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Posted:Sep 8, 2008 8:58 pm
Last Updated:Apr 28, 2024 2:44 am 19856 Views
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This site has gotten tiresome so I'm outta here for now. If you want to see/talk with me look at Fetlife. I'll be lurking around there.
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A few thoughts I've recently read
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Posted:Apr 8, 2008 8:00 pm
Last Updated:Apr 28, 2024 2:44 am 19757 Views
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Trust
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Trust not that your partner will never make a mistake or never hurt you.
Trust instead in their commitment to you, that they will do their best
*not* to hurt you, and that if and when hurt occurs they will do their
best to help you heal.
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The "true" way
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It irks me when I see someone referring to themselves as a "true"
master or, talking about their way of doing things as being the "true"
way. Often if someone doesn't agree with them or live up (or down) to
their standards then they accuse them of not being serious or not being
"true" submissive's or "true" slaves or "true" BDSMer's.
There is *no* "true" way and there is no universal master; i.e. one size
*does not* fit all!
If there is indeed a true master it is the one who recognizes his
limitations and who strives to overcome them. It is the one who admits
that he errs and will recognize when a relationship is a "poor fit". It
is also the one who talks and shares with others--neither holding back
on sharing what he has learned nor denying that, at least in some areas,
there are others who know more than he and from whom he can learn.
A phrase that a submissive or slave--particularly one without much
experience--might hear from a false "true master" is, "don't tell anyone;
it's our secret". This always reminds me of pedophiles and other abusers
who try to hide what they know to be dishonorable. If you meet someone
who says this to you in regard to some activity he wishes to perform
with you, run--do not walk--in the general direction of as far away
as possible.
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Structure
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Submissive's and slaves respond best within a structured environment. This
has to do with knowing what is expected of them, what is going to happen
to them and what their dominant or master intends when they do or say
something.
Examples:
o - use the same implement when punishing a submissive or slave and never
use it for any other purpose (e.g.. for play),
o - use the same words each time you want the same action or behavior
from your submissive or slave. Variety is nice, but it can also confuse,
o - give the day-to-day life of your submissive or slave structure by
assigning them regular and demanding tasks, duties or responsibilities,
Within a regular structure a submissive or slave will learn to respond
automatically and with growing confidence and trust in their master.
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What's the point of ritual?
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Let's assume that there's a submissive who likes to please. What use is
it for the dominant to give them rituals?
o - Does it provide a range of actions and behavior in which the
submissive feels secure?
o - Does it provide the dominant with a framework for knowing when
to apply discipline?
o - Does it give the submissive an outlet for their desire to serve?
o - Does it serve as a reinforcement of the submissive's "place" (in
the order of things)?
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Pain
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Let me suggest that pain, in the BDSM context, has six uses:
1) To trigger an endorphin "rush",
2) For expiation of guilt,
3) For training or conditioning,
4) For discipline (i.e.. punishment),
5) As a tool to trigger submissive feelings or a submissive mind-state,
6) To please a sadist (by inflicting it), or a masochist (by receiving it).
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Blindfolds
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Blindfolds have a few uses:
1) They make the submissive feel more vulnerable because they can't
see what you're preparing to do to them,
2) They can help the submissive to relax and give up control because
they have to accept that they can't see what you're doing,
3) The remove distractions (e.g.. light),
4) Because the submissive is "detached" from reality, to some extent,
by the blindfold it's easier to build fantasies and fears about
what is happening and what is about to happen.
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Slaves
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Those who will not reason are bigots,
those who cannot are fools,
and those who dare not are slaves.
--George Gordon Noel Byron (1788-1824), [Lord Byron]
So, what's the difference, or differences, between what "we" call slaves
and what Lord Byron called slaves?
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Negotiation
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When preparing for any BDSM activities make up your mind about what
is acceptable to you *before* you start. Communicate this clearly to
your partner.
One of the problems that *does* occur, even just with vanilla sex, is that
once the hormones start flowing or your state of mind starts to change
as you get involved (think: sub-space), it can be very difficult--if
not impossible--to make rational decisions about acceptability.
Maybe you should make it part of the negotiation before you start that
what is agreed at that time is not subject to change during the scene.
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What Sort of Man
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Posted:Mar 18, 2008 7:59 pm
Last Updated:Sep 8, 2008 8:54 pm 21724 Views
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What Sort of Man
A Man who displays sensitivity
will be a Master who is sensitive to you
A Man who displays humility
will be a Master who will show you respect
A Man who is not afraid to cry
will be a Master who understands your tears
A Man who is quiet
will be a Master who will hear your quietest whisper
A Man who knows fear
will be a Master who will not leave you to face yours alone
A Man who will listen to a
will be a Master who will always work to understand your words
A Man who can stand-alone
will be a Master who will not crush you under His weight
A Man who controls Himself with ease
will be a Master with the ability to control you in the same way
A Man who does not have to prove His point
will be a Master with many worthwhile points to share
A Man who never makes demands
will be a Master who treasures anything you give
A Man who doesn't run after you
will be a Master you will never need to run away from
A Man who is calm
will be a Master who can weather your storms
A Man who has walked the path to peace
will be a Master able to guide you along that path
A Man who does not shout
will be a Master who will never deafen you
A Man who knows Himself
will be a Master who will have time to know you
A Man with an open mind
will be a Master who never stops learning
A Man who never stops learning
will be a Master who never stops growing
and ......
A Man who always seeks to be the best He can be for you is the only Man truly worthy of being called Master
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It's no wonder I'm going crazy
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Posted:Jan 30, 2008 10:53 pm
Last Updated:Feb 24, 2008 10:07 pm 19499 Views
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Label Instructions I've read recently:
On Sears hairdryer: Do not use while sleeping.
On a bag of Fritos: You could be a winner! No purchase necessary. Details inside.
On a bar of Dial soap: Directions: Use like regular soap.
On some Swann frozen dinners: Serving suggestion: Defrost.
On a hotel provided shower cap in a box: Fits one head.
On Tesco's Tiramisu dessert: (printed on bottom of the box) Do not turn upside down.
On Marks & Spencer Bread Pudding: Product will be hot after
heating.
On packaging for a Rowenta iron: Do not iron clothes on body.
On Boot's 's cough medicine:
Do not drive car or operate machinery.
On Nytol sleep aid: Warning: may cause drowsiness.
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Makes you stop and think......
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Posted:Jan 13, 2008 9:23 pm
Last Updated:Jun 12, 2008 6:17 pm 20531 Views
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What is a Cat? What is a Dog?
What is a Cat?
1. Cats do what they want.
2. They rarely listen to you.
3. They're totally unpredictable.
4. When you want to play, they want to be alone.
5. When you want to be alone, they want to play.
6. They expect you to cater to their every whim.
7. They're moody.
8. They leave hair everywhere.
CONCLUSION:
They're tiny women in little fur coats.
What is a Dog?
1. Dogs spend all day sprawled on the most comfortable piece of furniture in the house.
2. They can hear a package of food opening half a block away, but don't hear you when you're in the same room.
3. They can look dumb and lovable all at the same time.
4. They growl when they are not happy.
5. When you want to play, they want to play.
6. When you want to be alone, they want to play.
7. They leave their toys everywhere.
8. They do disgusting things with their mouths and then try to give you a kiss.
9. They go right for your crotch as soon as they meet you.
CONCLUSION:
They're tiny men in little fur coats.
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Proverbs –
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Posted:Jan 9, 2008 6:42 pm
Last Updated:Jun 12, 2008 6:18 pm 20495 Views
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OK So I decided to post a little humor today......
1.. Eat well, stay fit, die anyway.
2. Men are from earth. Women are from earth. Deal with it.
3. No husband has ever been shot while doing the dishes.
4. A balanced diet is a cookie in each hand.
5. Middle age is when broadness of the mind and narrowness of the waist change places.
6. Opportunities always look bigger going than coming.
7. Junk is something you've kept for years and throw away three weeks before you need it.
8. There is always one more imbecile than you counted on.
9. Experience is a wonderful thing. It enables you to recognize a mistake when you make it again.
10. By the time you can make ends meet, they move the ends.
11. Thou shalt not weigh more than thy refrigerator.
12. Someone who thinks logically provides a nice contrast to the real world.
13. Blessed are they who can laugh at themselves for they shall never run out of material.
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The complete list
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Posted:Dec 20, 2007 8:50 am
Last Updated:Jan 9, 2008 6:43 pm 20425 Views
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Things Learned The Hard Way
1. Never, under any circumstances, take a sleeping pill and a laxative on the same night.
2. If you had to identify, in one word, the reason why the human race has not achieved, and never will achieve, its full potential, that word would be meetings.
3. There is a very fine line between hobby and mental illness.
4. People who want to share their religious views with you almost never want you to share yours with them.
5. You should not confuse your career with your life.
6. Nobody cares if you can't dance well. Just get up and dance.
7. Never lick a steak knife.
8. The most destructive force in the universe is gossip.
9. You will never find anybody who can give you a clear and compelling reason why we observe daylight savings time.
10. You should never say anything to a woman that even remotely suggests that you think she's pregnant unless you can see an actual baby emerging from her at that moment.
11. There comes a time when you should stop expecting other people to make a big deal about your birthday. That time is age eleven.
12. The one thing that unites all human beings, regardless of age, gender, religion, economic status or ethnic background, is that, deep down inside, we ALL believe that we are above average drivers.
13. A person, who is nice to you, but rude to the waiter, is not a nice person. (This is very important. Pay attention. It never fails.)
14. Your friends love you anyway.
15. Never be afraid to try something new. Remember that a lone amateur built the Ark. A large group of professionals built the Titanic.
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Things Learned The Hard Way
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Posted:Dec 19, 2007 9:22 am
Last Updated:Dec 27, 2007 12:33 am 20441 Views
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Things Learned The Hard Way
1. Never, under any circumstances, take a sleeping pill and a laxative on the same night.
2. If you had to identify, in one word, the reason why the human race has not achieved, and never will achieve, its full potential, that word would be
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I own you
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Posted:Dec 6, 2007 9:53 pm
Last Updated:Dec 20, 2007 8:54 pm 19715 Views
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You'll want to scream, but you'll be gagged.
You'll want to cry, but you'll be blindfolded.
You'll want to run away, but you'll be tied up.
You'll have no way of begging me, I'll do what I want with you.
I own you.
I feel another great weekend coming on.
Thank you for the poem and your neverending devotion Miss_t.
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