design of the ring, it may be a single ring for both testicles and penis or different rings for penis and testicles (one for the penis and the other one for your balls). In any case, keep in mind to put the one around your testicles first. These double rings work wonders for your erection and provide a very good stimulation during use.
You may also wish to use a very sensual triple cock ring. This one has a large ring that goes around both penis and testicles, the medium one that goes around the balls and the smallest one that goes around the penis. It is best to put the largest one first. It’s easier to start with your balls and then place your penis inside (you need to be absolutely flaccid to do that). After this, place the middle ring around your testicles and the smallest one around your penis. Some people prefer to do it in a different order, which is fine – practice for a bit to find out which one works the best for you.
You may also wish to wear your triple cock ring in a different way: the largest ring around your penis and testicles, with the two smaller rings around your balls (one testicle inside each of the rings). This is an alternative way of wearing a triple cock ring.
Additional Tips
In order to make the ring slide smoothly, make sure to use a bit of lube. Lube is your best friend: it will help you ensure comfort and easiness of use. You might not even need to go overboard with lubrication: simply apply a bit of lube to the inside of the cock ring. Many times, this is enough. If it’s still difficult to put on, add a bit more, and make sure to also add some lube on your penis. This should make it easier to put the cock ring on. It will also help you to position the cock ring correctly and without discomfort.
Lube is your best friend when it comes to removing cock rings, too. This is particularly important if you need to remove the ring quickly because of an emergency. For this reason, make sure to always have the lube ready and near you. If it’s difficult to put a cock ring on, try to do it in the shower. The skin will be warmer and more relaxed. This can be particularly helpful if you wish to wear multiple (double and triple) cock rings, or a penis spine.
While cock rings can be worn on the other points (higher on the shaft or even around the glans), keep in mind that the size you measure is the one around the base of the penis. In other words, said size might not be a good fit if you
wish to wear the ring higher on the shaft or around the glans. Keep in mind, however, that there are special glans rings made to be worn around the glans, so you may order one of these if you want to wear your ring around the glans. If you wish to do so, don’t forget to measure around the penis head to ensure a good fit.
It is always best to try a new cock ring for a bit before you intend to use it for sexual activities. It will allow you to get used to the feeling and to learn the best placement that fits you perfectly. Therefore, it’s recommended to test it a bit when you are alone and to use it with a partner later.
Make sure to always remove your metal cock ring after 30 minutes (maximum). Ideally, you should not wear it more than 20 minutes at a time. Always allow your penis to rest before you put on a cock ring again. Learn all the warning signs that tell you there’s something wrong. The most common problem is that the ring is too tight. Warning signs include: major discomfort, pain, pronounced veins, tenderness, loss of sensation, narrowing of the shaft near the cock ring, change of color (especially if the surface of the penis becomes blue at places) or any other thing that may seem “off”. If you experience any of these sensations, remove your cock ring immediately. If the erection persists so it’s difficult to remove the ring, try using lube or ice to make the ring easier to remove. These warning signs should not be ignored! If the problem persists even hours after the removal of the cock ring, it is recommended to consult your doctor.
If you have any underlying medical condition, such as diabetes, you should not wear cock rings. If in doubt, consult your doctor. It is advisable to consult your doctor before deciding to try any new sex toy. Make sure that it is safe for you to use such a toy. This is recommended for everyone, particularly people
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SOMETHING I FOUND INTERESTING
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Posted:Feb 23, 2017 2:49 pm
Last Updated:Oct 4, 2019 5:11 pm 6835 Views
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SELF LOATHING
DADDY ISSUES
SEX ADDICTION
THESE ARE A FEW OF WHAT IGNORANT PEOPLE THINK WHEN THEY HERE BDSM
A STUDY DONE IN 2013 LEARNED THAT THOSE WHO PARTICIPATE IN A BDSM LIFESTYLE ARE MORE MENTALLY HEALTHY THAN THE AVERAGE PERSON.
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DOES ANY ONE KNOW WHO MARQUIS DE SADE IS?
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Posted:Feb 23, 2017 2:28 pm
Last Updated:Jul 29, 2022 10:39 pm 7018 Views
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Marquis De Sade was a French Novartis of the 18th century. He wrote JUSTINE in 1791. He gave his name to the sexual acts he was writing about. He is the S in BDSM
Leoplod von Sacher-Masoch was an Austrian writer from the 18th century. He wrote VENUS IN FURS 1870. He also gave his name to the sexual acts he was writing about.
He is the M in BDSM
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Let's Talk About Masterbation
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Posted:Feb 21, 2017 11:04 am
Last Updated:Feb 27, 2020 11:51 am 7641 Views
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How many of us have heard these Negative lines??
~Masturbation is dirty
~Masturbation is for woman who can’t get a man
~Masturbation will make you grow hair on your palms
~Masturbation will desensitize you
~Masturbation will make you a sex addict
~Masturbation is selfish
All of these are myths and in my opinion just plain silly!
The reality is there are a lot of people who are uncomfortable with masturbation.
According to plan parent hood
“negative feelings about masturbation can threaten our health and well being.
It’s time to change the masturbation conversation (say that 3 times and you can’t help but giggle)
Not only is masturbation total normal it is also healthy for your body, mind, soul, and your relationships.
The Real Truth About Masturbation
Masturbation is good for you. Men and women get a wide variety of health benefits from masturbating, including increased blood flow, improved sleep, and stronger pelvic floor muscles. Plus, women get a few added bonuses from self-pleasure: regular masturbation can help relieve menstrual cramps, and it can reduce the effects of vaginal atrophy during menopause.
Masturbation is good for your mental health. Want an endorphin rush like the ones your fitness-guru friend is always talking about? Don’t hit the gym—hit the sheets! Masturbation releases endorphin's (even if you don’t orgasm!) and is a serious stress reliever—it allows you to focus on something besides your stressors while activating the brain’s pleasure centers to help chase those cares away! Plus, women who masturbate regularly report higher self-esteem. Now that’s therapeutic!
Masturbation is good for your relationship. It turns out that loving yourself can help you love others! Women who masturbate are generally more orgasmic (which your partner will definitely enjoy) and better informed about what turns them on. Better yet, solo sex can actually prime you to have a higher sex drive! According to one study, married women who masturbate experience greater sexual desire and marital satisfaction. That’s right—rather than “spoiling” you for partnered sex, masturbation actually makes you a better (and friskier) lover.
Masturbation feels great! This one is pretty self-explanatory. Whether you’ve never had an orgasm or you’re experienced in the art of the big O, masturbation is a great way to feel oh-so-good.
OK, I’m Sold! Got Any Awesome Masturbation Tips?
So glad you asked! Here are some ideas for improving your solo style.
Try something new. Your sexual desire can grow and change at different points in your life, so it pays to switch up your routine every once in a while. Try running your hands everywhere to check for hot spots that excite you. Experiment with heat or cold to see if you like temperature play. If you haven’t already, try finding and playing with your G-spot. You might find a toe-curling new technique you hadn’t considered before!
Add a little fantasy. The next time you’re thinking of going solo, take a moment to let your mind wander. Imagine a fantasy scenario with the location, partner, and acts of your choice. Fantasy can make masturbation even hotter—or open up sexy new possibilities to try the next time you have a partner around.
Partner up. Seeing you pleasure yourself could be a real turn-on for your significant other, so don’t be surprised if your partner wants to lends a hand too! Mutual masturbation with a partner can be a great way to increase intimacy and show them what turns you on. (Always remember that it’s totally normal and healthy to masturbate entirely on your own, too!)
Use the right tools. You probably already know that a vibrator can offer a fun new dimension to solo sex. What you may not know is that a premium lubricant can be even more important to your self-love! Lubricants help reduce friction and increase comfort and pleasure, which is just as important during masturbation as partnered sex. So next time you get down with your bad self, do it with a lubricant! For an added bonus, try a enhancement cream for a tingling sensation that makes every touch more intense.
Above all else, have fun! There’s no right or wrong way to masturbate, so do whatever feels good to you. Enjoy your next solo session!
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All Woman Are Sexy
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Posted:Feb 21, 2017 10:03 am
Last Updated:Feb 27, 2020 11:51 am 7041 Views
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I think all women can be sexy. Sexy is something that comes from within.
If you feel sexy you are sexy. When you feel it and show it.
It does not matter your age, your weight or what your shoe size is. I have seen some heavy older lady’s with size 12 feet and they were sexy as hell.
We women all have a Goddess inside of us waiting to bring out the sexy in us. We just need to let her lose. Let her shine.
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